My husband cheated on me with TS/TV

[Upsetwife]

I have had a long term relationship in the past where we shared our bed with an escort and I think it lengthened the relationship and enhanced it. I'm not promoting any lifestyle and am not a hypocrite so if I discovered my wife seeing others I would look no further than myself that something was not quite right in the relationship and if I wanted to seek to fix it. That's just my view and definately not yours. Just to say if both partners were 100% happy would they stray? You can attempt to fill the gaps or move on. Paying an escort removes any risk of emotional attachments and is the least harmful way of fixing these longings. Again I'm not preaching just saying how I feel.

And as for being a hypocrite I'm not 1 either and I have never cheated in any of my relationships. I was married previously for 17 years and we parted good friends, neither of us cheated once

[john1990]

This is getting a bit tiresome now. This is nothing to do with the original topic. Please create a new thread if you want to discuss the matter further and refrain from going off topic in all the threads you're replying to.

[polarfox67]

This is getting a bit tiresome now. This is nothing to do with the original topic. Please create a new thread if you want to discuss the matter further and refrain from going off topic in all the threads you're replying to.

[Upsetwife]

This is getting a bit tiresome now. This is nothing to do with the original topic. Please create a new thread if you want to discuss the matter further and refrain from going off topic in all the threads you're replying to.

Sorry you feel like this but I could say to you if you don't like reading it go to another thread but I won't cause I'm mot rude like that
My husband happened to of commented on this thread and I commented as I see it, it's just carried on so please if you don't like anything I've written don't read it

[john1990]

Sorry you feel like this but I could say to you if you don't like reading it go to another thread but I won't cause I'm mot rude like that
My husband happened to of commented on this thread and I commented as I see it, it's just carried on so please if you don't like anything I've written don't read it

Yes but your husband was on the topic of the thread so that's fine. That's how forums work, you have a subject or a topic matter and you keep roughly to that. Having several "mothers meetings" in multiple threads irrelevant to the original topic is not the idea of a forum.

Look I've strayed off the topic matter. But that's only because I'm trying to help you understand that if want any more meaningful responses then you need to create your own thread and not hijack others.

[Laphroaig]

Would you feel the same if you found out your wife was seeing escorts behind your back and what woukd be your response if she gave you the option to either split up or tolerate her HOBBY? This is question all you married men should ask yourself if you truly do love your wife.
I am deeply in love with my husband and couldn't even bring myself to look at another person in a sexual way

4 points:

1. Love, lust and sex can be separated.
2. There were only 9 people (8 if you remove me. I'm pretty certain it's not nobby, so down to 7.) who have contributed to this thread before you commented. If one of those 7 really is your husband and he hasn't realised he's being talked about yet, then he's either thick as 2 short planks or you've got it wrong. How do you actually know it's him?
3. Just tell him your suspicions, discuss it like adults, and either work it out or get a divorce.
4. Being on here isn't going to give you the answers.

[Upsetwife]

4 points:

1. Love, lust and sex can be separated.
2. There were only 9 people (8 if you remove me. I'm pretty certain it's not nobby, so down to 7.) who have contributed to this thread before you commented. If one of those 7 really is your husband and he hasn't realised he's being talked about yet, then he's either thick as 2 short planks or you've got it wrong. How do you actually know it's him?
3. Just tell him your suspicions, discuss it like adults, and either work it out or get a divorce.
4. Being on here isn't going to give you the answers.

Point 1
You may be able to desperate love list and sex but I got married and took my view seriously
Point 2
He is on here and the only reason he hasn't commented as he hasn't been on here since he commented
Point 3
If I could do that I wouldn't be here in the first place
Point 4
I have had dozens of messages from people actually offering me help in understand why he did this and it has helped me a lot
You may not like what I have done but frankly it's my life that I'm dealing with and I'm doing it as best I can in the circumstances. I may not be dealing with it the way you or others would and you may not understand why I'm doing this, I don't really understand it myself but hey I don't tell anyone else what they do is wrong so please have a bit more compassion for women like me (of which I'm sure there are hundreds if not thousands) who don't understand this fetish but are trying to and wanting to save their marriage

[Upsetwife]

Yes but your husband was on the topic of the thread so that's fine. That's how forums work, you have a subject or a topic matter and you keep roughly to that. Having several "mothers meetings" in multiple threads irrelevant to the original topic is not the idea of a forum.

Look I've strayed off the topic matter. But that's only because I'm trying to help you understand that if want any more meaningful responses then you need to create your own thread and not hijack others.

If I did that then if my husband does come back on here he won't see them plus I have no idea how to start a new thread

[Upsetwife]

4 points:

1. Love, lust and sex can be separated.
2. There were only 9 people (8 if you remove me. I'm pretty certain it's not nobby, so down to 7.) who have contributed to this thread before you commented. If one of those 7 really is your husband and he hasn't realised he's being talked about yet, then he's either thick as 2 short planks or you've got it wrong. How do you actually know it's him?
3. Just tell him your suspicions, discuss it like adults, and either work it out or get a divorce.
4. Being on here isn't going to give you the answers.

I also know it's him cause I logged on with his username and the password he has stored in his notes on his phone and hey Presto!!! That's how I first read all the comments he wrote. I then made my own account up once I had got past the screaming hysterically and sobbing my heart out

[Laphroaig]

Point 1
You may be able to desperate love list and sex but I got married and took my view seriously
Point 2
He is on here and the only reason he hasn't commented as he hasn't been on here since he commented
Point 3
If I could do that I wouldn't be here in the first place
Point 4
I have had dozens of messages from people actually offering me help in understand why he did this and it has helped me a lot
You may not like what I have done but frankly it's my life that I'm dealing with and I'm doing it as best I can in the circumstances. I may not be dealing with it the way you or others would and you may not understand why I'm doing this, I don't really understand it myself but hey I don't tell anyone else what they do is wrong so please have a bit more compassion for women like me (of which I'm sure there are hundreds if not thousands) who don't understand this fetish but are trying to and wanting to save their marriage

You've just lost any sympathy I had for you. Assuming this whole thing isn't just bullshit trolling, which is looking more and more likely, then grow up and talk to him about it. Seems like it's communication that's the problem in your marriage...