Can a man love a girl who escorts? Can a girl believe him?

[whatsupwithat]

GUYS:

Honestly, can a man truly love a girl who escorts and be okay with her escorting? And do you honestly believe that it's a true love, a genuine love?

Yes. Or no. And say a few words why.



GIRLS WHO ESCORT:

Do you honestly believe a man that tells you he loves you...then says he has no problem with you escorting?

Yes. Or no. And say a few words why.

[mbf]

been there done that. there was another htread with a similar topic but i cant remember the exct title.

yes, i think an escort-gf can truly love her bf. why the hck not? they want to be loved and respected like almost anybody elsewalking htis earth.

but no guy who was in a situation like that can tell me he doesnt care that shes an escort.

[LTR_Seeker]

i couldnt be in that relationship it would bug me that she be with other guys not jealous just that she can do better.

[whatsupwithat]

been there done that. there was another htread with a similar topic but i cant remember the exct title.

yes, i think an escort-gf can truly love her bf. why the hck not? they want to be loved and respected like almost anybody elsewalking htis earth.

but no guy who was in a situation like that can tell me he doesnt care that shes an escort.

I wasn't suggesting that the girls can't be loved and respected. That's not the point. No. I'm seriously asking if a guy truly loves a girl, would he be okay with her escorting? Thatnk you for your answer.

[mbf]

I wasn't suggesting that the girls can't be loved and respected. That's not the point. No. I'm seriously asking if a guy truly loves a girl, would he be okay with her escorting? Thatnk you for your answer.

i dont know what others think, i couldnt cope with it and we split. i dont want to elaborate that any further. JUST: if you love your girl you will not be emotionally untouched by the situation.

[whatsupwithat]

I wasn't suggesting that the girls can't be loved and respected. That's not the point. No. I'm seriously asking if a guy truly loves a girl, would he be okay with her escorting? Thatnk you for your answer.

i dont know what others think, i couldnt cope with it and we split. i dont want to elaborate that any further. JUST: if you love your girl you will not be emotionally untouched by the situation.

I 100% agree with you.

[rick_932]

yes, its possible for a man to love a girl who's an escort, but i would say that those guys are in the minority. i dont think many guys, including myself, could do it

[Ecstatic]

Between you and I and the gatepost, I think you know where I stand on the question, whatsupwithat. The short answer is a qualified yes: if a guy loves a woman, then he will love her regardless of her occupation. But it can be extremely difficult, and if she loves him, I think that (after whatever length of time it takes) she will leave escorting behind.

Speaking for myself, the sex would not bother me (else damn me for a hypocrite), but the risks (STDs, possible assault, financial) would (and do: as you know, I'm not in love with an escort, but there are a couple who I love dearly as friends and I hate to think of anything bad happening to them as a result of their escorting; it is that much harder for someone in love with an escort).

Still, sometimes a woman has to do certain things, for a time, to reach her goals, and escorting may be the path for a while. Then, if the love is true and mutual, I think there's a period of mutual support and acceptance, but that that period will be eclipsed and replaced when the two have been together long enough to know that it is real and therefore time to let the escorting go.

There's no easy formula or answer, since each circumstance is unique, but I think it's inevitable, if qualified by the fact that a woman will not want to become dependent on a single guy and therefore must have an alternative career to move into to maintain her own independence and security, and some serious life adjustments to make (income level, work demands, lifestyle changes, etc.).

Love and time and commitment. For a time, the guy must be accepting while she adjusts, but likewise she must accept his needs and let the occupation go, or lose him. But he should not let go too soon or easily, as it takes time.

I also think that for some, it could work out that she continues to escort and he accepts this as her work and, so long as she is careful and plays safe, doesn't let it bother him. But such people are very rare or only fooling themselves. But like I say, for me it's not the sex that would be an issue, it's the health risks that concern me.

[TomSelis]

I couldn't do it.

The first transexual woman I was with was doing the school thing. I moved in with her and we lived together. After finding a job didn't pan out, she started dabbling. First with the escorting, then with drugs (the drugs might've come first). When I found out I almost immediately left.

There was a high degree of mistrust there. It takes a special man to deal with that.

[whatsupwithat]

Between you and I and the gatepost, I think you know where I stand on the question, whatsupwithat. The short answer is a qualified yes: if a guy loves a woman, then he will love her regardless of her occupation. But it can be extremely difficult, and if she loves him, I think that (after whatever length of time it takes) she will leave escorting behind.

Speaking for myself, the sex would not bother me (else damn me for a hypocrite), but the risks (STDs, possible assault, financial) would (and do: as you know, I'm not in love with an escort, but there are a couple who I love dearly as friends and I hate to think of anything bad happening to them as a result of their escorting; it is that much harder for someone in love with an escort).

Still, sometimes a woman has to do certain things, for a time, to reach her goals, and escorting may be the path for a while. Then, if the love is true and mutual, I think there's a period of mutual support and acceptance, but that that period will be eclipsed and replaced when the two have been together long enough to know that it is real and therefore time to let the escorting go.

There's no easy formula or answer, since each circumstance is unique, but I think it's inevitable, if qualified by the fact that a woman will not want to become dependent on a single guy and therefore must have an alternative career to move into to maintain her own independence and security, and some serious life adjustments to make (income level, work demands, lifestyle changes, etc.).

Love and time and commitment. For a time, the guy must be accepting while she adjusts, but likewise she must accept his needs and let the occupation go, or lose him. But he should not let go too soon or easily, as it takes time.

I also think that for some, it could work out that she continues to escort and he accepts this as her work and, so long as she is careful and plays safe, doesn't let it bother him. But such people are very rare or only fooling themselves. But like I say, for me it's not the sex that would be an issue, it's the health risks that concern me.

Thanks for your words, Ecstatic. I agree with all of your points, especially time and commitment and acceptance. Perhaps I'm putting the cart before the horse, so to say.