Mia Isabella Going Post Op?

[MiaIsabella1985]

I have been researching for a long time and think that maybe my journey lies beyond the transgendered world and may have SRS soon. I have always felt displaced with my genetalia and have only recently became comfortable with that aspect of myself. Doing Porn, Being Dominant as an entertainer but my true pleasure before all that came from being treated and loved and desired as a women. The only reason my "transformation" was made public was to help build my confidence from being a demure individual to being proud of who and what I am. I had a large support system of 6 really close TS sisters who helped me and taught me manythings However, from what I have seen in the world and from where I see the transgendered lifestyle leading to does not appeal to me. It seems more than anything to be a stumbling block that is very hard for most to climb over and be able to achieve the greatness they have to offer only becuase they have a dick and I find it rediculous that most men I have ever encountered publically or as an entertainer enjoy sexually but only privately. Where are the in love transexual and man as a couple walking down the street to lunch together? You dont see it! It seems to be a path of self destruction mentally and emotionally. Now I understand that whether I have a dick or not I am still going to be the person I am meant to be. On the other hand I would feel more comfortable for myself and for no one else to be without it because anyone that I met or decided to be in a relationship with would not be after me simply for my "Unique" qualities, I also understand that if someone likes me or enjoys my company it will not matter whether or not I have a dick or not. It just amazes me how many men think just because we look like women its ok to suck our dicks or have us fuck them but they are "Straight" What a Crock of Shit!!!! If society labels us and still want to call us men and gay men at that then what does that make our "Admirers" who are obviously in denial about their sexuality. I dont find it fair that as hard as we try and struggle for our quest to womanhood we are trapped into a corner to be seen as entertainment for those that keep us oppresed. Obviously as history has shown it is just in their nature to do such terrible things to make themselves feel more superior to a group that is different. Use Slavery as an example . . . African Americans were seen as crops or stock and used and abused but behind closed their owners were fucking them and using them as toys all day everyday bit they had no rights! Rediculous And as I compare the benifits of being a transformed woman to that of a pre op transgendered I see many of the same similarities involved. Growing up in the deep south and being a very fair skinned child compared to my siblings I could see how differently I was treated and loved only becuase of physical aspects and see the same behavior concerning the TS Community. How in the FUCK is it that Ru Paul and Frank Marino can dress up like women and talk like men and be accepted by the Main Stream and loved to a point where Frank is living next to Michael Jackson and Famous NBA players having million dollar contracts and publicity but we as TS women are left to struggle and hide in the shadows as most do to turn tricks and do porn for pennies so men can gawk and masterbate to us for their amusement while they go home to their clueless wives after theyve sucked a dick and live their lives without scorn. Maybe it is better to be a woman with this knowledge than to be catagorized with stigma.

[peggygee]

Mia, that was a poignant and well crafted post.

I can see that you have given alot of thought to your decision.

This may sound strange coming from a post op woman, but give
it a little more thought, talk it over with those that you trust to
give you an informed opinion.

What you are contemplating is one of the most serious decisions
you will ever have to make in your life.

Get all the information, check out various surgeons, check with
other post op women about their experience with that surgeon.

Go into this with realistic expectations, it of course is not a cure-all
for all of lives problems.

In literally minutes there will be a barrage of posts that will either
try to dissuade you, and some may encourage you.

I will only suggest that you listen to your heart and mind in making
this decision, in this and in al things be the Captain of your own
ship.

If I can be of any help in any small way don't hesitate to ask. I am
partial to the Thai surgeons, but could perhaps suggest others if in
fact you haven't already chosen one.

Good luck,

Peg.

[phxguy]

Mia, it's up to you to make that important decision. Whatever makes you more happy. If it means anything, I do like you the way you are now.

[Bic]

best of luck to you in what every dissisions you make

[MrsKellyPierce]

Good luck mami in it!!!

[Vicki Richter]

A lot of guys won't like this, but it was a really powerful honest post. I am really proud of you. I think most of us want to do the post-op thing and are drawn that way. I hate it when I talk to girls I know who say things like, "I want to but how will I make my money?" Other girls have a hard time saving $30k or getting credit to do it.

That's why I always preach about education to girls whenever I get a chance. Escort? Yes. But spend the money to prepare yourself for the future when you are no longer able to be a sex worker. Use the money for surgeries, education, etc. Those are things that nobody can take from you once you have them. The last thing I would rely on is a marriage or relationship to be for life. My parents are one of the only couples I know who have always been together... and it took each of them more than one time to get there.

Anyway, your post was really full of a lot of honesty. I respect that a lot.

Vicki

[phxguy]

I agree Vicki. There's always that part of me that wishes that TS wouldn't go through with the SRS, but of course, it's really up to them. Better to be happy than not happy.

[Linsey]

Mia, while I may just be at the start of my journey, I can understand the feelings that you have. It is a hard thing to assume another public identity when you have made your reputation for being a certain way. This not only goes for the transition from male to pre-op or from pre-op to post-op, but in all areas of life.

I hope that whatever decision you make, that you make it yourself and that you do not fall into the trap of having someone else make you into the image that they want. I have a few people offer to help me with my transition, but I have turned all of rhem down, because their idea of what I needed to do was different from mine. Each one of us has an image of what we want to be. For anyone to want to make us into a different image is just wrong.

So, while people may pull you one way or another. The only one who knows what is right is you. I respect you and will be praying for the best for you.

-Linsey

[Fox]

It just amazes me how many men think just because we look like women its ok to suck our dicks or have us fuck them but they are "Straight" What a Crock of Shit!!!! If society labels us and still want to call us men and gay men at that then what does that make our "Admirers" who are obviously in denial about their sexuality.

Hm. I'm curious about something. You said "look" like women. Do you not consider yourself a woman intrinsically? Just wondering. Also, what's wrong with a straight male (who wants women only, be it GG or TG) embrassing a tgirl's body (penis and all)? Unless I'm misunderstanding you (let me know if I am), you seem to be doing the same thing which you hate (labelling: "admirers who are obviously in denial").

Good luck in the decision you make.

[RangeHova]

I am not at all one of these people who would try to change your mind for SRS because I enjoy seeing your pictures and what not. But in reading this post it sounds like your reasons for the possibility of SRS are based in society, based in what other think about you and how they view you. I am not saying that is all that is in your thoughts, I’m just going by this one post only.

I don’t think most of society sees a girl who has had SRS anymore a female than one that hasn’t. In most cases they don’t know what is inside of your panties. As far as the men that enjoy you behind closed doors, if they think the people around them will view you as a TS (post or preop) they still will shy away from enjoying you in public.

The fact is, general society sees us males that admirer ladies such as yourself as gay. If society saw us as straight so many guys wouldn’t be hiding the fact that they date Ts women.

I think if your main concerns are society and how they view you then you need to concentarate more on how you appear. Not that I am saying you aren’t passible, I don’t know if you are or aren’t. But if you can go out and live your daily life without people seeing you as a TS then a lot of those issues will not be so prominent. Even with men, if a man thinks he can take you on a date, home to meet the family, and to his office without anyone whispering “is she a…” they are a hell of a lot less likely to keep your relationship behind closed doors.

The Ts community is a great support system for girls but at times it can hinder some girls from knowing how to live in everyday society. Use it for the needed support and give your support to your sisters but don’t get so caught up in it that it because what your life centers around. Sometimes the shelter that that world offers girls can damage them when they want to venture outside of it. That is one of the best things about those girls that have jobs, go to (or have gone) school, or conduct business outside the realms of drag shows, escorting, or porn (that is not to down the girls that do those things). Living a life so far from mainstream can make it hard on a girl who wants the normal mainstream things out of life.

Again, I think SRS is something that many girls need. I would neber try to dissuade a girl from going that route if it was something she needed. I think it has to be a decision that is about you and how you see yourself not about men, people on the street or anyone else. If they see you as a woman, it won’t matter what is down there.