Stop the generalization of "Tranny Chaser"

[hwbs]

yeah jade is very wise on the subject...it was also fun hanging out with her at the last party...

[Aragon21]

i dont think ANY girl here thinks EVERY guy is a tranny chaser.... just most

This is my exact point! This topic is about the "generalization" brought up from:

I took these quotes from "Do you feel it's wrong?"

So I am on a few "straight sites"...and I put my status as female. And I talk to the guys for awhile to let them get to know me, then if I want to meet them I tell them. It usually works out in my favor, but there's always that small percent that get mad. Do you think I am wrong for doing it this way? Should I tell them flat out?

On "straight sites" and many others you only have a choice of man, woman, gay man, lesbian woman, couple. So yes say woman.
...
There are people out here that want a LTR that are attracted to feminity in all its forms.

Do NOT get me wrong! There are people in it only for the experience. But this is true for all sexualities. If a man wants to experiment with a man, I would call them bi-curious, and vice-versa for woman wanting to experiment with lesbianism.

Also, there are people that are just out there to put as many notches on the bedpost.

This is why we all (straight/TG/gay/bi-) have our conversations before connecting for a date. We all have our own radar to determine if the person we are talking to is looking to just "hit it." On the flip side, if that is all you want I would hope you would decline if you feel the other person wants more.

This is the presumption that lead to my posting this topic:

Kelly, perhaps you missed the point of my post. You asked the members if we thought not being up front in a profile was ok or not. My post was asking you to figure it out from being on the recieving end of things. How would you feel if someone was less than upfront with you?

The fact that you don't take it that far, is from your perspective only. Maybe someone who spent a short while on the phone with you sees it differently. Wishes he didn't even waist his time on a call, or buying you 1 drink in a club. If a person thinks they've been fooled or tricked from the onset, they might just be a little distrustfull about anything else the other person has to say or offer.

Special K I don't want to be viewed as a transexual, because of the judgements and assumptions of what we are about. I don't see the harm in not saying so at first online in a conversation? It doesn't make me who I am as a person certainly.

And furthemore let me be more frank...when they think you are a genetic girl they want to work for you take you on a date etc..but as soon as you say you're a transexual it becomes "I'd still let you suck my dick" etc so yeah in that case it's not good.

The presumption that the advance knowledge that you are a TG defines those attracted by that "tranny chasers." The truth is many TGs are more feminine and "girly-girl" than GGs and alot of guys are attracted to that femininity.

There are so many different reasons for someone to be attracted to another, just as there are so many reasons that make some want another to be attracted to them. Some guys like big breasts, some girls don't want a guy to be attracted to them for their breasts. Some girls are attracted to rich men, some men don't want to be attractive for their financial status. On the flipside, some men work hard on their pecs and abs, some women like "teddy bears." Some women spend hours on a treadmill, some men like BBW.

There is a huge difference between being presumptuous and being cautious. Be honest. Be open. And use your own common sense. Does it honestly take anyone on this forum more than a few minutes to determine that someone is finding you attractive for a reason you don't want them to be attracted to you? That's not to say you may not know why they are attracted to you, the variables are countless (personally I am a eyes, lips, face man, and for continuing attraction: intelligence and personality.) But again, if it is not the right reason for you, it doesn't take long to hear the bells and sirens warning you.

Totally should have used the word "presumption" instead of "generalization" in the topic. And no I don't think the majority here are presumptuous but rather are cautious.

And in fairness, there was the rare person not defined as a "tranny chaser" in the original post, but it took 2 1/2 pages (pgs 6- to over turn that preconcieved opinion.

[Dkg]

If I was an older, divorced guy with children who are adults, then I could consider a "serious", long term relationship with a TS, as I have gotten that part of my life out of the way. Problem is, when a man is that age, the attractive trannies just want to put you in the "sugar daddy" trick bag anyway.

Just keeping it real!

the reason a guy like that goes into the "sugar daddy" bag is b/c look at all the issues he had to go thru to be seen w/ me? fuck that and him. live your life for yourself not for others in it. he doesnt respect me if all those stipulations must be in order for me to date him. why would an "attractive" *assuming you mean young as well* want to be w/ a guy who couldnt be himself when hes 2x her age *50/25 accounting his kids need to be out of the house already*... if she has her shit together and knows who she is and has the balls to be herself at 25 why on earth would she want a guy she cant respect... bc how could she if thats how he was? thats why he goes in the "sugar daddy trick bag" ... because he deserves it...

just keeping it real

I really tried to follow that, but I think you lost me. What if the guy liked GGs and TGs but just so happened to end up with a GG, got married, had kids, yada yada, but was divorced and now wanted to be with a TG. Does that make him a Sugar Daddy? or is it b/c he's now older, not as attractive, and has a family now?

I know you had a good point in there, just trying to find it.

[MrsKellyPierce]

i dont think ANY girl here thinks EVERY guy is a tranny chaser.... just most

This is my exact point! This topic is about the "generalization" brought up from:

I took these quotes from "Do you feel it's wrong?"

So I am on a few "straight sites"...and I put my status as female. And I talk to the guys for awhile to let them get to know me, then if I want to meet them I tell them. It usually works out in my favor, but there's always that small percent that get mad. Do you think I am wrong for doing it this way? Should I tell them flat out?

On "straight sites" and many others you only have a choice of man, woman, gay man, lesbian woman, couple. So yes say woman.
...
There are people out here that want a LTR that are attracted to feminity in all its forms.

Do NOT get me wrong! There are people in it only for the experience. But this is true for all sexualities. If a man wants to experiment with a man, I would call them bi-curious, and vice-versa for woman wanting to experiment with lesbianism.

Also, there are people that are just out there to put as many notches on the bedpost.

This is why we all (straight/TG/gay/bi-) have our conversations before connecting for a date. We all have our own radar to determine if the person we are talking to is looking to just "hit it." On the flip side, if that is all you want I would hope you would decline if you feel the other person wants more.

This is the presumption that lead to my posting this topic:

Kelly, perhaps you missed the point of my post. You asked the members if we thought not being up front in a profile was ok or not. My post was asking you to figure it out from being on the recieving end of things. How would you feel if someone was less than upfront with you?

The fact that you don't take it that far, is from your perspective only. Maybe someone who spent a short while on the phone with you sees it differently. Wishes he didn't even waist his time on a call, or buying you 1 drink in a club. If a person thinks they've been fooled or tricked from the onset, they might just be a little distrustfull about anything else the other person has to say or offer.

Special K I don't want to be viewed as a transexual, because of the judgements and assumptions of what we are about. I don't see the harm in not saying so at first online in a conversation? It doesn't make me who I am as a person certainly.

And furthemore let me be more frank...when they think you are a genetic girl they want to work for you take you on a date etc..but as soon as you say you're a transexual it becomes "I'd still let you suck my dick" etc so yeah in that case it's not good.

The presumption that the advance knowledge that you are a TG defines those attracted by that "tranny chasers." The truth is many TGs are more feminine and "girly-girl" than GGs and alot of guys are attracted to that femininity.

There are so many different reasons for someone to be attracted to another, just as there are so many reasons that make some want another to be attracted to them. Some guys like big breasts, some girls don't want a guy to be attracted to them for their breasts. Some girls are attracted to rich men, some men don't want to be attractive for their financial status. On the flipside, some men work hard on their pecs and abs, some women like "teddy bears." Some women spend hours on a treadmill, some men like BBW.

There is a huge difference between being presumptuous and being cautious. Be honest. Be open. And use your own common sense. Does it honestly take anyone on this forum more than a few minutes to determine that someone is finding you attractive for a reason you don't want them to be attracted to you? That's not to say you may not know why they are attracted to you, the variables are countless (personally I am a eyes, lips, face man, and for continuing attraction: intelligence and personality.) But again, if it is not the right reason for you, it doesn't take long to hear the bells and sirens warning you.

Totally should have used the word "presumption" instead of "generalization" in the topic. And no I don't think the majority here are presumptuous but rather are cautious.

And in fairness, there was the rare person not defined as a "tranny chaser" in the original post, but it took 2 1/2 pages (pgs 6- to over turn that preconcieved opinion.

Again you took what I said out of context but whatever..I explained myself clearly a page back READ.

[Aragon21]

Again you took what I said out of context but whatever..I explained myself clearly a page back READ.

Nope I didn't can't imagine you actually read my post and looked at the 3 pages I referenced in less than 5 minutes.

But if shouting you're right is what makes you happy shout away.

[joeboz]

I understand what Kelly means as far as tranny chaser - it's the same as a player.

Just don't be a cock about stuff - TG and GG's both feel used & abused by a guy who shows up with all sorts of promise and then just disappears after he bangs her, though if a girl gives it up too quickly, the guy tends to wander sooner - typical guy nature.

I'm speaking in generalizations of course, but you get my point.

[MrsKellyPierce]

Again you took what I said out of context but whatever..I explained myself clearly a page back READ.

Nope I didn't can't imagine you actually read my post and looked at the 3 pages I referenced in less than 5 minutes.

But if shouting you're right is what makes you happy shout away.

I wasn't shouting..I just emphasize on wording..mmk

[MrsKellyPierce]

I understand what Kelly means as far as tranny chaser - it's the same as a player.

Just don't be a cock about stuff - TG and GG's both feel used & abused by a guy who shows up with all sorts of promise and then just disappears after he bangs her, though if a girl gives it up too quickly, the guy tends to wander sooner - typical guy nature.

I'm speaking in generalizations of course, but you get my point.

Exactly!!!

[Aragon21]

I understand what Kelly means as far as tranny chaser - it's the same as a player.

Just don't be a cock about stuff - TG and GG's both feel used & abused by a guy who shows up with all sorts of promise and then just disappears after he bangs her, though if a girl gives it up too quickly, the guy tends to wander sooner - typical guy nature.

I'm speaking in generalizations of course, but you get my point.

Funny you should write, you are the rare exception I referred to. Recall pages 6-8 on the topic "Do you feel it's wrong" You told your experience on page 6 and it wasn't till page 8 that you were not a "tranny chaser."

I realize this was because she didn't read what you actually said from her statement to you of "why do you call yourself a 'tranny chaser'," because no where did you say you were. But my point is that you were preconcieved to be one.

Again, I repeat, should have used "presumption" instead of "generalization" in the topic title.

Think all my extended posts on this topic have stated use your own internal radar/compass/common sense to evaluate without a preconceived notion but rather with caution. There are sexual predators for all types of interests.

This topic was not about clarifying what a jerk is. It is about not presuming the worst 1st.

I would love to hear more from ladies that may have personally held this preconception or been close to someone who did, and how they eventually did find love.

[peggygee]

I would love to hear more from ladies that may have personally held this preconception or been close to someone who did, and how they eventually did find love.

It is relatively simple, if you allow people to dis-respect you or
play you they may attempt to do so.

You need to be firm and resolute about what you are willing to accept
in a relationship.

I have Known good love.

I have known bad love.

I am only worthy of good love.