COULD YOU HANDLE A REAL RELATIONSHIP WITH A TS???????

[MADEA]

FROM WHAT I READ ON HERE MOST OF YOU CANT. YOU JUST WANT FREE SEX AND CANT TAKE THE OTHER 90 PERCENT. COULD YOU HONESTYL DEAL WITH MEETING HER FAMILY? OR WALKING IN THE STREET AND HAVING SOMEONE SPOOK HER, WHAT WOULD YOU DO? WOULD YOU TRY AND HAVE SEX WITH HER GIRL FRIENDS BECAUSE THEY LOOK BETTER OR BECAUSE THEY HAVE BIGGER COCKS? WOULD YOU LET HER ESCORT OR WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO GIVE HER MONEY NOT TO ESCORT? COULD YOU HANDLE KNOWING ANYBODY WITH $200 COULD FUCK YOUR GIRL? WHAT ABOUT GOING ON A PORN SITE AND SEEING HER SUCK DICK? COULD YOU HANDLE IT?
NYICE INBOXED ME AND TOLD ME TO STOP DOING SHOWS SO IM TRYING!!!

[suckseed]

Madea, I think that's a fair question. I thought about it for real a couple of weeks ago when I was talking to a ts in Portland, Or I called up from craigslist. I was just asking her some questions and when she had answered them we just chatted a while. Sh'e 23 and said she's pretty much given up on finding anyone who will stick around. I felt sorry for her and in fact had never really thought about how hard it must be for a ts, much less a ts hooker. Wasn't that a show with William Shatner? Anyway...yeah. You girls should probably think about the ramifications of that when deciding to be more than just gay boys. But you know what? No one's got it easy.

I spent last year getting over a breakup with one of the coolest women I've ever met, much less loved. I've had one night of sex - ONE - since her, and it was an emotionally empty experience. And as horny as I may seem here at times, holding someone I really care about is so much more important to me. To feel like I'm at home when I'm with her.

Maybe it would be easiest for you girls to date another TS. Because looking for love from the average guy here who just wants to squeeze the weasel to his fantasy of a pornstar and leave is just silly.

Of course, there's always the red-hot personals forum here.

[suckseed]

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[hwbs]

have had a few long relationships with ts.....i dont have problems with what u asked, cause its a fair question...but me personally i have no hangups...ive met girls families , been in the streets tons of times while the girls been spooked...it just comes with the territory...it isnt always easy (the day to day crap), but i have no regrets...

[Felicia Katt]

Anyway...yeah. You girls should probably think about the ramifications of that when deciding to be more than just gay boys. But you know what? No one's got it easy.

Being a TS is not a matter of choice, nor is it just a variation of drag.

http://www.looking-glass.greenend.org.uk/primer.htm

You should probably educate yourself about the ramifications of your posts. Because you know what? misstatements like yours don't make it any easier.

Felicia

[Vicki Richter]

I've found that a large chunk of men who date TS in LTR's have been mortally wounded by a woman cheating on them or fucking up their lives in some other way.

[LG]

Vicki said:

I've found that a large chunk of men who date TS in LTR's have been mortally wounded by a woman cheating on them or fucking up their lives in some other way.

Not sure where you're coming from, Vicki. This sounds like a huge generalisation to make and doesn't seem to make sense to me. Why not accept that, in the same way that you are wired to feel like women
and want to become women, we (trannylovers) are wired to admire and appreciate people like you. And even though it may start off as a sexual obsession, it honestly does grow into something deeper than that.

I don't understand the TG psyche, if there is such a thing, nor have I ever claimed to. Nor can I speak for all the guys here. But I just don't see how a disappointment with a woman might cause someone to fancy transgendered girls.

Felicia Katt said:

suckseed wrote:

Anyway...yeah. You girls should probably think about the ramifications of that when deciding to be more than just gay boys. But you know what? No one's got it easy.

Being a TS is not a matter of choice, nor is it just a variation of drag.

I'm sure suckseed was writing at least partly in jest, at least I hope he was. I'm sure there is a huge difference between the two, and I would be willing to listen to someone explaining it more thoroughly. I think I have a rough idea, though. I've had online chats and exchanged emails with both a handful of tgirls and a few drag queens and I must say they seem totally different. Drag queens seem to get a huge kick out of becoming women, but never do it 24/7. Many are gay or bi, in my experience but I've chatted with some that only like women- although they may appreciate the attention men may give them when they're dolled up- but most of them seem happy remaining as men and have no interest in ops or hormones. They live two lives and seem perfectly happy. Not so with t-girls.

So to answer the original question- could I have a real relationship with a ts? Well, I think so, and though I've never had the chance to, I would love to try and find out. I would have no problem meeting her friends (yes, even if they looked better or had bigger cocks- I wouldn't cheat on a GG gf and I wouldn't cheat on a TG gf) or meeting her family. Her meeting my family would be more tricky. Would I tell them she was TG, even if she was unspookable? I'm not sure.

Would I mind her being an escort or a model? Yeah. But then again I wouldn't want my GG girlfriend doing the same. If I had enough money to support her, and enough clout to help her find a decent paying job, those questions go straight out the window. Tgirls are not whores by definition, MADEA.

You're making all tgirls sound like cheap tramps and all of us guys sound like sex-obsessed size queens. We're not like that. Well maybe you are, but I'm not.

There are too many labels. There is too much prejudice. Things certainly are not easy for transgendered people. But they're not easy for their admirers either.

To all the girls out there:

You have my utmost admiration for trying to be who you want to be in life. Most people settle for an unhappy existence in the comfort zone. You do not. Instead you have the courage to be the person you feel that you should have always been.

So please excuse us all. Sometimes we seem a shall shallow, a little sex-obsessed (can't help it- many of you are so gorgeous, and hey, we're fascinated by the possibilites, real or imagined), but sex is an important part of life and the spark in so many relationships. So yeah, we want to have sex with you (well, I know I do). But it doesn't mean we don't want to talk, to kiss, to love you, to be with you, to buy you things.

Maybe we're just not as brave as all of you.

Increase the peace.

[suckseed]

True enough, Vicki. So I've got that going for me. Which is nice.

Felicia, you're probably right too. No offense meant.

I guess the part that holds up is, nobody said this was going to be easy.

And I always try to think about people that have it really rough. Like the tsunami event.

Here's a question for you girls. How long has your longest relationship lasted?

Me - 6 years. 'Course I'm 31. Older than you all probably. My last was 2 years.

[suckseed]

Kind of you to say so LG, but no, to be honest, I was writing through fatigue and being a little pissed, and out of ignorance. I probably pissed off every girl in here. It's like thinking you're not prejudiced and then finding a part of the way you think is.
I'm probably in the category of trans-curious (my experiences are limited), could be friends with anybody potentially, but primarily attacted to gg's. So I won't be getting any Christmas cards from any of you girls.
Was my good-for-you-vicki-you-don't escort remark elsewhere a slam on those that do? Hmm. I guess by definition the opposite of a compliment is an insult. But let's get real here. It's better not to pay for sex. Feel sorry for those that don't know love. And escorts? Do you do it for the money? Then by extension you'd not do it if you didn't need or want the cash. If a girl here doesn't escort, then I think she's showing how it can be done.
Unless she's a trust fund kid. In which case...congratulations I guess. Hope you help others too. But, hey, this is none of my business, really.
I admit I don't know how you think. (Hell, I don't know how gg's think.) I've never had a single conversation with a transexual that wasn't sexually oriented. Except here of course. So girls. Help us guys that are trying to understand you out. I'm not here trying to get into your pants. (Not anymore! ) Why not write a little manifesto?

[suckseed]

http://www.tsgirlfriend.com/

Felicia, I'll start reading now. actually tomorrow, it's late. 5 til 3am. jesus
two more weeks and i'll have a life.