to the girls: do you prefer to be stunning or passable?

[kmersh]

My two cents for whatever they are not worth (as I am a guy).

I am married to a transgender woman and I would say without a doubt that she would choose "passable" 10 time out of ten over "stunning".

As far as she is concerned, blending into society and being accepted for who she is, a woman, is far more important, but that is her, other woman might feel differently.

We shop at Costco (a wholesale club) fairly frequently and we have noticed on a few occasions another transgender woman who I guess could be classified as "stunning". She always wears heels, a dress, makeup, does her hair, shows off her breasts, etc. makes folks look.

My wife does not understand her motivation, while folks here may feel that she is stunning (and no doubt she could easily make the list posted up thread) society as a whole unfortunately does not and many folks make snide comments when she walks by. Essentially they are laughing at her, not with her.

Last time we saw her, my wife said, it is Costco for crying out loud, not a fashion show. She feels the biggest mistake transgender woman tend to make is becoming "hyper-feminine" to make up for lost time. She feels that by blending in, being the girl next door, makes being accepted easier.

Obviously, we as individuals may and most likely will feel differently.

[MrFanti]

you don't even know what that means which makes you even more beta.

Actually....
You don't understand. Read my signature to educate yourself about us Sigmas.

And the nice thing about us Sigma's is that we don't have the insecurities of you Alphas (i.e. we don't need a pack of followers). And we don't submit to you Alphas either which frustrates you folks.

Cheers!

[dirtrail]

I’m not quite sure what “passable” vs “stunning” in accordance with the op, but I like my girls very feminine, a nice personality goes alond ways, and definitely passable.

“Stunning” sounds expensive and a possibility a pain in the ass, lol

[morim]

Well, at this point I think to understand that many girls prefer to be fine and pretty but not "too gorgeous" because this would make them be clockable among other women.

[WendyWilliams]

Seeing so many guys comment on their beliefs is amusing as most of yall just see Trans women as a sexual object, fantasy or experiment.

Let me say I have been living as Wendy for almost 20 years and when young, naive, and listening to other's we are taught or programmed we must PASS and beauty is measured by how many surgeries and how "passable" you are and sadly thats just not true. Being passable doesn't necessarily mean "pretty". Most average looking women pass better than the barbie looking surgery TS.

For me being tall and a husky voice I in fact BLEND into society fine and thats all I really want and need. As you get older you become more comortable and the VAIN moments of your life become a distant memory. I rather being able to function in society and live comfortable then worry about what others label me as.

Also one's definition of "passable" or "stunning" is personal taste. I am a prime example of that LOL. My entire 16 year career I've been judged by my physical looks and yet I continue to be one of the most successful Trans women of our Industry.

I would hope ladies are more worried about being financially stunning then having legends of fans comparing them to fellow Trans sisters. I also hope people stop thinking that being passable means being pretty as thats just not how it works. YES being able to "pass" helps in society but it doesn't necessarily mean it makes your life any easier.

Finally being "stunning" will def. help many ladies in their career with opportunities, quick money, and companies standing behind tjem but I've seen many of those STUNNING ladies exhaust those stunning looks quickly and look where they are now!

[Cereal Escapist]

Seeing so many guys comment on their beliefs is amusing as most of yall just see Trans women as a sexual object, fantasy or experiment.

despite some of our best efforts, this is in the end, a porn board, so what do you expect?

you are absolutely correct that definitions are a matter of personal taste.

the most wondrous transwoman I know personally is neither stunning nor passable. she simply checks every box for me though I suspect most on this board would say she is not hot, cute or substitute any usual word that supplants beauty since in the end, beauty, attractiveness, etc is all subjective and superficial and what if anything other than superficiality is discussed on a porn board?

[WendyWilliams]

despite some of our best efforts, this is in the end, a porn board, so what do you expect?

you are absolutely correct that definitions are a matter of personal taste.

the most wondrous transwoman I know personally is neither stunning nor passable. she simply checks every box for me though I suspect most on this board would say she is not hot, cute or substitute any usual word that supplants beauty since in the end, beauty, attractiveness, etc is all subjective and superficial and what if anything other than superficiality is discussed on a porn board?

So because its a "porn" board Im not allowed to comment or have a opinion. I should just sit back and allow MEN to define me and my sisters all because I chose to do Porn. Your logic makes no sense because even though its PORN its still a DISCUSSION FORUM and I am only stating my opinion since the thread said TO THE GIRLS not TO THE CHASERS or TO THE HORNY or TO THE GUYS......... so yea Ill continue to call out the bullshit and THIRST as long as Im still involved here, Ive been a member for 15 years on this board TRUST I know what kind of board it is.

[MrFanti]

Also one's definition of "passable" or "stunning" is personal taste. I am a prime example of that LOL. My entire 16 year career I've been judged by my physical looks and yet I continue to be one of the most successful Trans women of our Industry.

Wendy,
The best looks in the world can't make up for (in pure sex terms), eroticism, ecstasy, and alluring sexuality. You have all 3 in spades!
What makes your scenes so hot is that you're into it at a personal level that we all can relate to....

[MrFanti]

So because its a "porn" board Im not allowed to comment or have a opinion. I should just sit back and allow MEN to define me and my sisters all because I chose to do Porn. Your logic makes no sense because even though its PORN its still a DISCUSSION FORUM and I am only stating my opinion since the thread said TO THE GIRLS not TO THE CHASERS or TO THE HORNY or TO THE GUYS......... so yea Ill continue to call out the bullshit and THIRST as long as Im still involved here, Ive been a member for 15 years on this board TRUST I know what kind of board it is.

Bingo!
And a lot of folks get pissed when your perspective doesn't align with theirs...

[Cereal Escapist]

So because its a "porn" board Im not allowed to comment or have a opinion. I should just sit back and allow MEN to define me and my sisters all because I chose to do Porn. Your logic makes no sense because even though its PORN its still a DISCUSSION FORUM and I am only stating my opinion since the thread said TO THE GIRLS not TO THE CHASERS or TO THE HORNY or TO THE GUYS......... so yea Ill continue to call out the bullshit and THIRST as long as Im still involved here, Ive been a member for 15 years on this board TRUST I know what kind of board it is.

hmm...you get defensive quite quickly. actually nothing i said was against you, just pointing out that you are expecting too much from a porn board while being equally judgmental about your customers as they are of you, or at least what they know of you.

get over yourself since all I commented on was that you will not get much more than a superficial response from the average porn fanatic.