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Thread: Chaser to "trans-ally"
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09-16-2007 #21
@ Sara G.
As to nonops... we as a community have trouble coming to common opinions as to what constitutes a transsexual, let alone something like "what does being fully transitioned truly mean?" For better or for worse, this board's mentality that "merely getting srs" isn't completely transitioning seems to be a bit... uncommon.
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09-16-2007 #22
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Re: Chaser to "trans-ally"
Originally Posted by SarahG
the gay marriage issue. While that is indeed an important issue for our
allies in the gay community and may have ramifications for us in the
transcommunity, the real issue is gender parity for transwomen.
As a post op woman I am not complacent nor content that I have a
modicum of rights that are comparable to those of the natal females.
For me is is of the utmost urgency that the non / pre op have those
same rights also.
Also as a practical consideration your point about accomadations being
made for a third gender is something that we are seeing come up time
and time again. What is the equitable solution for the gender variant on
matters of identification, restrooms, etc. Admittedly there are no easy
answers, but we as a society can not adopt a head in the sand approach
and hope that the problem will go away.
The genie is out of the bottle and this issue must be dealt with
pragmatically and compassionately.
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09-16-2007 #23
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I thinks its awesome you posted this. Each of us is a part of the "community" in one way or another. But the difference to me between a chaser and someone who is an ally is whether they take or contribute. Whether contributing on a large scale or on a small scale like being there for a single trans friend, if each of us men stepped up in some way the community would benefit. And, in the end, society would benefit. No one said it is or will be easy, but there are many trans people who have had the courage to clear a path, now its our turn to keep it from growing over, to widen it, so that others can find their way. I've said it before, we're all in this together. So, the question is, are you going to continue to take from or are you going to contribute to the community?
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09-16-2007 #24
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Great topic you've started here, man.
I admit that in my earlier days when I realized I was attracted to transsexuals (that would be in my late teens) it was just about the sex and nothing more. Yet, after I came here and actually talked to some of the girls and matured in my own right more, I found myself more sympathetic to their cause. So much, in fact, that I want to be a part of it. I suppose that you could say that I'm already a part of it now by being here and a part of the "community", but I want to do more that just that.
What I plan to do once I get out of law school is to be a Public Defender for awhile. Once I've gotten the experience that I need, I plan to become a transsexual advocate lawyer in the state of Illinois (or maybe somewhere else, if I'm needed) and help these women be recognized in their own right. So yeah. I suppose that you could say that as you stay in the "community" more, you become more sympathetic to them and become less of a "chaser" and more of an "ally".
While if I could go back in time and change things, God knows I would, I also realize that such a thing is impossible. So I just have to move on with my life and make sure that I come out the other side a better person. That’s all there is too it.
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09-17-2007 #25
having many friendships and girlfriends over the years, it would be hard for me not to care about the ongoing situations and issues in a transgendered society...i just have an honest interest of the comings and goings in the community ...not pretending so a girl would want to date me or anything like that..doing that is very very low in my opinion...if i was just in it for the sex i would have no problem stating so.
u will be fucking fat bitches in no time
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09-17-2007 #26
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Originally Posted by whatsupwithat
opposite gender. And for all the talk of trannny chaser and the like, we
do know who's down with us. You don't survive in the life without being
able to read people.
No, not that type of read.
But seriously, whether you do it on small scale, large scale, micro or
macro, locally or internationally, please do something.
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12-29-2007 #27
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12-29-2007 #28
why do I have to feel guilty about wanting to fuck 80% of the tgirls I know and meet? My sex urge doesn't make me any less aware of the issues of job discrimination, family allienation and transitioning. Would I be helping the cause of transgenderism if I stopped going to the parties and deleted all my escort phone numbers?
I like what dc guy is saying. Chasing tgirl ass and caring about this community are not mutually exclusive. And I think we all know the small number of girls on this board who have disdain for all us guys, and it's really sad. cause deep down, it's themselves who they really hate.
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12-29-2007 #29
[quote="flabbybody"]why do I have to feel guilty about wanting to fuck 80% of the tgirls I know and meet? My sex urge doesn't make me any less aware of the issues of job discrimination, family allienation and transitioning.
Great quote. I for one feel the same way.
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12-29-2007 #30
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Re: Chaser to "trans-ally"
Originally Posted by dc_guy_75