Falling in love with Escort

[LBCDO]

I dont know about a lot of the suggestions a lot fo these other people have, but I will give you my technique if a bitch is gold digging. Ive pulled girls that I paid before and I had the same doubts.

Invite the girl to get something to eat. Do it in a way that doesnt make you seem thirsty. Then just analyze her from the conversation. If you get a convo going, thats a plus. Now after the food is gone, if you keep talking and talking or you get invited in to watch some TV or something, then you're in there. Now if you invite her to get something to eat and you end up being forced to buy something to go and she leaves right after, she doesnt have any real interst in you, jsut your money.

Now some girls are slick, but just look at the situation from the outside in. Its simple to tell guenuine interst.

PS - when i say get somethign to eat, i dont mean like a $100/plate meal. Something simple. Then you look like someone desperate

[stewmeat]

I need some advice,I have seen a Ts escort who I can not stop thinking about,she was so nice,caring and my time with her was a true girlfriend experience.
I had to pay £250 but thought it would be a one off and I would not see her again,however I can not stop thinking about her and am to see her again.
There is no way I can afford to keep this up.I am in a real dilema and do not know where to turn.I think I have fallen for her but am of course sure she was only doing her job when spending time with me.

You are probably just lonely or coming out of a previour relationship. From what you describe, it is lust.

Been there and done that. After my divorce from a gg, I got a vicious fucking from a shemale who I thought looked like my ex.

Since I was practically a virgin to the shemale experience, "she popped my cherry" and I was in love. I was the complete love lusting bitch that is always hanging on the guys balls...Until I saw her with another dude a few days later. I decided to date other shemales to get over my hurt.

I only lost a few hundred dollars, but they were well spent, no complaint there.

I say date other equally beautiful shemales and you will wake up and want all of them, not just one.

You will become a Dogg!

[whatsupwithat]

sounds like you were searching for something, that you were vulnerable, and that you allowed yourself to believe. while its cool that sexual sparks may fly during an encounter, you have to realize they are just that...sexual sparks.

follow luna and mandy's advice.

and chin up...it happens to the best of us.

[TJ347]

You know, I will never understand how some people, despite claiming to want someone who will love them for who they are, fail to see that their own emotional unavailability is to blame for the fact they feel alone in this life. This is something I've especially noticed with many escorts.

A seemingly normal girl suddenly claims, despite originally holding an entirely different position on the matter, that she doesn't believe in love, and subsequently undergoes a personality change whereby she becomes the opposite of who she previously was, and considers this progress. She separates herself emotionally from her job as an escort, or so she thinks, failing to realize that a disgust for men grows ever larger in the recesses of her mind with every client she sees, and will negatively impact her ability to have a stable, loving relationship with any man, ever. At long last, her career as an escort ends, and lo and behold... her experiences have left her mistrustful, bitter and lonely, and despite now wishing she could find love, her psychological scars make doing so impossible, because she can no longer open herself up to receive it.

I'm not going to reference any specific person. I just wanted to say that if you don't believe in love, or that you can be loved, what joy do you get from living your life? This may seem off topic to some, but I know there are a few people who will understand exactly what I'm talking about, and why. LGHY

[TJ347]

Move along and forget about her. You'll be better off for it whether she's interested in you or not.

-Quinn

Hadn't seen this earlier. So very, very true. Kudos again, Quinn.

[TJ347]

Yeah, I'm a little late getting back to this one... Sue me.

Anyway, I get what you're saying Nicole. It's just that I've found that escorting produces some extremely jaded women beyond all hope of having a meaningful relationship later.

I've seen people change 180 degrees, becoming people I don't even know anymore, and people they ultimately don't know anymore either. It hasn't ended well in the cases I've seen... Drugs and suicide, if you must know. Surely that isn't the way it goes for all, but I'd be willing to bet for some of the younger ones who get caught up and turned out...

I may have loved them at one point, but once they get to whoring, they're gone for good as far as I'm concerned. I just don't have the emotional capacity to keep going through that repeatedly. Good luck to them though.

-edit-

Just wanted to add that a girl I'd met in Newark, NJ a while back who escorted and wound up on dope committed suicide a few weeks back I found out earlier today. She was 28 years old, too. That's two out of five escorts I've personally befriended who are now dead, the other two on dope and so slowly dying. The other is MIA. Somebody needs to warn people that just because some people do something doesn't mean it's for everybody.

[MacShreach]

God I'm LOL at this one. Not in a cruel way.

I don't believe there's ANY man-- well that has a soul anyway-- that uses escorts that has NOT fallen in love with one. I do it all the time, and then I look at myself, kick my arse and move on. DJAsia, cool for you to be the first that was man enough to admit it.

The trick-- as was explained to me by a very wise lady many tears ago-- is to split yourself up into several characters. Then you can have a character who's in love with this girl, and a character who isn't ruining his life and being a laughing-stock. Sorry to be blunt.

Some of the girls I know are genuinely sweet, lovely people, and in another life, yes, maybe. But what you have is a professional relationship. Part of what a good courtesan does is make a man feel passionately, totally loved. But it's part of the act, never forget that. For her you're repeat business (and at those prices, bloody good business.)

And I would not want to seem harsh but your chances, not that they really exist anyway, with a TS, will also be affected by what you did together. IE if she "topped" you, forget it.

Women are so much better at this shit than men. Learn from the girls.

[MacShreach]

I like keeping my life compartmentalized.

Damn that's the second time I've agreed with you this week. What's going on?

[PapiBear]

LBCDO is spot on. Right now you're in love with a fantasy. That's fun, but it doesn't last.

So, write this on your forehead: YSSUW. Now look in the mirror and give yourself a good slap.

Now, if you can go see her without being desperate, or trying to buy her affection, maybe you can have some real fun. But the moment she smells the wussy in you, you're meat.