Originally Posted by beatmaker
The truth of the matter is, you have two impediments going against you Yasmin: you're a transsexual in a homophobic world and you're a porn star. Many GG porn stars don't have sustainable relationships, due to the nature of their work. Shyt, it's hard for the local GG stripper to have a sustainable, meaningful relationship with a "good man", who takes her seriously. As a result, they end up with losers, pimps and thugs. Men tend to have this wife/mother vs. whore/jumpoff dichotomy, where they have women who they feel are marriage material, who will make good mothers and role models, then you have the woman who are built for sex only. That's real talk, whether it's fair or not. Most transsexuals that I see, out and about in NYC with their boyfriends looking happy and fulfilled, tend to be at least 90% passable, so they don't illicit stares, ignorant comments/ridicule and they don't work in the sex industry at all. I remember a Latin TS, I would see in Midtown NYC with her boyfriend afterwork on a regular basis. She wore 9-5 business attire, but her large, veiny hands and big, pumped-up silicone booty gave her away to the trained eye. Most people couldn't "clock" her and those that did look, where looking at her huge ass. Since, I'm into TSs, I can usually spot one, even one who is really passable (most of the time). I remember I saw Babydoll years ago, walking down 8th Avenue and dudes were just sweating her, they had no idea she was a TS. I wouldn't clock her either, except I saw her in one of Joey Silvera's movies. I saw Jennie aka J-Lo, who dances at Sunny's party at the Puerto Rican Parade Festival this year and the same drooling response from guys in the streets, even though her face is a bit masculine, the body is all woman. Men do care what their fellow "mankind" thinks of them, so to be called "faggot" because you're out with a TS, even when you have ZERO attraction to physical men, makes most guys take pause. It's analogous to men who are attracted to fat women. They creep in the background with them or use the internet to fetishize these women and get their rocks off. There's White men who are very attracted to Black women, but will never date one in public, because their upper class WASPY family and friends think Blacks are beneath them. So, they get on some Hugh Grant shyt, cruising around looking for some Devine Brown, Brown Sugar whatever!
Back to good men, a "good guy" tends to have certain moral principles and codes, that might make them apprehensive about having a true, romantic relationship with someone whose sexual exploits are a mouseclick or DVD away. People tend to gravitate towards like-minded people. A women with a Master's Degree and high-powered corporate job, probably would not want to have a serious relationship with a guy with a GED working for UPS. Look at Barack and Michelle Obama or Bill and Hillary Clinton. All four are Ivy League Law School Grades (Bill & Hillary @ Yale and Barack & Michelle @ Harvard). At most, these types of women would use blue collar dudes for some sex gratification, when they get horny and are sick of the vibrator. I'm in my early 30's and have no children, do I really want to date a woman with 4 kids, by 2 different guys out of wedlock? She could have a heart of gold, but I can't swallow that pill, since I'm waiting to start my family until I get married and I'm a guy.
Unfortunately, transsexuals trying to find "true love", is like a circle trying to fit into a square world. It's possible, but it seems to be uncommon, especially for those who escort and do porn. Also, as a transsexual ages, her physical masculinity tends to become more pronouce and harder to camouflauge, without having excessive plastic surgery and looking like a cartoon character. Men won't be honest, but this is also a fear in the minds of many, when it comes to having a long-term romantic relationship with a TS.
P.S: I was channel surfing Sunday night and saw the World's Heaviest Man, who weighed over 1000 pounds on the Discovery Channel. This dude had a devoted girlfriend, who would come by his house and take care of him (enabler to the Nth). She wasn't unattractive either, just an average looking Mexican women, who was slightly overweight, but not fat. If this guy can do it, you can do it Yasmin. Shyt, he can't even leave the house or whip his own ass and he got someone to love him. Like the old saying "There is somebody for everybody".