Dilemma

[Elpachio]

Ive been dating a girl for quite a while now and I love her to bits, she's everything Ive ever dreamt of in a partner, a potential wife and someone I have a family with and share my life with.
When we started dating I thought I'd be able to just lose my interest in transsexuals. I thought I could just stop looking.

But I can't. I never cancelled my membership to wildshemale.com and I still find myself closing my room door and looking at pictures of sexy transsexuals and wanting to be with one again like I have in the past.

Should I force myself to stop looking or do you think it's okay to keep looking eventhough Im really happy with my beautiful lady?

[mambo]

I'm probably the wrong guy to respond, because I'm not the most "faithful" of boyfriends to my wonderful girl--but I would say just "looking" at the menu won't hurt.

Eventually (and this is a big "if"), if you and your girl get there--you might even be able to share your fantasy with her. (This has a huge chance of blowing up in your face, though--it's not for everybody.)

My girl and I watch movies together and even roll-play. The thought of me being with a girl with a cock actually turns my girl on. She uses toys with/on me, and says one day she wants to set up my first "encounter" with a TS and be a part of it. (little does she know I'm in Brazil doing that 3 times a year!)

[Elpachio]

Thanks Mambo, that makes a lot of sense. Your girlfriend sounds like a sweetie.

Im very open to the fact that people have different sexual needs and desires and maybe my girlfriend has some she'll share with me one day. I cant switch off the way I feel about transsexuals and to be honest it has no bearing on the way I feel about Vicky. I hope we can share it together one day.

[mambo]

I don't think many people can "switch it off either." I've tried. Sometimes the intensity of the feelings can go up and down though...

When I was in Brazil last week, after about my 3rd girl, in a 24 hour period, I swore I really thought I was "satisfied," and all that great sex would "hold me over" for awhile. But as soon as I got back home, I'm ready for another one, feelings even stronger. What gives!!!???

I just wish that it was easier to find "non-working" girls, because this is an expensive hobby to have, ya know? It would be nice to be able to hook up with some hot TS girls and not have to do it at $300 a pop. I don't live in L.A. anymore, and the city I live in has next to no TS girls, even escort-wise.

[Ecstatic]

Mambo, I basically agree with you, but a word of caution...if your girl doesn't know you're into TS girls, and you actually go to Brazil three times a year to be with many of them, then she might not be so happy when she finds out--not that you like TS, but that you haven't been open with her yet. Of course, I don't know how long you've been with your girl or how committed the relationship is, so maybe this is a moot point, but withholding that info can backfire. Why don't you invite her to Brazil with you next time?

[mambo]

Great idea...and I've thought about it...but I'm just not ready to make that jump. I like the idea somewhat, but I'm sure she'd probably be a little jealous that my attentions were so focused elsewhere, ya know?

I know it sounds easy, but when I'm in Brasil, it's like I'm leading the other part of my double life--not sure she's ready for that, or would dig it.

It's funny--she does know I'm into TS girls--just doesn't know I "act" on it. When I got back for Brazil, she insisted on "inspecting" my ass for evidence. How f*cking funny is that???

[Desperado]

Sorry ecstatic....that is a very bad idea!!

[Ecstatic]

Great idea...and I've thought about it...but I'm just not ready to make that jump. I like the idea somewhat, but I'm sure she'd probably be a little jealous that my attentions were so focused elsewhere, ya know?

Yeah, that makes sense. It all depends on your relationship. My wife is very glad that I've shared my involvement with from the beginning (OK, I saw my first tgirl and then told her about it instead of the other way around), but she has -500% interest in going there herself. Well, not entirely; she'd love to meet one of my regular girls just socially, as a person, but sex is of no interest to her.

It's funny--she does know I'm into TS girls--just doesn't know I "act" on it. When I got back for Brazil, she insisted on "inspecting" my ass for evidence. How f*cking funny is that???

How do you do that? I remember something about a "three-finger rule" to inspect a vagina to see if it's still virgin (and that's hookum anyway). Unless your girl's a proctologist....

Desperado, my post was directed to mambo, who responded quite well ("Great idea...not ready to make that jump"), not to anyone else. Why did you respond? Which idea is "very bad": inviting his girl to Brazil, or telling her he's been with tgirls already? What's your objection?

[djbj_2_2_69]

when my fiance found out i was into tgirls she left me and it really messed me up cuz i really loved her. the way i looked at it my passion for tgirls ruined my relationship so i totally quit looking at shemales altogether. i couldn't even look at them and get sexually excited anymore. but after a few months i was back and now its as strong as ever i guess. i've meet a few tgirls in person but never had sex with any of them, not really sure why but i think the idea of being with one is enough for now. it's alot cheaper that way.

[Ecstatic]

djbj_2_2_69, if you're that into tgirls, you owe it to yourself to at least spend an hour with one. I waited until I was 50, and it was one of the best things I ever did for myself. Holding back and wondering "what if" will never satisfy. Yes, seeing escorts is expensive, but to me worth the money (though the expense does limit the number of sessions I allow myself each year--no more than once a month, on average once every 6-8 weeks). In my situation, there's really no alternative (married, over 50, living 40 miles outside of a major city), but depending on your circumstances not the only way. Fantasy is fun, but no match for the real thing. Make it your new year's resolution to at least try it once!