what would you do in this situation?

[Stavros]

For me the problem is that I don't understand the need some people have for pain and humiliation as their primary form of sexual pleasure. I think I can understand what might be an underlying psychological cause, but that doesn't make it something I can relate to in practice. On even a milder scale, I am never comfortable seeing people in porn grabbing the throat of their partner.

For example, in the early 1980s I went to the Fantasy Manor in NYC on West 21st Street, opposite the Danceteria. I wasn't sure what to find, and was confronted with people for whom pain and humiliation seemed to be what turned them on. I had a mildly interesting chat with two butch Lesbians who wanted to know what London was like (I lived there at the time). Not long after, I watched one of them urinate in the face of her partner.

The stunning Playboy Centrefold type woman behind the bar, who was only wearing a bra under her wrap-around dress, handcuffed the wrists of a light-skinned Black man about 20 years old to a hook suspended from the ceiling. His bare feet -in fact he was completely naked- were perched on a plank while she lighted a candle and dripped hot wax on his nipples and genitals, warning him when he reacted to maintain his balance, or fall off the plank and break his wrists. When it was over and he was dressed he seemed mighty pleased. I just didn't get it then, or now.

The oddest of all, is that back home I had a magazine with a spread featuring a model called Sally, who was sitting in front of me with a friend, and another young guy who didn't look more than 20, literally lying on the floor with his arms wrapped around her feet. She offered to give me a 'paddle', brandishing a table tennis racket, an offer I declined.

I am sure there is room for all sorts of experiences, and I am not a prude either, but as I say, I just don't understand where the sexual pleasure is in pain and humiliation, though I did read in one biography that TE Lawrence was once given a beating by two squaddies with a baseball bat or its equivalent, and came, which apparently was something of a triumph. I didn't see anyone ejaculate in that NY Club, so I remain confined to the explanation of sexual psychology and its variants, in Wilhelm Reich and others. I find that more interesting and enjoyable.

[Ponyboy]

I dont know if it's true but I read an article that if two emotions are combined together, it heigtens the experience. So if sexual arousal and pain are both aroused, it increases the intensity of experience. Apparently horror movies work the same way. People can enjoy things that scare them.
In my case, I dont enjoy pain, but I will endure some in order to please my partner. An australian actress called Sophie Monk once said "I just lie there and get flipped around like a bit of a doll and enjoy it". I am just like her. I like the man to take control. Also when a cock is inside me, I feel complete as a person. The problem that submissive people have is recognising when they are submitting too much.

[Ponyboy]

When someone talks about hurting bitches and un-consensual sex, then yeah I'm going to call them out. Don't like how this is run, take it elsewhere.

Your high moral standing is something that we can all aspire to and, I am sure if we were all like you, the world would be a better place.

[Imatwork]

What on earth are you talking about? my post simply said I wouldn't refer to them as My bitch. Where did I talk about hurting anyone in those 11 words that you are calling me out for.

[diddyboponTOP]

When someone talks about hurting bitches and un-consensual sex, then yeah I'm going to call them out.
Don't like how this is run, take it elsewhere.

I'll have to agree with this one. Plus the O.P lacks common sense. I'm pretty well hung and cocks are naturally meant for pussy not ass so I have come across issues a couple of times. In one case the girl actually shit on me as she was riding me, she was mostly a Top she wanted to get on top so she could control the situation but that was that usually they ask for more lube, or I'll know to slow down and take it easy, In a case it seemed like toture I would just stop hurting someone is not my idea of fun. Just like I never had sex with anyone Drunk if I was in my right mind frame which I almost always am since I hate to drink unless it's someone I have been to bed with before and I know she wants to be there. People who like hurting people during sex have no power in life they are the picked on folks like most cops they get that badge and feel like tough guys.

[GroobySteven]

What on earth are you talking about? my post simply said I wouldn't refer to them as My bitch. Where did I talk about hurting anyone in those 11 words that you are calling me out for.

What would you do if you were fucking your bitch and enjoying their tight hole. However, you can tell from your bitch's face that this is hurting them. He or she is enduring the pain because they want to please you. They do not complain but just take you. However, the look on their face shows you that they really are in pain and it starts to reduce your enjoyment. So what do you do?


1. Do you stop having sex?
2. Do you go slower and more gentle?
3. Do you tell them to turn over so you cant see their face?
4. Do you cover their face with a pillow so you can enjoy their tight hole without distraction?
5. Something else (describe)?


Referring to the OP and then you commenting on why you had an issue with me calling him out on it.

[GroobySteven]

Your high moral standing is something that we can all aspire to and, I am sure if we were all like you, the world would be a better place.

It certainly would.
Happy that you can recognize that.

When we stop referring to women as 'bitches', or causing people pain - then we'll be a few steps forward.

[Ponyboy]

It certainly would.
Happy that you can recognize that. When we stop referring to women as 'bitches', or causing people pain - then we'll be a few steps forward.

Yes you are absolutely right. I have had a number of people take me from behind, slap my arse and call me their bitch. Next time it happens, I will tell them they are not meeting the high moral standards set by GroobySteven. I am sure they will change their behaviour. We all aspire to be like you.

I notice you think I refer to women when I use the word bitches. The reason I use the word bitch is because it can refer to men and women.

[Ponyboy]

What is this 1880?

I bet you're a very short man, or have some sort of lack of self-esteem.

Many years ago, we had a member of this website called Nicole Dupres who used to make comments like this. She would often be aggressive at other members and some left as a result. It's sad to see the same behaviours return. And I bet you think you have high morals.

[GroobySteven]

Yes you are absolutely right. I have had a number of people take me from behind, slap my arse and call me their bitch. Next time it happens, I will tell them they are not meeting the high moral standards set by GroobySteven. I am sure they will change their behaviour. We all aspire to be like you.

I notice you think I refer to women when I use the word bitches. The reason I use the word bitch is because it can refer to men and women.

This is a trans forum
"What would you do if you were fucking your bitch and enjoying their tight hole. However, you can tell from your bitch's face that this is hurting them."

Nobody reading this would have inferred you were talking about a male or yourself. Sorry to have bruised your delicate sensibilities. Try communicating better and using better words.