Alternatives to escorting

[tsmandy]

Hi folks,

This is a topic that I've been thinking about alot lately. For the last couple of years I've been working (primarily in Portland, sometimes in other cities) as an escort. Recently I've been feeling burned out on it and in need of a change.

Taking a break has a multitude of benefits, but I find myself missing the excitement and the attention (not to mention the cash).

So I've been thinking alot about what I liked about providing intimate companionship, what I didn't like, and possibilities for change.

What I liked:
Meeting new people. Getting people off, teaching people about sex, learning from people about sex. Providing emotional warmth and support (not necessarily the kind that involves talking about somebody's bad marriage, more the kind that comes from just being affectionate and sweet) and in turn receiving affection and adoration. Being motivated to take care of my body and my mind. And of course, having the disposable income to wear nice clothes, eat nice food, and frequent trips to the salon.

What I disliked:
Charging people by the hour. This never sat right by me but I never was able to think up a suitable alternative. It never really felt right to me to artificially limit my interaction with someone to such a brief segment of time. In matters of intimacy time is highly variable depending on who is involved.
And then there was the worry factor. Worrying about the cops, worrying about the creeps, and worrying about the integrity of my home. Never could really find a way past those things.

So.... All that said, I would like to find a way to keep the positive aspects mentioned and reduce or eliminate the negative aspects. How do I do that?

Besides the typical sugar daddy arrangement, does anyone know of other ways that a gal like me can provide professional companionship in exchange for financial support in a way that doesn't involve an hourly rate? Any girls tried alternatives?

[Ecstatic]

Here's an odd idea, which prolly won't fly because guys just want to get their rocks off, but how about advertising an evening date, no sex, just company, for a different rate? You know, like "escort" is supposed to mean, a companion for an evening. Charge $100/hour for 4 or 5 hours. If he wants more, he'll have to pay, but would there be a market for guys who just want a tgirl's companionship for an evening?

Yeah, I thought as much.

[Kriss]

A few escorts only take bookings for longer sessions like 3 hours, presumably with semi regular clients. I suppose it depends on what you offer. Girls that specialise in Domination and fantasy scenarios will insist on longer than one hour to give the full experience required, err, I heard somewhere. Also depends how many trips you require and to which salon I guess?

[xfiver]

Hi folks,

This is a topic that I've been thinking about alot lately. For the last couple of years I've been working (primarily in Portland, sometimes in other cities) as an escort. Recently I've been feeling burned out on it and in need of a change.

Taking a break has a multitude of benefits, but I find myself missing the excitement and the attention (not to mention the cash).

So I've been thinking alot about what I liked about providing intimate companionship, what I didn't like, and possibilities for change.

What I liked:
Meeting new people. Getting people off, teaching people about sex, learning from people about sex. Providing emotional warmth and support (not necessarily the kind that involves talking about somebody's bad marriage, more the kind that comes from just being affectionate and sweet) and in turn receiving affection and adoration. Being motivated to take care of my body and my mind. And of course, having the disposable income to wear nice clothes, eat nice food, and frequent trips to the salon.

What I disliked:
Charging people by the hour. This never sat right by me but I never was able to think up a suitable alternative. It never really felt right to me to artificially limit my interaction with someone to such a brief segment of time. In matters of intimacy time is highly variable depending on who is involved.
And then there was the worry factor. Worrying about the cops, worrying about the creeps, and worrying about the integrity of my home. Never could really find a way past those things.

So.... All that said, I would like to find a way to keep the positive aspects mentioned and reduce or eliminate the negative aspects. How do I do that?

Besides the typical sugar daddy arrangement, does anyone know of other ways that a gal like me can provide professional companionship in exchange for financial support in a way that doesn't involve an hourly rate? Any girls tried alternatives?

Why do you find it necessary to escort at all? Seems to me that the dangers outweigh the benefits by far (take Miriam for example). I don't even pretend to understand what it's like to be you. Is working in the normal marketplace just too difficult (discrimination, etc.)? You are obviously highly intelligent, and it seems to me you could make your way easily without escorting.

Also, I am curious if you find it difficult to date or find others that you can connect with outside of the escort scene.

But to try and address your question, if you are bent on doing it, why not just charge a flat rate per visit and see how it goes. Guarantee an hour and then "weed out" the ones you wouldn't enjoy seeing again, spend more time with the ones you like.

Thanks for the thoughtful topic.

-x

[slinky]

Figure out how much you honestly make on an evening what you set out to escort. now, i don't mean one evening in 1996 when some guys payed you $3,000; I mean including averaging in th nights you sit by the phone and do no dates. Does $400 to $500 sound about right?

Well, try offering that for a real fun night out (where the client pays all expenses - like a nice dinner, etc) where you really give if your all to show the guy a nice time for the whole evening. I bet you don't have to advertise anymore after a few weeks.

[wendy48088]

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[tsmandy]

Why do you find it necessary to escort at all? Seems to me that the dangers outweigh the benefits by far (take Miriam for example). I don't even pretend to understand what it's like to be you. Is working in the normal marketplace just too difficult (discrimination, etc.)? You are obviously highly intelligent, and it seems to me you could make your way easily without escorting.

Also, I am curious if you find it difficult to date or find others that you can connect with outside of the escort scene.

I don't find it necessary, really. I certainly have other options in terms of making money. The problem is I can work for $8 an hour because I have no work experience (unless I want to out myself and use my old name and work history pre-transition) barely be able to pay my rent, and never save money for anything I would like to accomplish. Or I can escort and live somewhat comfortably.

As for difficulty dating: No. I have a very committed partner actually and several other lovers that I spend time with. But I only really date straight guys professionally.

But to try and address your question, if you are bent on doing it, why not just charge a flat rate per visit and see how it goes. Guarantee an hour and then "weed out" the ones you wouldn't enjoy seeing again, spend more time with the ones you like.

Thanks for the thoughtful topic.

-x

The thing is, I'm not bent on doing it. I'm interested in positive alternatives to the norm. Ways to make sex work safer, more sustainable, and more positive for all involved.


Thanks for the input folks.

[tsmandy]

Figure out how much you honestly make on an evening what you set out to escort. now, i don't mean one evening in 1996 when some guys payed you $3,000; I mean including averaging in th nights you sit by the phone and do no dates. Does $400 to $500 sound about right?

Well, try offering that for a real fun night out (where the client pays all expenses - like a nice dinner, etc) where you really give if your all to show the guy a nice time for the whole evening. I bet you don't have to advertise anymore after a few weeks.

Danny Partidge I was 14 years old in 1996, who told you about that night?

I like the idea of a flat rate date, I wonder if that would fly in a city like Portland, or if that is something I should try on the road?

[tsmandy]

Here's an odd idea, which prolly won't fly because guys just want to get their rocks off, but how about advertising an evening date, no sex, just company, for a different rate? You know, like "escort" is supposed to mean, a companion for an evening. Charge $100/hour for 4 or 5 hours. If he wants more, he'll have to pay, but would there be a market for guys who just want a tgirl's companionship for an evening?

Yeah, I thought as much.

I saw a special on TV once about companions in Japan that supposedly do just this. I feel like a gal that did this in the USA would get alot of hate.

[tsmandy]

Any "legit" job you get will be harder work and will pay a lot less and be less exciting than escorting, but you'll probably want to move on some day and live as a regular woman in society anyway, and this will help you to do that.

Sound advice Wendy. I don't really want to move on some day and live as a "regular woman". I'm not really one of those "I'm just like all the other girls with one exception" kind of girls. I have a hard time functioning in institutional settings, an overly critical mind, and a serious need for independence and adventure.