1st attempt to use escort goes wrong

[sdtgfan]

Hi guys and girls...I've been lurking on this site and I've really enjoyed the mix of pictures/videos and ts discussion. I found this site and the eros guide a couple of months ago and decided to get the courage up and contact a ts for a first time experience.

Being a little nervous about the whole thing, I wanted to find a girl who would be supportive and helpful with a first timer. I found a girl here on the San Diego section of the website named Mimi who looks really cool and had the following in her ad "Available to sincere discreet gentlemen who want to experience something new and exciting.I will not rush you. I am very polite and classy".

Excellent, this matches me exactly. So, I get the nerve to call and she is immediately rude. She answers and says hello and I ask if this is Mimi. She said "yes" curtly and I went on to say that I saw her on the eros guide. She snapped "so, do you want an appointment." Of course, I answered yes and she said "what time?". I said whatever time works for you because I was in no rush and thought that she might have other appointments.

This is where the discretion goes out the window. She then briskly asks "How generous will you be with your donation tonight?" I was totally thrown off because I was pretty sure that discussing "donations" over the phone wasn't going to happen due to numerous reasons. I said that I wasn't sure, this is my first time. She then gets bitchy and asks about what I like to do. Once again, I thought this sort of talk would not take place on the phone. I'm not sure she understood what the word "discrete" means. She then says "Honey, you don't know what you want, quit wasting my time" and hung up on me. Then, it got really bizarre with three phone calls from a private caller. I finally answered and somebody with a strangely husky voice is asking why I called their number. Of course, it sounded like her either using a more masculine voice but I can't be 100% on that.

I've read on this site about how escorts can be hit and miss (fibbing about size and functionality, moodiness etc), but this sort of thing on the first phone call has me turned off to using any escorts. If this is the treatment that girl who advertises herself as kind/classy and basically caters to first timers, I'm worried what I'll get from other girls.

I'm sure escorts are worried about police posing as 1st time clients, but then why ask for a "donation" and a specification of desired services on the phone? Makes me worried that she was a cop.Is there a protocol that I totally missed out, like some sort of special words I should have been using? Where did I go wrong or did I?

[suckseed]

You got lucky. You figured her out without wasting your time and money.
You should search here for transexual escort review sites (some sites like The Erotic Review have ts sections), search for craigslist review sites - in short, do your research. If they're not friendly over the phone to general conversation on the phone, they're not going to be nice to you in person - and if they're just having a bad day, you should skip them that day anyway and try later. Some sites cost $20 a month or so. But you can search for your girl or in your city and get the basics, just not the details. That way you don't spend your money only to find out there's no relevant reviews. It's $20 well spent!

[Your_Best_Kept_Secret]

Don't forget, also, not all girls are alike, hence "hit or miss"

Don't let one bad apple ruin the bunch for you. But, yes, do your homework and consider yourself lucky this was over the phone and not face to face or in public AFTER money had been exchanged.

[Legend]

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[suckseed]

I see the death penalty in his future isn't it irony that the same method he used to kill that poor girl is the same way he is gonna go out.

uh......

[Realgirls4me]

SDTGFAN,

Reservations and palpitations are normal at the juncture you find yourself in currently. Just remember that not all girls are like that, though, and if they are that way toward their clients, I'll bet the house that they will most likely never make great money at their craft because word does eventually get around. I've never had a woman treat like that over the phone, and I'm going to put a halt to that if she is bitchy in any way. I think her behavior is an example of an exception and not the rule.

I saw TS Doll tonight on her final night here in San Diego as I mentioned in the "ts tx doll?" thread below, and she, like the few others I've seen since I got into this hobby, offered a superb and memorable experience that was sans any nastiness or attitude. She would have been perfect for your first experience, or second, third, or forth experience. Read the reviews offered here and elsewhere such as TER and SER. Good reviews aren't a guarantee you'll have a good time, as your mileage may vary, but they do give you a better sense of who these women are -- a lot better than a few words or claims on an Eros ad.

Good luck, and don't let this one experience stop you.

[wendy48088]

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[sdtgfan]

Thanks for the tips...I will do more research in the future. Realgirls4me, I'll have to contact Doll next time. I saw her in a Joey Silvera movie and she seemed like an angel. Hopefully she comes back to SD soon.

As far as negotiating goes, am I right with the feeling that you would handle that with the girl in person? Do the girls usually have a set price that they work off of? And, the phone conversation should be pretty short and used to determine time and place, right? Thanks guys

[Your_Best_Kept_Secret]

As far as I have heard, price is negotiated BEFORE YOU MEET....Unless guys change their minds at the last minute and all, I really don't see a girl bargaining for her time and services "after the fact". It'd be way too easy to get burnt that way.

I would think, as I don't know precisely, that most girls also have a standard flat rate to start from, in the event that they do meet a guy, and then nothing else happens. That way, their time is not totally wasted in the event he decides not to go further, physically, than meeting.