The True Life Costs of Being TS

[Devon]

Everyone on this board likes to check out the ladyboy, the brazilians, or whoever, ....but do any of you truly understand what a tgirl sacrifices personally when she comes out and begins her transition? Losing a spouse, possbly a child, as well many other family members.....
Its not just the phony made up pictorial scenes you guys so covet; There is much more to the stories behind these girls and the lifes they have led.

Personally. I have lost a marriage, a few family members and quite a few "friends". Just coming out and starting this transition has cost me quite a lot and made me second-guess myself many times (If i am doing the right thing for myself and for my little girl whom i love so much.)

The pain i feel right now in the worst I have ever felt. I feel like I am someone that my whole family has to get together with a counselor just to be able to deal with ther feelings about it. I mean, i'm glad they are doing that, but it just seems that suddenly after "dropping the bomb" on em all....they all talk AROUND me and not to me. So who knows. Even though they say they support me and all, its like i'm the last one they wan to talk to about it these days......


I have never felt so alone in my whole life......

I guess my point is; enjoy the porn and all, but just don't forget the sacrifices many of these girls have made.

[thx1138]

As they say: "No pain - no gain." Perhaps you could have eased your family into acceptance by only crossdressing for a few years. For example I don't mind my wife wearing my T shirts. she loves their bagginess and feels a sense of power while wearing them. Being a kind sensitive husband I merely smile and indulge her fantasies.

[SexyMagdi]

As they say: "No pain - no gain." Perhaps you could have eased your family into acceptance by only crossdressing for a few years. For example I don't mind my wife wearing my T shirts. she loves their bagginess and feels a sense of power while wearing them. Being a kind sensitive husband I merely smile and indulge her fantasies.

Um wearing your shirt and doing that is not crossdressing millions of women do that. If she dresses completely in your clothes and pretends to be a man then shes a crossdresser.

[yodajazz]

I hear you. There are many people here who apreciate, the sacrifice our girls (women), have gone through. Others have asked what is our attraction if it is just not about cock. Your post is the other side. You are a courageous person who has risked all to achieve an inner peace. Life's struggles can be difficult for many of us. I wish you the best. Just remember that you have a larger family, that is a community that is on your side.

I personally believe that transexuals are on earth to help teach acceptance. Humans are a lot more than chromosones and other physical characteristics.

[SexyMagdi]

Everyone on this board likes to check out the ladyboy, the brazilians, or whoever, ....but do any of you truly understand what a tgirl sacrifices personally when she comes out and begins her transition? Losing a spouse, possbly a child, as well many other family members.....
Its not just the phony made up pictorial scenes you guys so covet; There is much more to the stories behind these girls and the lifes they have led.

Personally. I have lost a marriage, a few family members and quite a few "friends". Just comiing out and starting this transition has cost quite a lot and made me second-guess myself many times (If i am doing the right thing for my self and for my little girl whom i love soo ssooo soo much.)

The pain i feel irght now in the worst I have ever felt. I feel like I am someone that my whoe family has to get together with counselor just to be able to deal with ther feelings about it. I mean , i'm glad they are doing that, but it just seems that sudden't after "dropping the bomb" on em all....they all talk AROUND me and shit. So who knows. even though they support me and all, its like i'm the last one they wan to talk to about it these days......


I have never felt so alone in my whole life......

I guess my point is; enjoy the porn and all, but just don't forget the sacrifices many of these girls have made to bring you that jerk material.:Even when you see it for free on HA, A price has been surely paid by the girls on this board. -end rant

Oh sweety I feel your pain I went through many of the pains you suffered. Except loosing a daughter I dont have kids yet. But Im still a crossdresser but I go out sometime dressed and even to family functions dressed up. My entire family knows Im a crossdresser and one day wish to become a TS. But I took it in steps I told my aunt whos the only smart one in my family. She was skeptical about it but soon grew to it and completely understood, and our relationship became much stronger. Later I revealed it slowly to my parents then family. Of course many of my family members dont like my change, and many of them dont even talk to me. And if they do they tell me "Fuck off you gender cofused fuck" it hurts evertime I hear it. And Ive caught my family even parents talking behind my back about my decision. I lost very good friends bacause many where homofobic. And Im not gay. But they never bothered to understand or hear me out. So remember when you feel these pains your not the only one whos suffering.

[justatransgirl]

self-delete for revision after posting in wee hours

Hugs,
TS Jamie

[elvis_p]

If you come to know any transgendered person, OF COURSE you will come to understand (and quickly) the enormous challenges and heartbreak they endure.
Nothing at all about transitioning is for the faint of heart. I'm not transitioning, though I've lost friends too because of my preference.

In my experience, the sad fact is that some people, be they friends and/or family, are left behind. After two years of transitioning including hormones and dealing with work, an ex-girlfriend of mine completely abandoned her transition because of how her two sons felt, remaining issues at work, clashes with her family...

Hopefully you have a support network beyond your family (even one online) that you can turn to and lean on. That your family is attending counseling regarding your situation is encouraging - sounds like they are making an effort versus shutting you out completely as others suffer through.

Listen to 'justatransgirl': you are not alone, and support can be found be it here or URNA or the tgboards to name a few.

[Devon]

Thanks for all the kinds words guys, I really do appreciate the support

[yodajazz]

Thanks for all the kinds words guys, I really do appreciate the support

After reading your post, I gave it some thought. This is an option to think about. But I know everyone is different. Here it is. If your family’s blessings are so important to you, I read some cases where people who want to transition agree to compromise. That would be to spend part time as a male, for example week days. They then allow the person to freedom to be their feminine side the other time. This is only a temporary solution, but it does allow time for others to adjust, and for the transitioner to get more real life experience in their role.

This may not be for you, but I have read others who went this route through transition.

[BrendaQG]

I'm not going to tell you my life story I already wrote it . The almost unique part of my life story is how much trouble being interested in science has caused me. Even some people who were accepting of kids like me found it disconcerting that such a person would be interested in that topic. That bias effects me to this day. I even tried to conform for a while, now I say fuck em.

People who would not stick by you as you go through this aren't real friends. Just loose thier numbers and forget em.