Whats more damaging to you, Porn or Online Dating?

[tacocorpv2]

the trans online dating thing is working for you....as a guy? wow! i think you are going to get alot of emails from guys asking how you pulled that off! hell even on GG online dating....i got maybe...maybe 1 email a month!
it was causing me some very serious depression issues.

Dunno, just put a decent picture and some not too cheesy description. I just checked out the profiles of the women I liked, didn't even write anything and then they would write to me instead (not everyone but plenty). And you can go from there.

I'm not on any such sites anymore. Just here.

[Samui]

Porn has always been a positive to my happiness. Online Dating was a depressing endeavor and as soon as I quit I felt immensely better. I really don't like dating.

[sockratees]

I'm not on any such sites anymore.

Why?

[Ts RedVeX]

Port! ehe he hee

[SXFX]

port...he he ok that was funny.

For me....you are talking about a guy who after being a dumbfuck and paid for his x wife's university education was divorced via text message out of the blue....thank god it was only 3 of the 4 years.....online dating was worse than that!

Getting divorced or getting dumped after a long term relationship even if it's out of the blue can be seen as being rejected by one woman.

Real life world of meeting a person at a bar or a cafe where the rejection rate is 90%+ is also being rejected by one person...and on any given night....maybe 5 women will reject you and 1 will smile. ok that's nice.

online dating.......you can be rejected as fast as you can send messages on OKcupid or swiping right on Bumble or Tinder.
Each non returned swipe is a rejection....at first it's nothing....just a passing thing to do while you wait for your friends but then it hit you...holy fuck i just got rejected by 100+ random strangers! OMG i must be a very ugly person....

For me i'll be honest online dating almost had me on prozac and feeling as if i were the ugliest man in the world....and since i work in the tech industry where it's 999999 men to 10 handsome ladies....my real life reinforced my online life....it was a horrible death spin.

Now porn? ok the only thing i've noticed between porn and real life is this....AMERICAN WOMEN ARE FAT AS FUCK! Flat bellies and strong legs are an endangered species here in the north east outside of our major cities! While in porn flat bellies are the norm...in real life it's next to impossible to find......and i can deal with that.....

the non stop rejections........shit no.....fuck no.....hell no......

[sockratees]

It's not like dude. You're taking these apps way too seriously, plus you didn't answer my question.

[SXFX]

looking for a relationship.....late bloomer in life...not use to or even understand hookup culture....i'm a dummy serial monogamist

[sockratees]

Online dating is a different world from RL dating. Women there tend to be a lot picker than your average girl, plus a large percent of them are only there out of curiosity and aren't even sure if they want to meet someone.

For instance, I had been on one dating site for 6 months. By month 5 I realized that almost HALF of the women I had contacted had deleted their accounts. What does that tell you? Women get maybe 20-30 times more messages than your average guy, yet that doesn't mean they're actually going out on dates/meeting the guys they want/succeeding. Look at the statistics for online dating, you will see guys get significantly less messages than their female counter parts. That means girls are flooded with attention, much more than they can really tend to properly. It's an uphill battle for guys, so don't judge yourself by a profile. It took me a while to figure out who to message, who not to, and what to write before I got the hang of it.

I get responses from girls, that doesn't mean it actually works out for me like I want it to. I don't use it for dates anymore, mostly just chatting up local girls because I enjoy the interaction. If I'm lucky I might meet up with one after a couple of weeks with really no expectations. Just friends. And that's the way I like it. If it turns into something more then great.

My advice is look somewhere else or join a paid site if you're serious. Guys get much better results there.

[SanDiegoPervySage]

You need to realize even the hottest guys only attract a small percentage of women. And even a smaller amount are available. You need to get this idea of wanting every girl you like or swipe to like you.

Also, I look through men's dating profiles for too see how I can get a one up on them. Is not hard. Most of the guys are out of shape, can't dress, have terrible pics, try to be too funny or come off as a total simp or too nice (not saying to be a dick). It really does take some time to get good at making an appealing profile.

You ever see the articles that have "20 things to make yourself instantly hotter"? Listen to those. A lot of those things are common sense but a lot of men still don't know them. A decent physique+well fitting clothes+nice haircut (something trendy) will put you ahead of your average man. Also, women are shallow when it comes to height so don't have pics that show you're short, if you are. Lots of girls will automatically skip you because you're short. That's just how the game is played. Maximize your looks, don't focus on what you can't change, hit the numbers.

[Budweiser]

It sure is terrible being on top of the social ladder, especially if you're white, educated and reasonably attractive.

Here come the misguided socialists.

The anti-white racist nerds are hilarious.

Trump 2020, baby!