Marriage, anyone?

[Yoda Rules!]

The key to happiness and any healthy relationship is honesty and trust. I think as long as you have a strong foundation with someone, anything is possible.

I believe that falling in love or marrying a TS woman is possible.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

Honestly? Ok, NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I think 99% of the non ass kissing guys on here agree with me.

Again, who would want to marry a senior that escorts?!? NO ONE! Get over yourself Gramps!

~HTG

[tgirlzoe]

100%. I want to get married, move out to the county and raise kids. Then again, I'm in a different part of the country than most of y'all and not in "the scene".

I kissed this guy I like two weeks ago, but then he said, "I don't know if I can marry you, I don't know what the Church would think of you." I said, "You mean, because I'm not Catholic?" "Well, that and the whole becoming a girl thing" "Oh, right, that."

I told him not to worry about that far in the future but he didn't know if he wanted a relationship that he didn't feel could lead to marriage. This is the second guy I've been involved with (though things are still trying to work out with this guy) who is marriage-focused like that. Both this guy and the other one had been engaged before and left by their fiancees.

With the exception of a couple FTMs, I always date guys who are entirely straight and who don't have a history of dating TS (not that I've met any who have) and sometimes don't know at the beginning (if I was post-op, I'd procrastinate more...).

I got engaged when I was 19 to an FTM boy but things didn't work out. We wanted very different things in life. That's definitely something you have to look at, not just whether you love this person and are attracted to them but whether you can actually build the life you both want together.

I know I'll meet the man of my dreams at some point and it will be wonderful. Too many people are cynical of marriage these days. It just takes a lot of work but I'm sure it's worth it.

[MacShreach]

Honestly, no. But that is because I have done it once (with a birth woman.) I would be very hard to persuade to do it again. Sorry, I never got that stuff about getting married over and over. I'm not religious and I really don't see the point in a civil union, unless there were specific advantages for either partner. Your word to each other should be enough, so I probably would not actually marry again.

At the same time, that line "I won't marry because there is so much divorce," is just a load of old balls, frankly. Might as well never drive because there are so many crashes. You have to do it once to know what it means.

If I was at liberty to and wanted to, I would have no difficulty in a permanent relationship with either a trans woman or a birth woman. I have to admit that I am incorrigibly shallow and could not enter into a relationship with someone whose physical beauty, style, poise and manner didn't knock me over, but as long as those elements are in place, then the rest is negotiable. I would probably be more inclined to be with a trans girl whose intention it was to go for GRS but if she wasn't it would not be a deal-breaker with the right girl, believe me.

I think there are issues with younger men that might make life very difficult in marriage with a trans woman, not least the fact that men (although they may deny it) are as big on having family as women (and for good reasons) which I think might be the kind of thing that leads to the "irrevocable breakdown" that divorce lawyers love so well. Throw in peer pressure and a whole bunch of other stuff and it gets tricky.

Most (certainly not all but most) of the successful marriages involving trans women that I have heard about-- and there are plenty--involve slightly older men who are more emotionally stable and who have already had families.

Finally remember that this forum is basically populated by gay or bi men (either in denial or otherwise) and a woman, be she trans or birth, will eventually have to ask if she wants to be married to a gay or bi man.

What most men here seem not to realise is that there is a significant population of trans women who do not escort, who do not visit sites like this, whose aim is to get GRS and then reappear as new women with no ties to the past and the male personas they once had to use.

The few post-op girls here are definitely under-appreciated, not just because of who they are but because most post-op women would run a mile, leaving the place short of the insight they give. Understand this--MOST (again, by no means all but most) trans women avoid men who are overtly interested in trans women like the plague.

Even if they do escort during their transition, most of those who have GRS simply fade from view and adopt new lives. About the last thing a girl like that wants to hear is "Hey, I remember you! Didn't you used to have an 8-inch dick?"

So in a weird way, being interested in marrying a trans woman is one of the biggest barriers to marrying a trans woman.....

[lilly_exohexoh]

i'm much more open to the idea of marriage now. it's definitely a nice option. i have a transgender friend who's getting married this year so i'm living semi-vicariously through her.

[MrsKellyPierce]

Gman I really hate the way the way you asked this question. Your total question revolves around the fact of what we have and dont have below our belts.

And secondly most transwomen and men can't get past bootycalls. Because A) the transsexual doesn't speak up and ask for her respect as a person. B) The man is discreet or a closet case and so worried about people finding out or ashamed! C) The transsexual can't give up escorting/porn D) The transsexual is so jaded by other men that she treats men like shit and the man in question doesn't want to take the time to know you and just see you as a fuck toy and move on. E) The man is so educated by porn of what a transwoman is thats all he sees! F) It takes a rare man to date you much less marry you and take up the burdon of being discriminated against. E) To get a guy first to actually see you as a person, you gotta stop sleeping with them the first hour you meet them! Good lord lol




Good day sir.

[Moon]

Myself and my past TS partner planned to marry, unfortunately we lived too ar apart and things never worked out. we had known each other for many years. I can honestly say she was more of a woman than many women I have known.

[ed_jaxon]

Kelly come chat for a second in the old Gorilla room.

[Jolt711ml]

Well legally its impossible, personally its between you and that person.

[MacShreach]

Well legally its impossible,

No, that's not correct. It depends where you are. Same sex unions, whether officially called marriages or something else, have legal status in many jurisdictions.