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11-23-2007 #11
Maybe she's really turned on by the idea of playing with you and another couple, and she's secretly hoping to fulfill this fantasy. It's a perfectly normal fantasy that millions of people have, and its also perfectly normal to not be interested.
So sit down and have a conversation with her. Tell her that the idea makes you feel uncomfortable and explain your reasons why without attacking her. Honesty and respect are always the best policy in situations like these, everything else only creates worlds of trouble.
my two cents, as someone that is often trying to rope my lover into group sex.
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11-23-2007 #12Originally Posted by tsmandy
Mandy, I thought about what you said, and that could very well be the case. Our sex life recently has really gone down hill. I don't want to get too far into explaining, but she's been trying to "renew" things for a while, despite that being a bit of an impossibility due to "female complications" (she can't orgasm). I really feel sorry for her, and while I know the only kind of excitement and release she gets is from high-profile sex acts, if she wants to remain with me, she's going to either have to give that up or find something that's a bit more one-on-one and personal.
If I didn't love her so damn much, I'd probably jump at the chance of a threesome or ménage à trois, but I think love is a thing best kept between two people. Guess I'm just boring and old-fashioned. lol.
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11-23-2007 #13Originally Posted by GrimFusion
My advice, write dan savage.[/b]
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11-23-2007 #14
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Tell her what your view is... If she pulls the card.. I'd say.. time to look for a new family in law.. simple
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11-23-2007 #15
Listen, Grim, you need to express that regardless of his intentions, you feel this would potentially have a negative impact on the growth of your relationship, at this point. Suggest the two of you consider visiting them at a later date (avoiding the "Fousome" issue), when things are more 'at ease'. Just try to put it off, for now. Don't get into the "I'm not gonna consider it, and I'm not flexible on the issue" thing right now.
That being said, if she continues to push the issue, you have to ask yourself, how solid the relationship really is. It's not a one way street, each of you must consider the other's feelings.
Good Luck!