TO THE GIRLS ON THIS SITE , HELP US GUYS UNDERSTAND YOU

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AN INTERESTED OBSERVER WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHICH CATEGORY YOU PLACE YOURSELF IN.

[Niels Bohr]

Interesting topic, still no answer, maybe its the attidue that these girls like. I finally made it out to Nowbar and Edelweiss this weekend and it felt like something out of bad tv. At Nowbar you had a room full of guys and a few girls, most of the men were all single quiet shy looking men, the girls were dancing and shaking but these guys weren't budging, it was like being at a junior high school birthday party. And if you think I'm being rough I'm not, Im one of those shy guys, barely getting by on my dry sarcasm and my wits.
Women want a "man" not a boy and these "bad boys" have that appeal, Guys we got to get off our butts and make it happen instead of wishing it to happen, damn I got to get off my butt and do it too...geez I must have some serious issues

[NYCe]

From my experience, jerks and their ilk (aka guys who cheat, take money, etc) tend to be more social outgoing then the average good guy. Even at the nowbar, you can watch the guys who "know the game" and know how to play it. The cruise in there and like a hunter to its prey they strike. Aren't good guys generally shy? but i completely agree some of the guys the tgirls choose make me scratch my head.

[tommytuu]

Hey Niels, if you really believe what you posted I feel bad for you. These so called bad boys, who are really just wannabe thugs, are not men. If you're around girls that think that way, maybe you should try different girls instead of re-inventing yourself. Its been my experience that girls who like those kind of "boys" aren't worth my time. Not even on my level. I would have to dummie down just to communicate with them. Of course if I'm attracted to them, I'll pursue them but only for sex. There is nothing else those type of girls can offer me. Don't change who you are for a piece of trash. Just my thoughts. Hope no one was offended.

[AllanahStarrNYC]

HMMM-
Come on you guys are so silly sometimes. Just are girls are guilty of lot of bullshit don't sit there ad act like men are all saintly and don't add flame to the fire sometimes.


Buttom line is we are all in the sex business because we have limited choices in life.
The sex business jades you evetally no matter what.
Most girls have less than desireable lives and upbringins and all those issues will carry onto adult life and relatioships.

Needless to say we have choices. Why if we are on endless dick hunts, we are whores and trash, but clearly guys can lust and wanna fuck a zillion trannies and its ok?

People who have are in abusive reationships and stay in them have self esteem and sefworth issues.

[AllanahStarrNYC]

Mega I know you are not.

I have had a lot f issues I have had to deal with in my lfe.
Abuse, Poverty, A Tough Upbringing, Abusive Boyfriend,Gay Bashed, Eating Disorder,
Body Dysmorphya, Depression, amongst many others and I have survived them all.

I dont use my past as an excuse for any behaviours nor for pity. People go trough man worse things than I have.Of curse I have had issue in my adult life that have stemmed from my childhood and change,but as I get older I deal much better.

[Mugai_hentaisha]

Well Allanah i have always said "that people aren't measured by what situations they have been in but how people have handled the situations they have been in."

We all make mistakes (whole point of being human), but a mistake is only a true mistake when you fail to learn from the experience

Allanah from what you typed you have been in some nasty situations that a certain amount of people would have done "capped" themselves a long time ago. However Allanah you survived, adapted and overcame those hardships, all I can say is you're my kind of lady. Keep up the work and keep on surviving because a lot of us out here count ourselves lucky just to have you around.

As for you Mega keep on being you, and keep these "substance" threads a coming.

i would like to voice another question too if it isn't too much of a hassle........
To the ladies out there i realize with your professions don't allow you much "free time" but what are some of your interests outside the sex industry? if you don't mind my asking.

[mykeylykey]

Hey Niels, when you were on party mode and made your way over at NOWBAR in NY, what was the vibe like? Are the girls there to "party" or "hustle"? Reason I'm asking is because the word around the campfire is that clubs out West like PEANUTS are laced with girls that are there exclusively looking for sucka's with BiG $$$. Just curious . . . thx


mykeylykey

[TeeLover]

You know Mega - you make some good points about the young ones being so fucked up. But I wonder - is that mainly due to the young age in life overall or is it compunded by the "scene" that they find available to them?

Being that you seem to be "Da Man" - have you ever dealt with any girls in the T style that became a T just for the money? Without any serious conviction to the gender issue but just because they could make some quick baht? Not a CD or TV but with procedures.

[Mugai_hentaisha]

Damn Mega you have your work cut out for you with the Stalker thing going on...... i would offer a suggestion but you seem more than able to handle it... just be careful.

About what you said about some of the trannys you know always going after the thugs and such.... you know down deep male and female and all the degrees in between have the same curse as moths do..... we love to be flying around the flame and dip close to feel the heat and hopefully not get burned. But when that curse come coupled with the baggage issues you listed earlier it makes "pulling up in time" almost impossible. This is a sad, sorry fact of life. If we know people like this and they are our friend(s) then it is our duty to help them.

allanah is a success story this is true, and I really think that even genetic girls and "straight and narrow" men could learn a thing or two from her.

Allanah you should one of these days when you feel comfrontable with it.....Write a book, please I would love to read it.

BTW i agree again with you mega about the girls not being trash to degrade someone by calling them garbage does no one any good. while i will agree with someone when they say "that girl is acting Trashy." I still get pretty angry with people when they say a girl or anyone is trash.

thank you

[pinklace]

Megabody, actually, I was trying to be a smartass but I was out-of-pocket. Your style is your style and I shouldn't goof on that.

After reading a few more of the replies, I remember reading about your history and your life with a very special someone who's not with us anymore. And I'm sorry.

I scratch my head when I see women with guys that treat them badly. Self-esteem has a lot to do with it, I'm sure. Thinking that "this is the only type of man that will have me." I only pray they see the truth before it's too late--that there are so many men who want the same exact simple pleasures (intimacy, honesty, fidelity) from a relationship. Makes me think of my favorite Pearl Jam song. I love it because it's so ambiguous:

She lies and says
she's in love with him.
Can't find a better man.
Can't find a better man.

My previous post also had a bit of self-analysis as well. I am in a long-term relationship with a Genetic Girl, and we're very much in love. We make each other laugh, she's got the exact same sensibilities as me. She's honestly the most beautiful woman I've ever met. She doesn't look like Catherine Zeta-Jones, but she does look like Velma Kelly.

How fair is it to her that I secretly ogle TGirls? How would that make her feel if she ever found out? If others knew and she didn't, how would they view me? They'd definitely place me in the 'jerk' category rather than the 'nice guy' one. I steal time from her to cruise this site and others. Sometimes when we make love a 2nd or 3rd time, because I'm not 18 anymore, I think of a Tgirl and my erection is reliable. Why, why? I hate that I have to do that to her.

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[tommytuu]

Hey Mega, didn't mean any offense but let me try to clear up what I said because I've got a lot of respect for you, Allanah, and a lot of girls out there. Its not so much that they are trash. God created everyone. That is my belief and he didn't create trash. Its a self-esteem issue with some of the girls. Their self-esteem is so low that they attract and feel more comfortable aroud people who they identify with. It just so happens that some of these people are abusive and degenerative. Thus it gives them the appearance of trash. This is all on the surface. And in some ways the behavior is like a sheild or some sort of defense mechanism. I'm gonna hurt you before you can hurt me, because a lot of them come from some really fucked up childhoods and upbringings. But if they would ever let you inside, I'm sure you'll find some beautiful people. But until that day happens, most of them are there only for sex for me. I really don't want it that way, but I won't be made a fool of either. And I'm not gonna play second fiddle to some wannabe thug hood rat. He gets the money that I give her and gets to wake up next to her too. No way.

[Litslover]

Allanah your are a beautiful person on the outside but more importantly in the inside. You are a class act. I was upset when u sid that u have dealt with many issues in your life. A person hsould not have to go through one of those. People need to be more caring and understand each other. People say that things happen for the better but none should be beat up or abused by their boyfriend. I am so happy that you are happy. I met you in the fall of last year and you realy a great person and I cant wait to see you again at ur next party having fun and being your self.

[flabbybody]

every tgirl I know is on an escort basis. I think the girls I see regularly like me and have fun even though I'm paying for their time. Am I a total fool thinking it can ever be elevated to a regular relationship?