Would you allow your tgirlfriend to meet your friends.
My girl would like to meet some of my friends for the Superbowl. In the previous thread I told you what happen when I told my parents about my girlfriend of 7 months. I am invited to my friend superbowl and he would like me to bring my girlfriend. I plan on bringing her but don't want to have an uncomfortable situation if she gets clocked.
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very simply...if you care about your gf AND your friends care about you, it shouldn't be an issue. if i were me, i'd bring her to the party
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MHarrigan82
I plan on bringing her but don't want to have an uncomfortable situation if she gets clocked.
tell your friends that your girlfriend is a transsexual. because you know they will know (and they may not even tell you). :geek:
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bluesoul
tell your friends that your girlfriend is a transsexual. because you know they will know (and they may not even tell you). :geek:
Don't EVER EVER EVER tell anyone your GF is a TS unless your GF wants you to. EVER....that is her secret....not yours.
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fred41
Don't EVER EVER EVER tell anyone your GF is a TS unless your GF wants you to. EVER....that is her secret....not yours.
totally.
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I Fred41 certainly has a point that you should ask your GF her feelings about discussing her transition. Aside from that, fuck it man. Most people will surprise you with just how accepting they are and the rest of the people who can't accept you and your life choices, its their loss.
Each of these events, whether it is dealing with your family or your friends will not test your bonds but rather tighten them.
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fred41
Don't EVER EVER EVER tell anyone your GF is a TS unless your GF wants you to. EVER....that is her secret....not yours.
why would she not want it known? and "secret" sounds like something you're hiding which then makes the relationship sound illicit.
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bluesoul
why would she not want it known? and "secret" sounds like something you're hiding which then makes the relationship sound illicit.
There might be a thousand reasons why she may not want it known...or there might just be one. The point is that it's "her" reason ...not yours- and it will affect her more than it will ever affect you.
...and if she's an adult, it isn't an illicit relationship.
We should be well past that shit on this site at least.
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bluesoul
why would she not want it known? and "secret" sounds like something you're hiding which then makes the relationship sound illicit.
How people are emotional scared by the judgments of others is hard to measure unless you have walked in their shoes.
I can have some empathy having grown up an American Jew that physical appeared like the WASP kid, with red hair and freckles, yet knowing that many of my neighbors were more than comfortable with terms like Kike and sheeny.
So it is left to us to engage what empathy we can into what it must be like to grow up and not only discover that you are not attracted to women but are in fact a man trapped in a woman's body. The judgments, the fears and trials of that journey are almost unimaginable so it only makes sense to respect that persons right to decide when, where and how to discuss her journey to being a woman IMO.
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bluesoul
why would she not want it known? and "secret" sounds like something you're hiding which then makes the relationship sound illicit.
... because even in this day and age being transgender carries risk :geek:
http://www.transgenderdor.org/memorializing-2012