Does your wife know?

[Ecstatic]

Sorry to hear about that, djbj. It gets back to my point about an open marriage--not open only or even necessarily in the sense of being able to sleep with whomever you want (though that may play a big part), but open in that you are open to full disclosure with your SO. Of course, when to be so open can be rough, especially in the beginning. If something--anything--is apt to be an issue, you don't want to keep it hidden too long, but you also understandably don't want to blurt it out too soon. In this instance, where you haven't violated your SO in any way other than your stash of porn, I would think the potential offense very small. But I wouldn't approach it from the porn angle or the sexual attraction angle first; I would engage her in a discussion about transgender issues. Maybe there's a movie or TV show which touches on it, or an article in a magazine. Talk with her about it, then tell her that you've thought about this before, and that you're attracted to such women--unless she's adamantly opposed. Then you have some choices to make.

[wiz77]

Well, I would have to say that I have a very loving and understanding wife. She knows everything there is about me. I have always been an adventurous person, however I wasn't always a trusting person when it came to my attraction to tg. I don't exactly remember how it came about that I told her, maybe through some fantasy revealed during intimate moments. I figured, I might as well be honest to her and myself. She was turned on by this, to my surprise. That lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. I felt like I could be me. I could be attracted to whom I wanted. I didn't have to hide my collection of movies...Since then, we have been to tg clubs and she loves to watch the attention I might recieve or the attention she gets. Makes me love her all that much more. Just my 2 cents

[Shandus]

I've been attracted to Tgirls since I was 13 (Thanks, Sulka), and I hid that from most of the significant women in my life, with two notable exceptions: One girl I dated for a while when I was 18, and when I told her about my fetish/fantasy, she couldn't handle it. The other was my wife, right after we got married. She took it like a trooper and let me have my fantasies and my collection of Tranny pics and videos. She just told me to leave them as nothing more than fantasies. We've been married for almost 13 years now, and I still have my fantasies. Of course, she's recently revealed to me that she has some lesbian fantasies as well. Now we're trying to find some good TS-GG porn.

[geekmeat]

I think this post is very interesting and it only confirms one of my
theories about men- most of you want your cake and to it eat as well.

I am not criticizing or being judgemental, but the matter of fact is that a lie is still a lie, and living a lie is still living a lie.
Funny part is I just don't understand why people can not be honest with each other. Especially the person you live with?????


From a person who has been lied to & cheated upon, well, let me tell you it sucks to be on the other side. It sucks to find out you have been living a lie.

For me, that is why I do not want a marrige, a boyfriend- an anything.
Number one I am to self abosorbed and two,
the only circumstance would be in an open relationship. I really believe that is the only type of relationship that works.
Being in this industry has thought me so much about men and sexuality that I KNOW for a fact that monogamy is IMPOSSIBLE for a man (it might well be as well for a woman).

So tell me men, why is that you lie?
I know that some of you really do not like yourselfs for having this attraction. Guess what is the number one question i hear all day darlings?
And further more I think this self angst often translates itself to the
way some(do I dare say most?) men treat transsexuals and women, especially the objectification of trannsexuals as pure sex objects.

After all these years, (yes I' m no spring chicken darlings), I now know that I am not the problem. The fact is most men can't really handle this attraction.

Were do I start?
Why do transexuals think THEY are the only ones objectified in a sexual way?
Women are looked upon as sex objects even more than transexuals.
Get over it!
It comes with the territory.
Ill tell you another thing:Men are looked upon as sex objects too.
Maybe its not so overt but it is there.

One thing I WILL agree with you on is that at least some one like me cant handle my attraction to SOME(transexuals).

[NYCe]

Were do I start?
Why do transexuals think THEY are the only ones objectified in a sexual way?
Women are looked upon as sex objects even more than transexuals.
Get over it!
It comes with the territory.
Ill tell you another thing:Men are looked upon as sex objects too.
Maybe its not so overt but it is there.

One thing I WILL agree with you on is that at least some one like me cant handle my attraction to SOME(transexuals).

[likemetgirls]

Hi I'am new to the board. Just been going through some of the threads and noticed this one, and I just thought i would contribute with my own experience.

I have been interested in t girls for about 6 years or so. I have had several girlfreinds in that time, which I were so scared of telling or even hinting as to my interest in the girls, My friends and family would never understand so I have kept it to myself. I would by tgirl dvd's magazines and look at t-girl sites. Dont get me wrong I was into other porn as well and enjoyed all the sex I got with every woman I was with but I was still curious.

My current girlfreind found out my interest by discovering transactions on my statements and confronting me. She was angry that I had spent money behind her back but not about the t-girls. She asked me why I was interested. I told her why, she did'nt think I was gay or anything just curious and that the t girl thing was just a fantasy.

A few months prior my girlfreind had been interested in me taking her dildos up my ass. She found it very erotic and would cum in a matter of minutes.

So she told me after finding out my secret that she thought it was ok and that she would like to look at t-girls with me. And I have since fucked her in the ass for the first time which she just loved and she used a 7 inch dildo on my ass while I jerked off. We intend to buy a strap on in the near future so she can really go at it. Which has been her fantasy for a while she loves my ass and cock and our sex life since she has found out my secret has never been as good.

I love her so much and now that we do everything together, I feel so free and happy with my sex life and my future with my girlfriend.

Sorry to go on but this has been a big deal for me and i thought i would share it with some of the members in here

[BeardedOne]

I'm surprised I never stumbled across this thread before (And I am so adept at 'thread necromancy' as one so aptly put it ). Maybe it's the word 'married' that scared me away.

Though never married (The 'ex' I refer to as such is only because 'ex' seems to be the only reference that people can grasp on to as regards that relationship, "The Wife" is a title bestowed on a friend that claims that the only thing missing is the ring, and all others are usually referred to in their actual state of being) and not currently (Or ever likely to be) with an SO of any gender, I can't speak to the 'being married' part of this thread. I have, however, noted some basic things that do touch home.

If I'm going to spend any appreciable amount of time with someone, especially if one or both of us is going to be nekkid in that time, they're going to know all of my 'dirty little sekrits', often above and beyond their desire to know them. Let's face it, I like to 'share'.

Many (I think it safe to say 'most') of my friends know about my bisexuality and that I am into T-girls. Those that don't probably assume that I am gay anyhow and have already conjured an image of me with a dick in my hand/mouth/ass in the back of their head already.

As regards 'lovers' (However loosely you might turn that definition), I've never hidden my desires, interests, or relationships from them or each other. Those that couldn't deal with it politely left the stage of intimacy (Though many remained friends/acquaintences), those that tried to change the scenery invariably failed to do so, and those that bravely tried to understand how I 'tick' are still winding their clocks.

I try not to be the 'typical man', by Allanah's definition (OK, so I've fibbed about the cheque in the post, oopssorrysosueme :P ), but the stamp's already on me by basic genetic association.

To those that are married or with an SO or LTR and are actively involved in TS/TG 'fandom' (For lack of better reference) and lieing about it or hiding it from those closest to you, you don't need a partner, you're already fucked.

[dabaldone]

Well, a topic I can relate to. I was married, twice to the same woman (insert sarcastic commet here). I had been dating TS women off and on for a while before I met her (20 yrs total). I think I remarried her because...well...she kinda looks like a pretty TS. Tall slender almost too pretty to be believable. But, I could never shake the fact that I had a desire for TS women. After her preganacy, the sex stopped and I couldn't take it anymore. Hell, I gave her almost a year to "get back to normal". But she didn't and I started dating TS women. We got divorced aand I date TS women almost exclusively. I know it's what I prefer, she knows, my family knows. Even my son knows. So what. It doesn't mean I'm anyless of a man. I just like a "special" kind of woman.

[djbj_2_2_69]

I think "To each his/her own" was made for this topic.

[Tommyboy_msu]

My wife and I are swingers, she knows that I love T-girls and she doesn't mind, but they do nothing for her. She loves to watch guys fuck and suck each other and wants me to join in, but I only like T-girls. I am on the lookout for a passable T-girl in the Detroit area so my wife can watch and hopefully will join in.