Met a women, she has HIV, would you date a women with?

[TSLoverIB]

Hey guys
Been on the forum a long time, met good people here.
Figured id ask, see what you all think.
Met a women recently, shes great, sweet, fun, caring, sexy, etc etc.
Anyway shes HIV+, i am Negative.
Shes on ART, undetectable, was honest from meeting me about being positive.

Ive never been someone to judge anyone, for any reason.
Some people would just say hell no, and move on, others would say i would be a friend.
When i met her, i decided to do just that, when she told me. I was also honest, told her it was something i was not wanting to take on at the moment. I have a company, rental properties, bullshit to deal with. Not really looking to put HIV in the mix as to take on as something to worry about.
So she comes back and says, thats ok, thank you for being honest, we will can just be friends.
Obviously some would say, i dont trust the science, maybe because of stigma still, idk.

With the advances in her medication, and with todays PreP.
Then i started thinking, ive read about it, i know how to not get it.
So far, we talk everyday, we flirt, etc etc, there is something more there, then just friends.

I grew up in the day of AIDs tho, seen a friend in middle school die of it. He was such a cool kid, got it through blood transfusion, was not his fault. See people in the 80s waste away, fucking hate this is disease. No one deserves to get it, kinda reminds me of today in todays age is cancer. I know in the 80s guys with AIDs were dying of a cancer.

But as i think, this is a new day, new time, new science, new medicine.
I have read serodiscordant couples, no transmissions between them in the study.
The couples use other protections, condoms, some to not use condoms.

Just recently read can remove HIV through DNA Crispr success.

Makes me wonder a conversation me and friends had in the 90s. A lady i worked with, others talking one day, the ladies some was a hemophilia. One of her greatest fears was him contracting AIDs in his blood one day. I remember some of the others commenting, they already have a cure, but no money in cures.

I keep thinking maybe there is a cure, maybe they are right. Maybe a cure is in site, but something else will follow. They wont cure it until something else, that has the effects of AIDs, but makes money, (like cancer)

I think on this forum, have i read topics, on HIV, AIDs, we have discussed here.

I really like this person, if she can take her meds, and i can take precautions, so considering taking things further. Shes made a few comments of i have a convention near you soon, maybe we can get together.

I have always taken care of my health, never slept around with some i didn't feel something for. I just don't do that shit.

Just kinda hate the thought of being in a relationship thats meant to be monogamous and have to use condoms, or have to avoid thing i like in bed.

What do you guys think? Would like to hear your thoughts, experience.

Thanks

[Laphroaig]

Have you read the threads about PreP on here? A lot of negativity on them (some of it from me), mainly because Westheangelino was an irresponsible moron and obviously touting Truvada, but the situation you describe is exactly what the drug was designed for.

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/sho...hlight=Truvada

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/sho...hlight=Truvada

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/sho...hlight=Truvada

[TSLoverIB]

Hi laphroaig
Yeh, ive read, been replies to some of these threads.

Mainly asking in my post is, what do people think? What would people in this forum do? Any experiences with people being in the same?

Thanks

[jesi_j]

it a question of how much you trust this women.......transmission risks are extremely low if drugs are taken as prescribed, and to further keep your self safe you can also use condoms. if you love her go for it, play safe keep ontop of any medication. you can also use protective therapy to prevent infection as an additional safe guard.

[DeseosEscandulosos]

I had a girlfriend once who had herpes. Obviously, that's not anywhere near a dangerous as HIV, but it did involve meds and condoms. She was conscientious about taking whatever it was that the doctor prescribed to suppress the virus. I didn't find condoms to be a problem. A lot of guys claim that it reduces the sensation, but that never happened with me. Once the condom was on, I couldn't tell it was there.

On the other hand, if she has to wear a condom so you can go down on her, I can see how a condom might make it seem less intimate.

In the long run, there's nothing hotter than a good relationship. I've had bad relationships with hot women and at this point my ideal courtship is slow enough that we get a chance to know each other before we get too committed. HIV with minimal risk of infection would be less of an issue for me than finding out how well we communicate. And while HIV might not be a big problem, she might have fears of abandonment that I don't know how to deal with. Or something else I haven't thought of.

A slow courtship gives me the chance to find out what sort of person I am when I'm with this person. You learn things about yourself that you didn't know. I might go into a relationship thinking I can handle HIV, only to discover over time that I can't.

This isn't advice. I'm just telling you what my priorities would be in this situation. You may have different priorities.

In regard to medical advances, we've been two years away from an HIV vaccine for at least twenty years. Researchers need optimism to stay motivated, but they've been consistently overestimating what they can accomplish. I would plan on using condoms as long as the relationship lasts.

[youngblood61]

Jmho, I wouldn't. So many issues.

[TSLoverIB]

Thanks jesi for your reply, i could not find protective therap, can explain alittle more? Is there a name, drug, i can read?

Thank you also deseos, for your reply. I feel the same, keep thinking if the relationship is worth it.
But like you said , not sure how to deal with wearing condoms, with the constant idea of possible infection.

So far i am doing exact that, getting to know the person, making sure i take my time, so far its nice.

It seems shes being as honest as she can, trying to get me to trust her. She tells me she got it from a boyfriend who didn't tell her until months later. It really sounds like she doesn't hold a grudge to it either. It takes a strong person for that, i think i would be on the news if that happened to me, lol.

But this is different, this was brought to me before i even decided to call her back.

Your so right, they have been talking about a cure in two years for more then 20 years now. We would agree the medicine to prolong has got so much better over 20 years, but still.

That is the exact question i am asking myself, am i ready to have to protect myself for our full relationship, and its difficult.
Thats a lot of protection, from everyday, almost everything we would do thats intimate.

I wonder if i should bring in more stress, but also a good thing.

Thanks for your replies tho, appreciate it.

[jesi_j]

this is prob one of the first times a hiv cure/fuctional cure is actually 10-15 years away with the success of CRISPR gene editing on HIV-1 at temple university

[CoolAwesomeBXDude]

Jmho, I wouldn't. So many issues.

i wouldnt either.

[natina]

There are dating sites for people with HIV, Herpes,HPV and antibiotic resistant STD's.
Condoms break and you can get a different strain of HIV are get Herpes in a different body part.

I would not on purpose date a HIV/Herpes positive person.