What was your first time being topped like? Any tips for a first timer?

[brimgang]

Hey guys, long time lurker here. Will be getting topped tomorrow, and I have some questions about being topped for the first time.

1. How did you get past the nerves of turning it from a fantasy to a reality?
2. Did the girl help you clean before starting? I'll only be able to clean the outside since I can't douche/enema.
3. Any words/pronouns to avoid using?
4. I'd assume most of you guys have seen providers. Did you use your real number to contact them?

Thanks!

[Gillian]

Why can't you douche? Can't or don't know how? I'd say it's a prerequisite and don't assume all girls will be keen to assist ...

[KelliBlueEyes]

Hey guys, long time lurker here. Will be getting topped tomorrow, and I have some questions about being topped for the first time.

1. How did you get past the nerves of turning it from a fantasy to a reality?
2. Did the girl help you clean before starting? I'll only be able to clean the outside since I can't douche/enema.
3. Any words/pronouns to avoid using?
4. I'd assume most of you guys have seen providers. Did you use your real number to contact them?

Thanks!

I know you asked the guys, but I can probably be of more assistance

1. grin and bear it
2. very rare you would find a girl that will help you clean out, who knows, maybe you;ll get lucky. I don't top at all anymore because guys don't know how to clean themselves, and the sight or smell of feces completely turns me off. Remember all those reviews about how the girl said she could top but then during the appointment couldn't stay hard enough to penetrate the guy? yeah, reason is dirty ass
3. don't say shemale or tranny, jeez, everyone should know that by now. Treat her like you do any girl. She/her
4. Most girls are not taking calls or texts from VoiP numbers, so you'll have to use an actual phone. Some girls, the best and more reputable girls do some minor screening, if nothing comes up on caller ID she may not take your call.

[brimgang]

Why can't you douche? Can't or don't know how? I'd say it's a prerequisite and don't assume all girls will be keen to assist ...

Don't know how, and current living arrangements makes it hard to do/having to hide it from people.

[Cereal Escapist]

Hey guys, long time lurker here. Will be getting topped tomorrow, and I have some questions about being topped for the first time.

1. How did you get past the nerves of turning it from a fantasy to a reality?
2. Did the girl help you clean before starting? I'll only be able to clean the outside since I can't douche/enema.
3. Any words/pronouns to avoid using?
4. I'd assume most of you guys have seen providers. Did you use your real number to contact them?

Thanks!

1. I wasn't nervous about the actual event moreso than nervous about paying for it. but, in retrospect, i was too anxious to actually enjoy it because I tried to get all my "fantasies" in (because I was paying) and ended up going through the motions instead of savoring each moment.

2. i see this a lot, people talking about being clean and so forth. when i dated, i would pick up a girl and fuck her, hopefully getting into her ass. when i want to fuck my wife, we just do...there is no preparation, it is just, we are in the mood and do it. the idea of preparing for anal actually escapes me because in everyday life, you don't do it. i totally get it in porn since anal sex is not the same as scat porn, but in reality, unless you want to do ATM (which I don't do either way), just bend over and have some fun.

3. probably. Shemale and tranny are now part of the faux pas cultural lexicon and stay away from those normatives like racial remarks.

4. i have not been with an escort in years, but i have had the same cell phone number since 2001. Never had any issues. I am sure there are those that have burner phones to try to hide their identity so use caution, but since I am open about my love to tgirls, I didn't need to hide anything. I think that girls have so many guys calling them that unless you give them cause to remember your number (good or bad), it might not matter.

[brimgang]

I know you asked the guys, but I can probably be of more assistance

1. grin and bear it

Question #1 was more about not backing out. Like, if I jerk off to the fantasy, after I bust I won't want to go through with it. I don't want that to happen and waste the girl's time.

Some more questions for everyone:
Would taking off my shower head, and using the hose to spray some water inside to clean be good enough? If not I might just buy a douche from a CVS or something on my way to the girl.
Did you crave more after your first time? Or was it just fantasy fulfilled, and that's it?

[Gillian]

Don't know how, and current living arrangements makes it hard to do/having to hide it from people.

Jeez. A quick Google and ...



And as for the douche, surely you can smuggle it into the loo in your pocket and hide it in your "man-shed" at other times?

[flabbybody]

Jeez. A quick Google and ...



And as for the douche, surely you can smuggle it into the loo in your pocket and hide it in your "man-shed" at other times?

whatta hottie...love to see her demonstrate douche on herself