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Thread: How many guys here are 'out'?
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12-31-2004 #11
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I would say not to even worry about what anyone else thinks and just live life as it comes. Personally, I have had some serious relationships with some t-girls but still never did the whole 'take her home to mom' think just because it really was no reason to. I don't do that w/ most of the genetic women that I have dated.
Sometimes it is better if your family isn't in your relationship anyway. That can be a problem all the way around.
Just take steps. Find that Miss Right (be it a TS or GG) don't let the plumbing (dick vs pussy) be your guide. A relationship can't be based on that. But find that right woman and if she is a TS take the time to know her one on one. If the love is strong enough the rest will fall in place.
Some family members will get it some won't, the same with friends. In the long run it won;t really matter all that much.
But w/o the girl, why even go out of your way to confess your attraction to folks who have nothing to do with it? What difference does it make if you casually date a TS girl? What difference does it make that who or what you are attracted to really?
Worry about that when the time comes that it matters, when you have meet someone that you have strong feelings for. Until then leave it be.
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12-31-2004 #12
Re: Coming out
Originally Posted by LG
As for your question, I don't know...I think a helluva lot more men are fascinated than would ever admit it, even to themselves. Just look at the popularity of TS porn (yes, a fraction of the whole scene, but judging from the number of movies and websites out there and the TS sections on Eros, the TS scene is perhaps the biggest of the "fetish" scenes). Or the popularity of Maury Povich's TS segments. Or how so many tv shows have worked TS characters into the shows (Ally McBeal, Nip/Tuck, CSI--granted, usually as a novelty and for shock value, but it's there). But as to how many guys are active in the scene, seeing girls (whether as occasional clients or in real relationships)...that's an interesting question. How many of the members of this site are merely voyeurs (never actually seeing a girl for real--not that there's anything wrong with that) and how many are active?
Originally Posted by RangeHova
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12-31-2004 #13
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Thanks for your responses guys. Very helpfull and interesting.
LG, I've asked the same questions myself. I'm 25 and my TS girlfriend is 26 and I definitely want children in the future. At first it seems a major drawback in commiting to a long term realtionship with a TS but if you think about it there are still lots of ways for you to father children. You can adopt or even use your or your partners sperm to impregnate an egg.
I also echo your sentiments about the alternative of marrying a G girl only for the TS flame inside you to carry on burning.
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12-31-2004 #14
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maybe since i'm TS and not an admirer it's not my place to post in this thread, but since at the same time the issue of being
"out" is very relevant to me maybe i should, so i will.
Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2004 10:43 pm Post subject:
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i never told anyone, but it was discovered by my fiance when she found my stash of porn. she split right after that. i figure one bad experiance is enough and will continue to hide it.
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i had a very similar experience in my life, my partner (gg) found me dressed in some of her clothes and she was totally freaked. we were together for a few years after but she said "i don't care what you do but i don't want to see it or know anything about it" that put sort of a pall on the rest of our time together.
when we did break up (amicably) i took that opportunity to be out. from then on as soon as i felt like a relationship was getting at all serious i would tell the person that i was TG and that i was heading towards transition in the future. this meant at least that anyone i was with was not being decieved in any way and those that stayed with me couldn't say that i had sprung anything on them, they knew what they were getting into.
DJ, you might want to take the same opportunity
blessings to all and a happy new year
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01-01-2005 #15
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what?????
Are you guys NUTTTTTSSSS?
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01-01-2005 #16
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what?????
Are you guys NUTTTTTSSSS?
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01-01-2005 #17
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thanks for the advise Caleigh. i think that's a very good idea. but i think im too much of a puss to actually come forward with it. i've decided to put off seroius relationships for a little while so i suppose i have time to make up my mind.
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08-21-2005 #18
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TTT
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08-21-2005 #19
my girl knows. she wasnt completely happy, but she understood. not ready to tell anyone else
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08-21-2005 #20
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I don't really think one should hide that they like twomen, but don't think one needs to announce the fact to the world either. I'm big ass nerd that still buys comics but I'm not going go up to everyone I know and announce I read comics and I'm proud of it. That won't stop me from breaking out the latest issue of Walking Dead or Invincible during lunch or on the bus.
life is to short to worry about what other people think about things that have nothing to do with them.