dating a t-girl?

Firstly, I would like to apologise for the long story here, but this is the only place at the minute I can ask these questions :)

Whats the deal with liking t-girls? I dont class myself as gay, as I dont fancy men, or have any intention of haivng sex with a man. But I do like receiving. That started with my (now ex)girlfriend with a strap on, and went on from there, until one day, heavily hungover, I decided to go see a trans escort (Rayka - London). Now if I even think about a tranny, I get wood.

Does liking t-girls fall into a category of some kind? Curious, Bi-sexual etc? Or should I not care if I dont fit in a box?

And are any of you guys open with your freinds and family about your "interest"? Or is it a dirty little secret?

I have been asked by a very sexy t-girl if I would like her to be my girlfriend, which has left me thinking. Would it be fair on her to see her socially, but only on my terms? (ie not mentioning it to my freinds/family) Or would she want someone who is happy to be open about dating a t-girl?

Any advice people? I'm kinda confused :(

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Whats the deal with liking t-girls?

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It is what you make it.

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I dont class myself as gay, as I dont fancy men, or have any intention of haivng sex with a man. But I do like receiving. ...until one day... Now if I even think about a tranny, I get wood.

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Why bother classifying yourself? Just enjoy it.

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Does liking t-girls fall into a category of some kind? Curious, Bi-sexual etc? Or should I not care if I dont fit in a box?

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Boxes are quite uncomfortable ...

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And are any of you guys open with your freinds and family about your "interest"? Or is it a dirty little secret?

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There are guys here that are open with everyone about their "interests". The way I see it is that I am open about it but I don't need to advertise it to the world. Most people don't care that much to take an interest in what you do I find.

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I have been asked by a very sexy t-girl if I would like her to be my girlfriend, which has left me thinking.

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Don't think for too long. If you snooze you lose and then you would be left thinking about what could have been.

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Would it be fair on her to see her socially, but only on my terms? (ie not mentioning it to my freinds/family)

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You don't need to advertise to the whole world about what you're doing. But, would you like it if someone was dating you only on their terms and hiding it from important people in their life?
If you want to do it like that chances are she would understand. She wouldn't appreciate it though. If she likes you she will play along. If she loves you she will wait for you to change your mind and let her become a part of your life. If that day never comes she would probably get impatient and ticked off and then the relationship probably wouldn't last.

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Or would she want someone who is happy to be open about dating a t-girl?

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I don't think many t-girls would want to be kept a secret. Unless they are working girls then discretion is best for business.:party:

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Any advice people? I'm kinda confused :(

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Think about whether this is just a fetish or something that will make you happy for a lifetime. If you choose the former you need to get in touch with the fact that you are different from the "norm". Once you accept that you can really start pursuing something that will make you really happy. Go out and experience things and try to get out from behind that keyboard and monitor. Go to some clubs with your friend that are t-girl friendly once you meet other people who are cool with who you are and what you do things will be a lot smoother. Check it out and see what happens, if you are not into it or turned off by it just reflect on the experience and consider what is best for you.
And try not to take things too seriously as well. There are other important things in life like paying the rent, your career, life goals etc. This is one small piece of the puzzle.
Most importantly, have fun!

1) you are as u identify as.
Now Im more inclined to give any guy in this lifestlye a str8 label if the girls he dates look like the females he dates. Sounds superficial and evil but frankly, if all it takes for you to get wood is a wig, a sun dress, girl underpants, and heels, then my friend ur at least bisexual. Nothing wrong with any of it, but you can cloud the line by saying one thing, and showing another hand.
I identify as str8 because I set a mental standard for my mate, and any old bird, female or trans, cant hold my interest beyind 5 minutes of laughter. But if someone calls me bi, i wont spend hours fighting them as logn as they recognize the separation between GENDER and SEX.

Thats said, dont give a fuck, and enjoy life.

2) Open to family, and friends I value. Dont care what anyone else may think after that, suggest to all they do the same. Living for people who dont pay your bills, work your hours at your job, and dont feed you is epically pointless and misery inducing. You'll end up binging on trannies and doing more harm than good if you hold it in.

3) You date who you date. You dont need to wear a tshirt reading "Im on a date with a tranny" but if things are serious (ie youve been dating for months-years and want to show a level of committment) its a bridge you'll have to cross.

For me, my family gave me more shit for dating a white girl in high school than dating a transsexual. Most moms and dads only care for your well being and fear leads them to overreact, but if shes worth the time to know logn term, and a solid citizen of the world, they may not love the idea, but they will learn to get over it and be happy for you being happy in your own world.

too much to read yo smh

ummm who gives a fuck?

Just enjoy her, not as a T-Girl, but as a woman. You can live with her as man and wife if you want, and not give a flying-toss about other people and what they think and say. Get involved, fall in love but remember she is a woman, and treat her as such