How many guys here are 'out'?

[UckedFup]

My girls knows but as long as I keep it on a porn only basis (which I am) and don't cheat on her with a TGirl or another women she'll deal with it.

Family is another story. All neo-conservatives.

[ghostofbillhicks]

I haven't told anyone I know yet. I'd be lying if I said this wasn't a little bit cowardly but I guess there's also the justification - it's none of their fucking business anyway!

[Ironhead]

Great thread with some amazingly honest confessions and observations here, so having it thrust in my face, I guess I have to realize that the quote in my sig makes me a bit of a hypocrate. My wife knows and isn't just cool with it, she's turned on by the thought. But, no one else in my circle of friends/family has any idea. I've said it before, but I'm an ex-jock and I guess I'm still trying to hold onto that image and know that people in the area I live in wouldn't understand. I'm not afraid of any face to face problems over it, but there would be a stigma that I don't want my kids having to face everyday. And, again, it's not like I'm still in my 20s and going home with a different partner every night anymore. Like I said, this is a very interesting thread, I'm definitely coming away from it more thoughtful.

[gaiseric]

I first replied to this thread when it appeared last October. Since then I have read all the responses and I have to say my first reaction has often been 'what a bunch of wimps'. Before you all reach for your keyboards I am not saying that because I realise that each of us has their own set of circumstances to deal with.

I am lucky in that everyone that I have told about me and T-girls has accepted it and has no problem with it. That now includes some members of my family.

My reason for writing this is a comment about the Baron of Hell's last sentence - 'Life is too short to worry about what other people think about things that have nothing to do with them'. I totally agree with this statement because when I initially told my friends the only reaction was annoyance and that came from me. They didn't care and I realised I had wasted so much time worrying about a situation that did not exist.

In my opinion it's better to tell people and have it out in the open as opposed to keeping everything bottled up and hidden. To me , that's the ideal, but I realise it is not always possible for everyone.

[Freak_on_A_Leash]

I was outed but not by choice. Lost a great job and a great marriage because of it. If I had to do it all over again I would never get involved in this.

[Lafuerza]

Sorry to hear that Freak_on_a_Leash.

Anyway, my gf knows and as far as I'm concerned she's the only one who has to know. She found out when she saw some DVD covers, but was more surprised than frightened. She just considers it as an 'odd' hobby and trusts me enough that I won't cheat on her (we've known eachoher for a long time).

[Tadmirer]

gone

[gaiseric]

A couple of comments on Tadmirer's post. I agree that that we would all be happier if we could live our lives without worrying about what people think. However it's a very difficult thing to do and you need a very strong personality to be able to do it successfully. I doubt that many of us could do it.
Secondly, how do I feel being seen with a TG girl. I am currently working on a relationship with a T-girl in London and I have walked down the street with her on numerous occasions. I don't have a problem with it and I never conciously think 'you're walking with a TS'. A lot of the time it turns into a mega ego trip. She is a very attractive lady and I've seen the jealous looks on guys faces when she kisses me on the street. I've also seen car drivers almost drive onto the path as they try to watch her walk by. The one emotion I've never felt in her presence is embarrassment, in fact I always feel really good when walking with her.

[Tadmirer]

gaiseric -

I agree that it takes a strong personality to "not care" what others think.

Wish I could say that I'm always successful, but, of course, I'm not.

Noticing your signature line, I wonder if you would agree that this becomes easier with age.
For me, that is the case. Wish that I could have been so bold as a young man.

Your description of the feeling that you experience while walking with your friend was beautiful.
You are, indeed, a fortunate man to have such a relationship.

[magic9inch]

Are you guys NUTTTTTSSSS?

you took the words out my mouth, besides i got too much to lose.