I can imagine why the guy went ballistic; although his actions were unacceptable. Talk about being deceived. I like ts girls but if 15 years ago a girl I was dating told me she had reassignment surgery I can only imagine how angry I would feel...probably the same as if your wife told you that she was having an affair or that the kids aren't yours. It is about trust. It is one thing not to go around announcing it to the world, but you do have to tell your boyfriend something like that.. otherwise how can you possibly hope to have a lasting relationship. The smuck must have felt betrayed and utterly humiliated to find out like that. Wouldn't it have been much better for her to tell him before they had sex?