T-girlfriend?

[justatransgirl]

Oh lighten up. A little tease about being "supertranny" and you respond this this sort of shrill, hypersensitive, almost paranoid vitriol.

Ah phobun... you caught me in a hypersensitive paranoid moment after I'd just finished schooling that first guy. I'm sorry, you're OK, apology accepted. Now back to the entertainment at hand.

I think maybe we all need to consider that every person and situation and relationship is different. Some people meet and fall in love, and some are rich are some aren't, but hopefully they are all happy. Others find or prefer their love by the hour for as many reason as there are people. Neither is necessarily better or worse than the other. It's just how it is so I guess we all (including me) just need to accept that everyone is different, and that's OK.

Hugs,
TS Jamie

[igotmacedbymimi:(]

Its funny how u guys have tg girlfriends yet still cruise this forum...... ?

I suspect my girl fantasizes about other guys, but she doesn't act on it. Same for me with other Tgirls.

Look but don't touch...

ok tru, but ur not only cruising porn, you're also interracting with some of the same girls u watch in film... If u caught ur girlfriend talking to.. John Holmes (god rest his soul) would u not feel betrayed? Offended? Hurt? distrusting?

No, not really. If my girl was talking to him i wouldnt care less.

The reason for that is because he was ugly and my gf wouldnt fancy him.

I dont care if he has some 12 inch dick. You seem to think that most real girls are cocksluts, this is not the case. Most real girls want a man who is good looking, funny, with a decent sized cock, who loves them. Someone they can have prospects with.

Most real girls do not fancy male porn stars, there are far better looking guys out there with much much more going for them than a pornstar.

This is what you have to understand. Now add in that a pornstar might be a frigging sex worker as well, how many educated girls from good backgrounds who's families have money and they have decent jobs would want to date a male escort who is also on camera fucking lots of women (or men)?

Be serious. Live in the real world.

If you said brad pitt who is a v good looking guy, an a list hollywood star, multimillionaire and probably has a regular sized dick, except he doesnt escort and he doesnt do porn, he just sells hollywood mega busters and gets paid 10-20 million dollars per movie. Then you might have had a point.

Conversely do you think that someone as succesful as brad pitt (lets take out the whole movie star part, because that is unrealistic) but lets say that you have the oppurtunity to go out with a guy you really really fancy. He treats you with lots of respect (he doesnt know you are a prostitute at this stage), he takes you on a few dates and doesnt try sexual advances because he has more respect for you than that. Respectful guys will not try to have sex with a date after the first or second date, they are dating because they respect women (or ts women as the case might be) and dating for a reason, to find someone they like and want to be in a relationship with.

Yet on the date (that he booked and paid for in a nice restaraunt) you say you need to go to the toilet, so he says 'oh hun, whilst you're up, can you get 2 drinks in please, i'll have a bud please, thanks hun, see you soon).

Yet you are appauled and shocked, you feel it is terrible behaviour, how dare he ask you to spend 12 dollars on a drink (when he is buying you dinner, paying for taxi and bar entrance, bowling, cinema etc), how dare he! How dare he ask you to buy the next round of drinks!!!

So are you saying that this would make you feel very upset?

He asked if you would buy the next round of drinks?

Some of the advice given to you on here is truly laughable.

One person in particular who is what, in her 50's, a sex worker, has a transexual gf. To that person, would you charge your transexual girlfriend money to take you on a date, or does she charge you?

The bottom line is that young ts girls (either sex workers or not) are attracted to men, they are not attracted to other trans or women (or maybe 10-20%, but they want a boyfriend). What boyfriend in their right mind would simply expect to put up with a greedy and selfish ts girl, when he has the goods to simply find another one or a real girl who will be kind and friendly and not see a relationship as some sort of money agreement.

This is what prostitution does. You have been tarnished now. You seem to think a relationship is an exchange between sex and money. It doesnt work like that in the real world. A proper relationship is about love, not about money. A relationship that works is one about companionship and about mutual love for each other.

It is because you love each other that you have sex, to make love, to feel something special, to have the connection with the person you love, with the guy you fancy and who makes you go weak at the knees. Its not about money, its not about 'oooh, does he have 9 inch dick or is it 11 inches?' It is about who you feel special with, if you fancy him, if he turns you on and you feel good together.

Otherwise you can expect never ever to get married and definately never to meet anyone who loves you for you and not for something between your legs because he sees you as a freak or something, his little pet freak that he will pay for sex in return to keep you quiet whilst he goes and marries a rich regular girl and has a family with her, is that what you want?

Love is not about money. Find a guy that you fancy (if he fancies you), go on a few dates with him, see how things go. If he treats you well, forget about who pays what or when, he will probably pay at least his half anyway, then if you feel the spark and the romance is there, that you get good vibes and slowly you can trust him, you know he is your man.

There are good men out there.

But expect your relationship to end as soon as he finds out you are a prostitute, thats for sure in 90% of cases.

[evalala]

Great discussion everyone thank you. I did not write that piece I had to use it. One of my best friends wrote that a long time ago to me when I was doubting myself in a previous relationship. My best friend just knew all the right things to say, she is absolutely the most amazing human being. Everyone can be an amazing human being in their own right. This best friend of mine was exceptional. Truly when she loves she gives everything with no reconsideration of her actions because her intentions remains the best for the relationship. She just always wanted me to work hard to maintain the relationship with my ex but I was the only one putting in all the effort and ended up being dumped for it. I'm not bitter and mate I'm not vengeful. I continue to smile because my best friend is looking out for me, reminding me that I have a large heart capable of loving someone completely.

[evalala]

Some of you made comments a lot about "if you got a gf already and you are still surfin on these sex sites", so on and so forth. You all know how I feel about that from my previous posts, I'm also psychotic about how I feel about that, how dirty it is even though its just look but don't touch (look don't act on the fantasies) etc. I just think why not go all the way, if you can fantasize what is stopping someone from going all the way. My (anonymous) best mate she (woops) best friend, pardon my English! She always reminded me to understand that that is simply everyone's fantasy (to explore and to be curious).

The most important thing to remember is that we all do it and its totally natural to be curious and to explore. Stressing the point (IF YOU ARE SINGLE). When you are involved, slowly ween yourself away from those past and teenager habits. That is all you have to do.

What is that saying? (What goes around comes around). No one can get away with anything anymore on line mate! Everyone can see or find out exactly what all you been up to, its easy mate I'm telling you the truth! Your GF or BF most likely knows about all of your activities online which you once thought were so secretive and wow I'm getting away with this yes! TSK TSK TSK no you are not mate.

Bottom line my best mate (best friend) reminded me of was (what you have is so special and so worth preserving, it is once in a life time in some cases, you only have this chance to love, to be so loved and you wanna blow it?)

Stay true to each other and be totally honest with yourselves. Get it all out of your system before you claim to be someone else's MR RIGHT or MRS RIGHT. Do your homework and finish your chores. Or remain single and enjoy all of this and more, it is your god-given-right mate. You ultimately make that decision NO ONE CAN make it for you.

Be faithful and honest in a monogamous-committed, long-term relationship or be single. You don't have to chose. Just be yourself. Seeking porn just simply suggests you have fantasies in your head either you are embarrassed to share, can't let go of, can't grow up out of, or worst of all can't be satisfied by your partner.

Is she worth it, is he worth it? So many GFs leave their BFs because BF still SEEKS out (this is the key topic people is SEEKS OUT) porn. No one just surfs porn, there are specific things, well, porn is specific no matter what it is still is porn.

Okay, if no one can trust each other and no one can be trusted. Just stay single and seeking. Or join a porn commune? Do those exist? Sorry mate thats another topic.

Thank you all of you mate.

[alyssats]

Its my dream to have a bf also even a husband
But it seems so hard

Where could i find all the serious guys out there?

It is going to be hard enough for you because you're a transsexual, and a lot of guys ultimately want a wife to bear a child. A post-op living stealth, or near-stealth, would have an easier time, but there is still the kid issue.

Even if kids are not an issue with the guy, they might be for his family, and on top of that, most guys would not want to bring a prostitute home and introduce her to mom.

But most important of all, no guy with any self-respect is going to marry a prostitute. That is why the whole Pretty Woman fairytale is sheer fantasy.

If you're a transsexual prostitute whining about a lack of serious guys interested in marriage, then you need to get serious.

thanks for the input

by the way off course im looking for a guy who likes a relationship with TS and not with GG, some guys are like that

and also i think "work" is not an issue if love is what we are talking about.
most of my friend who got married to their bf are the prostitute ones.
one of my TS friend works as showgirl/prostitute in a bar in Japan and met a guy there. they got married now she lives in USA with the guy.
my other TS friend met this guy while working as a prostitute and now they got married and happily lives in Germany. if you really love the person and serious why not?

ive tried dating for long term relationship with guys before when i was still very much a virgin jeje and work in the corporate world but most of the guys who said they are into LTR are so much bullshit. I just lost so much time,effort and money to them. they just want to have free sex claiming they marry after. so much bullocks jeje

[alyssats]

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Multiposts aside this must be the most intelligent thread here by a lightyear or so. Thanks for the insight, all.

[SarahG]

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[SarahG]

I could care less if I was with a guy in a LTR who posted or lurked here frequently.

What it boils down to, is trust. If you can't trust the guy enough to deal with him talking to other girls (gg's or ts) then the relationship is pretty much doomed to not work from the start. Our culture isn't all that sex segregated, so any guy (single or not) is going to have to deal with interacting with people of the opposite sex be it the cop who pulls him over, or the cute girl working a cash register at the grocery store.

What separates a guy that has LTR potential from someone who doesn't cut it- is the guy with LTR potential would be able to have that small talk "hi, how are you doing? Sorry to hear that/that's good, I'll see you next week when I come back in this store" with someone they find attractive without trying to go have a secretive affair with her.

I'll give an inverted scenario; everyone knows about those possessive guys who forbid their GF's/wives from talking to any other males (including former friends, neighbors, strangers in public, etc.) and we all know how stupid, abusive, and frowned upon that out of control possessive behavior can get. This girl (gg) I know had a husband who would beat the shit out of her if she said as much as "hello" back to a male cash register, because the guy was so paranoid that she'd fuck anyone who so much as said hi to her in public. An extreme example, with an excessively harsh reaction- but the logic is essentially the same.

People are going to have colleagues, coworkers, classmates, and friends of the opposite sex- that's unavoidable. Sometimes they'll even be (gasp!) single & attractive, but if your S.O. can't be trusted to deal with that- then it probably shouldn't be a LTR in the first place.