Escort w/Boy Friends/Girl Friends=Joke?/Myth?/What?

[Nautica]

Ok,

This has been sitting in my brain for a while now and I want your input. Are some people serious when they say they have a significant other while they are escorting? I know I will NEVERRRR understand the seriousness that goes through people's heads that think this way, but I want your opinion, anyhow.

I see "working" girls with their "man" and I'm like wtf? How in the h-e-double hockey sticks can you share your body with someone else and then expect the other to be faithful. Fugg the no emotional connection kick and all of those other ways around it.

I guess this game/buisness is too much of a drug(addictive). If it came down to the significant other(lmfao x 2.2,000,000) or the money, which do you think would win?

Cast your votes, now!


P.S.

Don't waste your time trying to get me to understand this. I'm just looking for your opinion. If a man is mine and I'm his...that's that.


Smootches =^.^=

[Nautica]

P.S.S.

How do or would you guys deal with your girl working. *edited* lol


P.S.S.S.
I have guy friends on the side that I hang out and do stuff with, and no offense to you *working* girls with boyfriends......inquiring mind dahlings......

[qeuqheeg222]

ever since ive been around tg's and their significant others(11 or 12 yrs now)you see a lot of different types of relationship dynamics that either work for some fucked up reason or dont and lead to a lot of drama.ive seen sugar-daddy types,the fat old white bottom guys who fell hard for a escort and blew big bucks having lavish weddings in mansions in new orleans only to help fund w3ebsite prostitution to validate their later or planned infidelities....then there is the escort by night payin for the trades nikes and weed relationships because she just wants somebody around????it seems really rare to find some sense of genuine i'm for you and you are for me in much of this,but it might just be more of how one defines "relationship" p.s.dont forget the secret tv/cds who want secret pointers from their escort girlfriend......

[MacShreach]

Good question for Good Friday Morning.

Everybody's different but I have thought about this. I think it's presumptuous for a man to expect a woman to give up work for him.

In my case I would be pretty surprised if I met a t-girl other than through a business engagement, so I would know what the score was right up front. Therefore I would be going in with my eyes open. I think it would be very different if I didn't know.

The question would be whether I could live with my girl going with other men? And while I knew about it--"Oh, can't come to the beach this afternoon darling, I'm working."

A man would have to be very very well balanced to deal with that, and I can't be sure that it would work, but if I really liked the girl and wanted to be with her, I would try.

Younger men have a lot of ego issues that complicate love; I know I could never have done this sort of thing when I was 25, say. But now now I am a little older and I have been through the Great Romance and all the other things so I think I could handle it, although I would want to be sure the girl was taking care of herself, being safe and not getting involved in drugs or other criminality, and also that she understood that she didn't have to do it if she didn't want to, as I could support her while she restructured her life.

Might be my next great challenge--who knows?

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

GREAT FUCKING TOPIC

I know a few TS' working locally that jokingly say they are married to a guy or have a live in boyfriend. Focusing on the 2 sisters I know that say this (no flabby & hollywood, not them) they actually do have live in boyfriends which amazes me. They have one room set up for escorting and the other room is their bedroom (actually thats the typical setup, but in this case we're adding the live in b/f). How those guys go to work daily, then come home knowing their g/f is getting her back blown out, or blowing someone's porker (hehe) is beyond me, but plenty of guys do it.

p.s.: this is good topic based on the choices you gave in the end........ up to recently I'd have said the money over the guy, but I know a few women that want the man (now that they've had the surgery, lol)

[rvince]

A good friend of mine is a TS escort, and from talking with her it's totally obvious there's a big wall between her work and her private life.

After breaking up with her BF she's been with for 4yr or so she said me "I never escorted so much since then, but I really miss sex."

While I don't think I could date an escort (GG or TS), some guys obviously can handle it if it's clear the chick is really considering it as "just a job".

[hwbs]

its a very weird situation....the girls didn't work when I was around...im sure the money would always win , lmao...these days I settle with a couple friends that we have no commitment towards each other ...we care bout each other but have a no strings type relationship...its better being honest this way...that way both of our feelings are spared...its a much easier solution then trying to have a fake boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship...

[LTR_Seeker]

I couldnt bein relationship with women who escorts no offense to them but im old fashioned in to having just me & her enjoying each other every second we can get.

[Ecstatic]

Nautica, I can't speak from the escort's point of view, obviously, but from "the other side" as it were. It really comes down to the relationship dynamics of the couple involved, but whatever those dynamics are, I think honesty and commitment are paramount. Also, I do not equate sex and love (though the two together are the most potent).

In my case, I've been married for 26 years. She is the love of my life, the person with whom I am growing old (will be growing old--I'm not out to pasture yet, lol), the only person I cannot imagine not being in my life. We have an "open" marriage: when we wrote our wedding vows all those years ago, we deliberately left out the phrase "forsaking all others" as negative and artifically constricting.

Also, I have a pretty high sex drive, and my wife has almost none (the discrepancy would be enough to justify divorce, but there's no way I could ever even contemplate not having her in my life as my partner; I would be celibate if necessary, and I would not simply cheat on her). So I see a very select few escorts (who are also friends, though I do not expect "favors" from them) and a few friends with benefits, and our relationship is stronger than ever.

In the situation you describe, Nautica, I would be hypocritical to be bothered by the sex. What would concern (and does, to some degree, with friends who escort) are the dangers involved. One of my friends has been severely beaten by a john (twice that I know of), and that scares me. I would be concerned for the woman's safety and health (being careful and selective with one's clients goes a long ways here). But the sex would not bother me unless it posed a threat to our relationship, which would then indicate that the relationship is not what I thought it was.

[tsmandy]

Well, it's a lot less complicated than it seems. I've been in a very serious relationship with the same woman the entire time I've been an escort. We have been in a committed open relationship with very few rules and boundaries other than safe sex limits.

When I first started providing, I was working with her, and it was just part of our lives. After a while she tired of the sex industry and moved on, I stayed. Instead of being upset about the guys/girls I hook up with, she gets turned on.

I think its actually harder on me than it is on her. Sometimes I think my career as an adult entertainer really takes a backburner to my life with her, and sometimes its almost overwhelming to be providing companionship services and then go home and have to stay in romance mode. Sometimes I just want to be alone, and have my body and my mind completely to myself. But...all in all, I think I'm pretty lucky, because my sweetie is amazing, not too mention really fun to work with (when I need another gal in a pinch).

Alternate answer: providing is easy on a relationship compared to non-monogamy.

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