Confused By My Sexuality

[T-S-Curious]

Aticus, your story sounds very interesting. I do not wish to attach detrimental connotation to words like "gay" or "bi", but unfortunately we live in a society that seems to do so. I guess that's why I'm struggling a little with my confliction. My "hobby" of visiting Escorts is very much a secret, but my interest in TS is way more covert. I would be mortified if my interest in TS got out to Family and Friends. Hopefully the people here understand that, I'm not trying to offend or upset anyone, but it's how society at large perceives things.

[Aticus100]

I fully appreciate your reservations when it comes to others knowing about your interest in an unusual (and misunderstood) group.
I used to share your reservations but I realised a simple truth.
No one actually cares what you do.

Think of the most salacious, outrageous piece of gossip you ever heard about someone you know and then ask yourself how much you actually care about it.
Sure you may have thought about it for a few minutes when you first heard it, maybe it amused or intrigued you for a few moments.
Perhaps you have thought about it since then for a few moments at a time but in reality, you don't care. And even if you do, the subject of the issue doesn't even know you thought about it let alone have they been affected by your interest or lack of it.
Well it cuts both ways. You consider others knowing your secret to be a terrible thought. Horrifying. The end of the world. And you are allowing your perception of their reaction to dictate how you live your life.
Fuck that. Your not hurting anyone so no one else actually give a flying fuck, at least not for more than a few moments so don't let that impact your decisions.
When your on your deathbed do you really want to look back and think "I could have had such a great time and done all that I wanted but I was too worried about what other people thought to do so"?

[holzz]

not this shit again....

sorry, OP, tha'ts NOT a dig at you.

it's just the same question emerges again and again...

doesn't a trans woman LOOK LIKE and act like a woman? then you're not gay.

if you know men don't do it for you, then you're not gay in any event.

i don't think receiving anal or like anal penetration is gay anyhow, there's no reason why it's inherently gay.

i hope sincerely i'm not being rude, it's just i've been seeing TS porn since 2001, long before probably most current porn stars were active, or evven transitioning for that matter. i just to think it made me gay, but then i know i find men disgusting sexually, and it's the feminine body of a trans woman tha gets me. whether she has a penis or not, i don't care.

this hottie is trans.

would you know if you saw her in the street, or in a club, or bar, or in school?



the last i heard/knew, she was non-op too. so if you wanted to hit on her, and she told you that, would go from straight to gay instantly? considering she's pretty passable, then just accept you like women and womanly looks.

[T-S-Curious]

Aticus: I'm not allowing others to determine my actions, I do what makes me happy. However, I do keep certain things secret. I beg to differ on your comment that people are so blase as to not give a fuck, we (unfortunately) still live in a very judgemental society. However, if you can live your life and truly not worry what others think, more power to you, I really do envy a life free from the anxieties I suffer.
holzz: I understand your "not this shit again" comment, and am not offended. I actually thought I would get lambasted to a degree, and am pleasantly surprised that (thus far) I haven't been. The girl in the pic you posted is most certainly hot, and I would have no problem getting it on with her.

[sweetcream]

Trying to label yourself is a fruitless and rather pointless task. You say labels don't mean much, so why bother?

I'm a tgirl but usually describe myself as bisexual if anyone asks. At the end of the day, I like what I like and I am what I am. Does anything else really matter?

excellant answer and i like you too

[Aticus100]

TS-Curious, my point being if people do care, it is not near as much as you imagine.
If they do, it is fleeting curiosity. We perceive our own importance as far greater than it is in the lives of most others while we accept that others outside of our inidiate family hold little or no real interest to us.
To worry about what other think is to pointlessly limit your own expression and desires.
I told my friends. They took the piss bit didn't care.
I told the 600 van drivers I work with. They don't care.
I took my OH to join the gym I have used for years a month ago with all the guys I train with. None of them care.
If people have issues or prejudices, it's incredibly unlikely they will be aired to you so why worry about it. I appreciate this is easy for me to say as I very comfortable with my new found lease of life but this was not always so and it's worth sharing how liberating it is to anyone still burdened with concern about how others will perceive them.

[gaysian71]

I personally think being attracted to trans women makes you a blatant homosexual.

[gaysian71]

I personally think being attracted to trans women makes you a blatant homosexual.

Ha haaaaaaa. I was just kidding. The fact of the matter is that most men who are attracted to trans women are also attracted to genetic women. There are a few exceptions of homosexual men being attracted to trans women. But it's pretty rare.

So, you can call yourself whatever you like. But as long as you are doing what feels right to you, it doesn't really matter what you call yourself, does it? I personally don't give a fuck what anyone calls me.

[Lester316]

I personally think being attracted to trans women makes you a blatant homosexual.

Personally I think your opinion is an insult to all trans-women. Nothing wrong with being homosexual of course but it literally means to be a man attracted to other men; I can't think of one trans-WOMAN who identifies as a man. I think that your comment makes you a blatant hypocrite for even bothering to join this forum.

[gaysian71]

Personally I think your opinion is an insult to all trans-women. Nothing wrong with being homosexual of course but it literally means to be a man attracted to other men; I can't think of one trans-WOMAN who identifies as a man. I think that your comment makes you a blatant hypocrite for even bothering to join this forum.

Lol, I guess you didn't see the rest.