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Thread: The True Life Costs of Being TS
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11-01-2007 #1
The True Life Costs of Being TS
Everyone on this board likes to check out the ladyboy, the brazilians, or whoever, ....but do any of you truly understand what a tgirl sacrifices personally when she comes out and begins her transition? Losing a spouse, possbly a child, as well many other family members.....
Its not just the phony made up pictorial scenes you guys so covet; There is much more to the stories behind these girls and the lifes they have led.
Personally. I have lost a marriage, a few family members and quite a few "friends". Just coming out and starting this transition has cost me quite a lot and made me second-guess myself many times (If i am doing the right thing for myself and for my little girl whom i love so much.)
The pain i feel right now in the worst I have ever felt. I feel like I am someone that my whole family has to get together with a counselor just to be able to deal with ther feelings about it. I mean, i'm glad they are doing that, but it just seems that suddenly after "dropping the bomb" on em all....they all talk AROUND me and not to me. So who knows. Even though they say they support me and all, its like i'm the last one they wan to talk to about it these days......
I have never felt so alone in my whole life......
I guess my point is; enjoy the porn and all, but just don't forget the sacrifices many of these girls have made.
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11-01-2007 #2
As they say: "No pain - no gain." Perhaps you could have eased your family into acceptance by only crossdressing for a few years. For example I don't mind my wife wearing my T shirts. she loves their bagginess and feels a sense of power while wearing them. Being a kind sensitive husband I merely smile and indulge her fantasies.
If I got a dime every time I read an ad with purloined photos I could retire right now. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6QjS0AbRpAo Andenzi, izimvo zakho ziyaba.
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11-01-2007 #3
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Originally Posted by thx1138
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11-01-2007 #4
I hear you. There are many people here who apreciate, the sacrifice our girls (women), have gone through. Others have asked what is our attraction if it is just not about cock. Your post is the other side. You are a courageous person who has risked all to achieve an inner peace. Life's struggles can be difficult for many of us. I wish you the best. Just remember that you have a larger family, that is a community that is on your side.
I personally believe that transexuals are on earth to help teach acceptance. Humans are a lot more than chromosones and other physical characteristics.
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11-01-2007 #5
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Re: The True Life Costs of Being TS
Originally Posted by Devon
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11-02-2007 #6
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self-delete for revision after posting in wee hours
Hugs,
TS Jamie
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11-02-2007 #7
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If you come to know any transgendered person, OF COURSE you will come to understand (and quickly) the enormous challenges and heartbreak they endure.
Nothing at all about transitioning is for the faint of heart. I'm not transitioning, though I've lost friends too because of my preference.
In my experience, the sad fact is that some people, be they friends and/or family, are left behind. After two years of transitioning including hormones and dealing with work, an ex-girlfriend of mine completely abandoned her transition because of how her two sons felt, remaining issues at work, clashes with her family...
Hopefully you have a support network beyond your family (even one online) that you can turn to and lean on. That your family is attending counseling regarding your situation is encouraging - sounds like they are making an effort versus shutting you out completely as others suffer through.
Listen to 'justatransgirl': you are not alone, and support can be found be it here or URNA or the tgboards to name a few.
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11-02-2007 #8
Thanks for all the kinds words guys, I really do appreciate the support
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11-03-2007 #9Originally Posted by Devon
This may not be for you, but I have read others who went this route through transition.
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11-03-2007 #10
I'm not going to tell you my life story I already wrote it . The almost unique part of my life story is how much trouble being interested in science has caused me. Even some people who were accepting of kids like me found it disconcerting that such a person would be interested in that topic. That bias effects me to this day. I even tried to conform for a while, now I say fuck em.
People who would not stick by you as you go through this aren't real friends. Just loose thier numbers and forget em.