TS-attraction in a relationship with a GG

[Good_Guy_Crocodile]

A complicated situation, summed up very shortly.

I'm a guy in a long-term relationship with a GG whom I love tremendously and definitely see myself marrying.
I'm also attracted to TS, which, prior to my current relationship, lead to me having just a few, yet amazing, sexual experiences with a TS.

I sincerely doubt I'm the only one in this situation so I was wondering, how do others deal with this?

For me it involves a whole lot of porn, fantasizing and a whole lot of not acting upon it. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I've also never told her about my attraction to TS.

[RallyCola]

how do you think your girlfriend would react to your sexual history, preferences and porn habit?

the answer to that will likely help you out. there are those that say honesty and being open is the only healthy way, but it really does depend on how receptive your partner can be. there are those that lurk solely in fantasy hiding their desires, but that too is problematic.

there is no universal answer except to say that if in fact you do have a mutually loving and trusting relationship, admitting your preferences to your partner SHOULD be something each of you is comfortable doing.

[bigkid69]

She could also turn out to be a vindictive cunt like my ex-wife and hold everything you ever did in your past (whether it was while you were with her or not) against you.......Trust is a very fine line, most women do not understand most men's fascination with porn, whther it be GG or TG porn, a lot of them think it is cheating. But, that is my experience, not every woman is bad shit crazy, just the ones I have been with.

[TiffanyTCD]

Have you talked to your gf about it? I had the same problem and kept it hidden for 10 years and finally told my wife and she said she was ok with it. She actually likes ts. So we watch movies together and talk about having a threesome with a ts one day...

[dukesucks]

I'm in an identical situation. I'm very happy with my girlfriend and my relationship and for the very large most part, I'm happy and satisfied. But I have a strong attraction to dominant well endowed alpha beautiful TS women that I slowly started to allow myself to start exploring just before I met my current girlfriend. I love her but she's just not that open minded of a person. 95% of the time it's not an issue but it's difficult to completely ignore and delete the part of me that wants tk worships an submit to my very specific attraction. I just don't know how I could ever broach the subject of "honey, because I spent the first 25 years of my life being embarrassed about how small
My dick is, I found a way to embrace and act on my fantasies and fetishes and that entails spoiling and being submissive to well endowed transgender women who let me compare how tiny I am compared to how big they are before they tie me down and let
Me deepthroat their entire massive dicks and get facefucked before finally getting my
Face covered in their cum while we hold our Cocks against each other so we can both see how insanely she dwarfs me before
I go
On to whatever the next command I'm given to please them as often as they'll
Let me." My attraction and past experiences have been limited to doing whatever I can to spoil them and please them, but sexually
Only limited to light bondage and oral. At this point I don't have Anh desire to be bottomed, but I'm still not quite sure how I would be able to explain that away, especially considering the fact that I don't even feel comfortable opening up to her about my cuckold/SPH fetish that I've explored and acted. In for years leading up to when we met. So I totally get where you're coming from.

[DeadGirl-Productions]

Why are you in a relationship? Are you a a drunk? You're probably a drunk. These aren't actual problems, you're still 15... in your brain. Grow up.

[shushu]

My relationship broke also about my "addiction" to porn.
Actually she was a beautiful girl taking it personally that I was watching porn. I couldn't tell her what I was missing.
To avoid this, best thing for me would be a relationship with a trans woman. But bringing that "missing part" into the idea of relationship, you are a sexist who focuses on body parts. Imagine you go to a party and tell the girls there, that you would prefer a girl friend e.g. with big tits. You would get some comments from feminists.
Additionally it is really hard to find next door trans women for a romantic date. The ones who are not "passing" look to "manly" to me to get addicted. On the other hand you can't ask a "could be" that "are you a trans?" question. Last but not least here in Germany we have a good health system so a lot of "passable" trans women have their SRS early and there you get the problem with the "missing part" again.
The mean solution having a GG girl friend and watching porn is not satisfying, since the girls take it personally if you watch porn, while you can have good real sex....

[Huevos_Rancheros]

Wow! You are the first guy I've heard of who finds other women attractive besides his partner. This is a tough one...

Seriously, don't stress out about it. First off, don't worry that you might be gay. You are attracted to women if you like TS. Second, keep your TS fantasies away from your partner. Discussing it with her is about as smart as saying you want to sleep with her sister. Third, try to satisfy yourself with masturbating and the occasional escort. If it goes beyond that, then you might be jeopardizing your relationship and you might want to think about whether you should be in a relationship. This is true if you fantasize about TS, GG, guys, whatever.

[SydneyFarron]

A complicated situation, summed up very shortly.

I'm a guy in a long-term relationship with a GG whom I love tremendously and definitely see myself marrying.
I'm also attracted to TS, which, prior to my current relationship, lead to me having just a few, yet amazing, sexual experiences with a TS.

I sincerely doubt I'm the only one in this situation so I was wondering, how do others deal with this?

For me it involves a whole lot of porn, fantasizing and a whole lot of not acting upon it. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I've also never told her about my attraction to TS.

Are you happy in your current monogamous relationship? Good, stick with it. Don't mess up a good thing, but communicate with her about what's on your mind. If she's a keeper, she should be able to handle you sharing fantasies.

If you're ever single again, you'll have the opportunity to date both trans and cis-women.

[fordly66]

This goes to the op. Keep your mouth shut if you want to keep your girlfriend. Don't ever let her know about your attraction to TS women. It would be a bad idea to tell her, trust me. If you tell her, she will tell all her and your friends and family. If you really don't care either way and don't mind if friends and family know about your attraction to TS women, then by all means confide in her. She might not mind but it's an awful big gamble. If you ever want children and want to marry this girl, count your blessings you have someone that loves you and try with all your might to forget about TS women and quit looking at them on the computer, it just makes it too tempting.

[skippyfever]

All relationships run the change of a break up but don't think about that part.

[Fyusian]

Why are you in a relationship? Are you a a drunk? You're probably a drunk. These aren't actual problems, you're still 15... in your brain. Grow up.

An ignorant response from an ignorant person.

It might not be a problem per-say for him but as another pointed out, his wife, for whatever reason, might have a problem with it. I've seen this so many times so to say it's not a real problem is underestimating the situation.

I just read a thread on another forum with women discussing "breaking up" with their partner and worrying that "he's gay" because he likes t-girls. So you might want to do research before you tell people to grow up.

Since some ignorant people still see trans-women as men and therefore attraction to them as gay, this includes some of these females who then worry that they are in a relationship with someone who doesn't really want to be with them and who really is a closet gay who wants to be with a man. The OP has every right to worry then when some women genuinely believe these things.


A complicated situation, summed up very shortly.

I'm a guy in a long-term relationship with a GG whom I love tremendously and definitely see myself marrying.
I'm also attracted to TS, which, prior to my current relationship, lead to me having just a few, yet amazing, sexual experiences with a TS.

I sincerely doubt I'm the only one in this situation so I was wondering, how do others deal with this?

For me it involves a whole lot of porn, fantasizing and a whole lot of not acting upon it. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I've also never told her about my attraction to TS.

Seeing as no one else has suggested this, might I suggest a strap-on for your woman? It could help, maybe ask for some light domination, let her take control of the sex if that's your thing.

If your attraction towards TS is purely because of the sexual experience then you might be able to replicate some of that still in your current relationship.

If you love the woman, you shouldn't let sex get in the way.

I see no point in opening up about your attraction to t-girls. Will you also tell her about all the past porn you've watched with different women?

[NatIce]

A complicated situation, summed up very shortly.

I'm a guy in a long-term relationship with a GG whom I love tremendously and definitely see myself marrying.
I'm also attracted to TS, which, prior to my current relationship, lead to me having just a few, yet amazing, sexual experiences with a TS.

I sincerely doubt I'm the only one in this situation so I was wondering, how do others deal with this?

For me it involves a whole lot of porn, fantasizing and a whole lot of not acting upon it. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I've also never told her about my attraction to TS.

You might be embarrassed but who gives a fuck? You only need to be careful if you live in a small town full of bigots. I recommend discovering the topic and exploration opportunities together. Don't make it all about TS porn and TS fantasizing. Just have a conversation about spicing the bedroom up and mention your interest in TS porn as if it just occurred to you off the top of your head. That's what worked for me: saying, as we experimented with different porn categories, "this is one of my favorite kinds of porn"; requires that she watches porn with you and there are other categories available, of course.

Eventually, some years later, while shopping for sex toys I bought quite a few (some never got used or just thrown away), including a lifelike double ended dildo. I made it clear I had no interest in being penetrated. But I convinced her to wear it under some tight clothes and it she liked it. Now I get a dress-up treat of dick bulge or a jackoff show here and there. Far and away the most mind blowing addition to our sex life, which was fantastic already.

[NatIce]

To those who said there's no point and you'll regret it, that's possible, too. It worked out well for me but I was extremely patient and probably also got lucky.

OP, only you can judge your partner and decide how important the TS fetish is to you. The only downside for me is appetite mismatch: my hunger for tcock and indulging the fetish is much greater than hers is for my pleasure. But under the circumstances that's quite a luxurious complaint.