Why so shallow?

[GrimFusion]

Feel free to call me Captain Obvious, but I've noticed that outside of escorting, many of the women around here are SUPER FUCKING PICKY about the kind of guys they date, make friends with, invite to parties... hell, even talk to.

Why is that? I don't want to make it sound like I'm spouting off in representation of all the ugly ducks around here, but hanging around HA for the past couple of years, I've come to realize most of the male members are actually pretty damn cool personality-wise.

Tell me if I'm wrong, though. I mean, when it comes to matters as simple as a dude asking for an AIM or as complex as a guy asking to hang out platonically, are looks that big a deal? Do you screen your friends for attractiveness? Sense of style? Severity of body odor? lol.

[ARMANIXXX]

Can you give an example of what you're talking about?

[ironx]

Feel free to call me Captain Obvious, but I've noticed that outside of escorting, many of the women around here are SUPER FUCKING PICKY about the kind of guys they date, make friends with, invite to parties... hell, even talk to.

Why is that? I don't want to make it sound like I'm spouting off in representation of all the ugly ducks around here, but hanging around HA for the past couple of years, I've come to realize most of the male members are actually pretty damn cool personality-wise.

Tell me if I'm wrong, though. I mean, when it comes to matters as simple as a dude asking for an AIM or as complex as a guy asking to hang out platonically, are looks that big a deal? Do you screen your friends for attractiveness? Sense of style? Severity of body odor? lol.

I think I understand what you mean, allthough I do not posses any of the negative features you just listed... :P :P

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

Feel free to call me Captain Obvious, but I've noticed that outside of escorting, many of the women around here are SUPER FUCKING PICKY about the kind of guys they date, make friends with, invite to parties... hell, even talk to.

Why is that? I don't want to make it sound like I'm spouting off in representation of all the ugly ducks around here, but hanging around HA for the past couple of years, I've come to realize most of the male members are actually pretty damn cool personality-wise.

Tell me if I'm wrong, though. I mean, when it comes to matters as simple as a dude asking for an AIM or as complex as a guy asking to hang out platonically, are looks that big a deal? Do you screen your friends for attractiveness? Sense of style? Severity of body odor? lol.

Because beggars cant be choosers. LOL ESCORTING is a "business" and the girls need to make their coins to pay their monthly bills..i.e. rent, electricity, phone and internet access, groceries, clothes, make up, nail salon, shoes, hair care etc. Therefore, being picky while working won't generate any girl the "quota" they need for the day/week or month!

Meanwhile, at their leisure time they can be picky with whom to see, date, have coffee with, make friends etc. WHY is this you ask? I'm guessing a lot of girls just want to call the shots (when off work) and have a great time. A great time with CLIENTS rarely ever happens. We all know the types of horrendous men ESCORTS have to deal with on an hourly basis..Old men, sweaty cocks and balls, B.O., smelly feet, communicable skin diseases, halitosis, ultra hairy men, men with bad attitudes, guy's who's MO is to "haggle" the girls from what was agreed upon originally, men trying to swing a free bee by saying they forgot their wallet or ask if they would take a check (that has a negative balance or was closed out previously), and or credit card that's already maxed out to begin with etc. etc. LOL If they don't screen or pick which guy to have good times with (for NSA fun) while off the clock then why even have an off time if they would have to deal with the same types of men? Does that make sense?

~Kisses.

HTG

[justatransgirl]

Well, considering a lot of young women, trans or not are rather self centered and picky about who they hang out with or let slide between their legs are you really surprised?

When you were in high school did the cool chicks let you hang out with them? So why should the teenage and 20 something trans porn stars here on HA?

So how do you get cool t-girls to hang out with you? Well you've got to be cool too. That means being NICE! Supportive, understanding, affectionate, financially solvent, friendly, loving and a friend. (It doesn't mean allowing yourself to be taken advantage of by a gold digger.)

And really - very few guys and t-girls form LTR relationships or friendships from internet contacts. Expecting such just isn't reality I'm sorry to say.

Now as for myself, my only standard is the gold standard, bring me enough gold and I don't care what you look (or smell) like...

Giggle,
TS Jamie

[GrimFusion]

Modification in progess - wait a minute to respond...

Well, considering a lot of young women, trans or not are rather self centered and pick about who they hang out with or let slide between their legs are you really surprised?

When you were in high school did the cool chicks let you hang out with them? So why should the teenage and 20 something trans porn stars here on HA?

Now as for myself, my only standard is the gold standard, bring me enough gold and I don't care what you look like... unless you smell...

Giggle,
TS Jamie

You act like I was a social misfit back in high school. I was one of the stoners, but I was one of the few people who broke out of the cliques and passed from group to group freely. I don't think my situation applies well to this topic, but I can still see where you're going with this.

I don't necessarily mean JUST the working gurls either. I know I typed "outside of escorting", but I didn't mean during off-hours. I meant ladies that just aren't into that.

I agree that none of this has anything to do with TGs and TGs alone. A lot of GGs are the same way. I just see it a bit more with TGs.

Personally, I think it has to do with fashion and the lengths a lady has to go to achieve femininity. I can understand that transitioning takes a lot of money, patience, and will power and coming out of something like that and looking back, I'm sure most couldn't help but think "I put a lot of effort into myself, so I deserve some eye candy".

Where does that leave the honest joe-shmoe who doesn't fit into the "tranny chaser" mold, isn't all about sexual attraction, is just looking to make friends or strike up a relationship, but isn't naturally blessed with the features of Brad Pitt? There are all these women out there looking for "Mr. Right" and ending up with modelesque male-pigs. I just can't help but think that this is the kind of situation which lead to Camilla Castro's death.

[GrimFusion]

Feel free to call me Captain Obvious, but I've noticed that outside of escorting, many of the women around here are SUPER FUCKING PICKY about the kind of guys they date, make friends with, invite to parties... hell, even talk to.

Why is that? I don't want to make it sound like I'm spouting off in representation of all the ugly ducks around here, but hanging around HA for the past couple of years, I've come to realize most of the male members are actually pretty damn cool personality-wise.

Tell me if I'm wrong, though. I mean, when it comes to matters as simple as a dude asking for an AIM or as complex as a guy asking to hang out platonically, are looks that big a deal? Do you screen your friends for attractiveness? Sense of style? Severity of body odor? lol.

Because beggars cant be choosers. LOL ESCORTING is a "business" and the girls need to make their coins to pay their monthly bills..i.e. rent, electricity, phone and internet access, groceries, clothes, make up, nail salon, shoes, hair care etc. Therefore, being picky while working won't generate any girl the "quota" they need for the day/week or month!

Meanwhile, at their leisure time they can be picky with whom to see, date, have coffee with, make friends etc. WHY is this you ask? I'm guessing a lot of girls just want to call the shots (when off work) and have a great time. A great time with CLIENTS rarely ever happens. We all know the types of horrendous men ESCORTS have to deal with on an hourly basis..Old men, sweaty cocks and balls, B.O., smelly feet, communicable skin diseases, halitosis, ultra hairy men, men with bad attitudes, guy's who's MO is to "haggle" the girls from what was agreed upon originally, men trying to swing a free bee by saying they forgot their wallet or ask if they would take a check (that has a negative balance or was closed out previously), and or credit card that's already maxed out to begin with etc. etc. LOL If they don't screen or pick which guy to have good times with (for NSA fun) while off the clock then why even have an off time if they would have to deal with the same types of men? Does that make sense?

~Kisses.

HTG

Yeah, it makes sense. I just have problems understanding what determines a guy attractive enough to be easy to deal with. I mean, you make it sound like the only assholes in the world are all ugly as hell. Why have sex or sexual attraction be a quotient at all when a chick selects guys worth talking to, hanging out with, or befriending? As far as logic is concerned, I'd think they'd do just the opposite, since attractive men are usually far more high maintenance and high drama than average dudes. You'd think that going to a club with an average dude on your arm would just make you look better. I mean, am I totally off the right track here?

[Bluejay]

You not getting a hot Hunangel has something to do with Camilia d'Castro's death?!

Please explain?

[justatransgirl]

Sweetie - can you READ the first line in my post you quoted below?

Now please go back and read my complete post...

Giggle,
TS Jamie

PS - Not picking on you personally honey, just posting while DUI... besides shouldn't you be kissing ass to Kelly right now about her pictures... LOL

PS - I'd do you.

Modification in progess - wait a minute to respond...

Well, considering a lot of young women, trans or not are rather self centered and pick about who they hang out with or let slide between their legs are you really surprised?

When you were in high school did the cool chicks let you hang out with them? So why should the teenage and 20 something trans porn stars here on HA?

Now as for myself, my only standard is the gold standard, bring me enough gold and I don't care what you look like... unless you smell...

Giggle,
TS Jamie

You act like I was a social misfit back in high school. I was one of the stoners, but I was one of the few people who broke out of the cliques and passed from group to group freely. I don't think my situation applies well to this topic, but I can still see where you're going with this.

I don't necessarily mean JUST the working gurls either. I know I typed "outside of escorting", but I didn't mean during off-hours. I meant ladies that just aren't into that.

I agree that none of this has anything to do with TGs and TGs alone. A lot of GGs are the same way. I just see it a bit more with TGs.

Personally, I think it has to do with fashion and the lengths a lady has to go to achieve femininity. I can understand that transitioning takes a lot of money, patience, and will power and coming out of something like that and looking back, I'm sure most couldn't help but think "I put a lot of effort into myself, so I deserve some eye candy".

Where does that leave the honest joe-shmoe who doesn't fit into the "tranny chaser" mold, isn't all about sexual attraction, is just looking to make friends or strike up a relationship, but isn't naturally blessed with the features of Brad Pitt? There are all these women out there looking for "Mr. Right" and ending up with modelesque male-pigs. I just can't help but think that this is the kind of situation which lead to Camilla Castro's death.

[justatransgirl]

You act like I was a social misfit back in high school. I was one of the stoners, but I was one of the few people who broke out of the cliques and passed from group to group freely. I don't think my situation applies well to this topic, but I can still see where you're going with this.

I don't necessarily mean JUST the working gurls either. I know I typed "outside of escorting", but I didn't mean during off-hours. I meant ladies that just aren't into that.

I agree that none of this has anything to do with TGs and TGs alone. A lot of GGs are the same way. I just see it a bit more with TGs.

Personally, I think it has to do with fashion and the lengths a lady has to go to achieve femininity. I can understand that transitioning takes a lot of money, patience, and will power and coming out of something like that and looking back, I'm sure most couldn't help but think "I put a lot of effort into myself, so I deserve some eye candy".

Where does that leave the honest joe-shmoe who doesn't fit into the "tranny chaser" mold, isn't all about sexual attraction, is just looking to make friends or strike up a relationship, but isn't naturally blessed with the features of Brad Pitt? There are all these women out there looking for "Mr. Right" and ending up with modelesque male-pigs. I just can't help but think that this is the kind of situation which lead to Camilla Castro's death.

Oh and while I'm here...

You are absolutely right honey. T-girls are narcissict bitches who are in love with themselves and your money...

And sadly the honest Joe often doesn't get a chance. How is his blue collar job going to compare with her six figure income? And if you are talking non escort, non-porn star "real" TS - who doesn't look like a truck driver - the pickings are slim.

So you either lower your standards and find a nice girl who will love you even if you aren't Brad Pitt. Or you move to Hollywood, get a house in Malibu and a porsche and plastic surgery until you DO look like Brad and find a shallow gold digging bitch - like most hollywood sorts end up with...

Giggle,
TS Jamie

Please excuse me while I mix another drink... or slit my wrists...