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06-15-2017 #41
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Re: Advice on confession to wife.
He could try that hypnosis stuff, personally I don't believe in it but who knows... Make the desire to go away so to speak.
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06-15-2017 #42
Re: Advice on confession to wife.
My grandma always said: "If he comes back for the night, then it's all good". (And they had been married with my grandad for over 60 years.)
If your wife doesn't want to be with you any more, she will do everything to use this situation to get free.
If she does want to be with you, then you will stay together. Only now, you know eachother better.
nysprod is right. Unless you want to have a toxic relationship. I would try to use the fact that you are out to my advantage if I were in your shoes. After all, nothing has changed in what you feel towards your wife. You have had this thing for trans girls all the way and your marriage was fine, so it should remain like that. The problem is that you have lost your wife's trust rather than that you are attracted to tgirls.
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06-15-2017 #43
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Re: Advice on confession to wife.
My point is you should NEVER divorce your wife/spouse because you are masturbating to shemale porn. That is insane and completely irresponsible and those giving that kind of advice have no clue about relationships.
A marriage is not a piece of paper that you just discard like that.
I agree that you won't be able suppress.
OP keep your wife which I am sure you love and continue to jerk off to shemale porn.
I don't see the harm here.
And I don't understand why someone said that OP broke her trust.
He didn't cheat so what trust did the OP break?
The trust he should be watching straight porn?
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06-15-2017 #44
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Re: Advice on confession to wife.
sorry to grad this off topic....but maybe because i live near NYC.....but women GG women are very threatened by TS women!
It's a visceral angry kind of anger!
I've seen so many fights where the GG woman looses her shit when she is half drunk and bumps into a attractive TS woman....it's scary! ladies be careful! please!
now back to your regularly scheduled story.....
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06-15-2017 #45
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Re: Advice on confession to wife.
If you go back and look at the OP's initial post, people told him to get a divorce after he told his wife about his interest in transsexuals and because of what her reaction to that confession was going to be. Its not just because he was masturbating to shemale porn. Its because he has a sexual desire and attraction to them that many people feel that he will eventually succumb to and wind up cheating on his wife. When that happens, then he will have truly broken her heart and her trust.
Of course divorce is never easy. But sometimes doing the right thing never is.
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06-15-2017 #46
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06-16-2017 #47
Re: Advice on confession to wife.
I think he broke her trust because I am 100% sure she thinks that either he had cheated on her or is going to do it.
The idea of getting a divorce over a sexual fantasy is just ridiculous and immature.
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06-16-2017 #48
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Re: Advice on confession to wife.
To fill in a few gaps of info:
-Been trans attracted for 12 years.
-Been with my wife for 7 years. 6 years ago she discovered my attraction.
-Lied for the last 6 years that I was over it.
-No kids, she does odd jobs as a military spouse.
-Were together before I enlisted.
-Wife is my first and only lover.
-Wife and I are approaching our mid-30s.
Coming out to my wife was very difficult and it was extremely hard to watch her reaction. In her mind she was married to her perfect man. A kinds, smart, handsome, fit, military officer and she enjoyed perks of traveling around the world and live a very cushy life with a lot of benefits. Over night I went from an "officer and a gentleman" to in her opinion a possible homosexual who only married her so I had arm candy. Her being my first love is a huge problem for her as she feels I felt obligated to marry her and I remained a single virgin till I met her because I was possibly in the closet.
She tells me she crys every night now till the early morning. Her mind is racing with so many thoughts and has no trust for anything I say. Which is warranted. The internet isn't helping as similar story from other angry wife's all end in disasterous ways.
I always though coming out would be liberating instead I traded one pain for a greater one. My wife is so confused and heart broken. It's so painful to see her like this. The worst part is I can't even make her feel secure by promising this will go away, It won't and I'm not going to lie.
My attraction to transwomen (pre-op/non-op) is primal. Sometimes about a girl with a hardon makes want to top them with an animalistic energy. It is something I have felt for no GG and I do get excited for GG but this is different. Thank goodness I'm in control of my urges and have zero game with women, keeps me from making poor decisions. Anyways this won't go away.
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06-16-2017 #49
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Re: Advice on confession to wife.
I think your wife needs to realize she has a good man that even though you have these fantasies/desires you still haven't acted on it.
Perhaps you can go a different route and this might not work for you or her.
My wife is very open sexually.
So the solution we came up with is we will fulfill each other's sexual fantasy with each other present and participating.
And that might work for you.
Take her to a sexually charge environment, like a Swingers club. You don't have to participate, just watch. See her reaction.
You both are in the middle of your sexual peak - Don't waste it.
Find a middle ground, let her act out a fantasy then you act yours.
It will make you both stronger and create a bigger bond.
There is nothing like being able to share you naughty desires with someone you love, makes it more enjoyable.
You will have incredible adventures and the orgasm will be more intense.
I am amazed you were able to hold out this long, it speaks volume in my book of your desire to remain faithful.
Guys have primal instincts that can be difficult to control.
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06-17-2017 #50
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Re: Advice on confession to wife.
She does realize that I'm a decent man...
However, shes confused about my sexual orientation. She just cant wrap her mind around a transwomen being a women and not a man. She point blank asked me if I would have sex with a tgirl (not like cheating just in general) I basically said I don't know but after a repeated questioning I just said yes. Honesty is making things worse.... Now she knows my ultimate fantasy and told me I should of married a transgirl and then questioned me If Id try to have a threesome with a trans and if id penetrate them and play with their dick. It was such an awkward conversation. She feel that one day when we have kids and shes busy with the kids and fat that Ill cheat with a transgirl. She thinks my desire to have anal sex with her is trans driven so I can pretend I with a trans women. She asked how id feel if she wore a strap-on while I fucked her and I was like I feel its a bit wired (silly) and she got all mad because I want a real penis.
I just can't say the right thing here.
The only positive thing is her hair dresser is a transwomen and she had a conversation with her today and invited her over and I guess she will get to know a transgirl personally. I feel my wife will confide in this women, it could be good or bad....
She thinks I need to see a therapist, because I suffer from gynemimetophilia. I dont suffer from anything.
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