How many guys here are 'out'?

[thehumanbehan]

I was just wondering how many of the guys here who like T girls have actually told their friends and families.
I'm considering telling my own at the moment and would appreciate any feedback.
It's certainly a massive step but I figure I'll be happy with myself when I admit my attraction to TS's. Personally I think hiding it away is understandable but wrong. I'm not ashamed of who I find attractive and see no reason why I should be. I have a TS girlfriend who has met my friends and she's worried about their reaction when I tell them that she is transgendered. I've told her that hopefully they'll be happy for me that I've met someone that I love. On the other hand I also told her that if they're childish and make silly remarks behind our backs and can't deal with it, well then they weren't proper friends to begin with.

[gaiseric]

I have recently told all my close friends about my interest in TS's and they couldn't care less. I have not been bad-mouthed by any of them and I haven't received any snidey comments or put downs from them either. I suppose they think that I'm still the same guy and if I like TS's and it doesn't affect them, why should they worry about it. I shall tell other friends as and when. I haven't told anyone that I work with because I work on an army camp and I don't need the aggravation that would be created.

I suppose that the secret is that if you have friends that really care about you and accept you for who you are, you should have no problems in telling them. If they don't like it, they never merited being called a friend in the first place.

If your friends are like mine, you will not have a problem in telling them

[FinnBoy]

I have not said anything about it to anyone. I wish I had balls to say but I don't.

[Ecstatic]

My wife knows--has known since my first encounter 2 1/2 years ago--and that's all that matters to me. Some of my friends and family know that I'm bi, but even that is a tough matter for some people to come to grips with (though it seems the most natural thing in the world to me). I've talked about my transgendered friends with various friends, but in the context of people who happen to be transgendered, not as lovers (for example, in discussing the same sex marriage issue in Mass). Since I'm married (to a lovely, loving woman), I'm not about to be dating any girls (t or g for that matter), so for me not being "out" really is about keeping my bimonthly or whatever encounters private; I wouldn't want to discuss those with anyone regardless of whether I was seeing a T, a G, or an M (man, lol) because doing so might raise questions about my marriage which do not affect my wife and me.

[djbj_2_2_69]

i never told anyone, but it was discovered by my fiance when she found my stash of porn. she split right after that. i figure one bad experiance is enough and will continue to hide it.

[canihavu]

I have not said anything about it to anyone. I wish I had balls to say but I don't.

Same here. I'm not ready to take that step yet.

[Reddman]

I don't think I have huge cirlce of friends but the ones I do know my steelo So my guy friends be they straight, gay or bi know my deal---ok aboput 90%. I would say about 25% of my female With Coworkers that I've developed friendships with I've told or introduced them to my girl about 40% of the time. Honestly the area i'm most secretive from has been my family. Now my mother knows and has meet GGs and my current TG she's pretty detached about it but that's her take on most of my relationships (she's a Scorpio Mom if that helps ) since we had a major blowup over one years ago. If i'm on the phone around the holidays momdukes and my girl are on speaking terms. My blindspot is that i've never taken her to the family get togethers, i've done her fam but not mine. It's the bridge that i've not travelled yet. Well actually every day is one.

[Reddman]

I don't think I have huge cirlce of friends but the ones I do generally know my steelo So my guy friends be they straight, gay or bi know my deal---ok aboput 90%. I would say about 25% of my female friends on clued in. With Coworkers that I've developed friendships with I've told or introduced them to my girl about 40% of the time. I've been upfront about 9/10 times with any sexual dealings with GGs since i've included TGs on the libido menu. Honestly the area i'm most secretive from has been my family. Now my mother knows and has meet GGs and my current TG she's pretty detached about it but that's her take on most of my relationships (she's a Scorpio Mom if that helps ) since we had a major blowup over one years ago. If i'm on the phone around the holidays momdukes and my girl are on speaking terms. My blindspot is that i've never taken her to the family get togethers, i've done her fam but not mine. It's the bridge that i've not travelled yet. Well actually every day is one.

[RangeHova]

I really haven't "TOLD" anyone. But people have seen me out with one of my exes and as fine as she is, her voice gave her away. People have also seen me out in clubs and just word of mouth has gotten around. Seeing as to how I never tried to 'hide' it that is understandable.

I know some folks talk behind my back but hell it has never held me back from anything. The last few GGs that I dated had heard the rumors, they still got with me and stayed once I confirmed the 'rumors' to be true.

The few people in my family that know aren't really that close to me except for my brother and he has a FUCK IT attitude about it. I think he and others wouldn't be as accepting were it not for the fact that the girls they have seen me with have been 'stunning'.

[LG]

thehumanbehan wrote:

It's certainly a massive step but I figure I'll be happy with myself when I admit my attraction to TS's. Personally I think hiding it away is understandable but wrong

I agree with you. I wish I could tell one or two people in particular, but apart from perhaps some members of my family, I'm not sure anyone would understand. It certainly wouldn't help me make any new friends.

If I meet the right t-girl though, one that I can truly love rather than just fantasise over, I am sure I will not care as much. My only problem is that if I decide to spend my life with a t-girl, I can never have my own children, which would really hurt as I've always dreamed of having kids and watching them grow up (a son who plays football -soccer to you- and a little daughter).

Then again if I marry a genetic girl, I have to make sure she understands me first. I don't want to spend my married life hiding my passion and secretly looking at newspapers and websites to find working girls- that wouldn't be good for either of us.

I'm afraid of encountering homophobia and prejudice. I have never been attracted to men and yet most men I know would find girls with that bit of extra plumbing repugnant and an attraction to them as homosexuality, which unfortunately in my society is still frowned upon (either that or they're secretly obsessing about them too!)

I reallly haven't worked out a plan to this one...you have to remember that everyone has different kinds of friends and family and comes from different backgrounds.

How many of us are there, though? Has anyone made a guesstimate (eg. such and such % of all men)?