TS narcissism AKA why we are called chasers

[kingaddictx]

Some people aren't going to like this post. Too bad. The smart will read and think, the rest will shoot theirs mouths off with hate.

After being part of this community for over 10 years I can say with no malice that this is some serious narcissism among TS girls (Not all but most). Shit most ts are more self-centered/selfish than GG! And I am not talking about P4p (thought it exist there too) but normal relationships as well. Its seems as if most think they are the center of the universe and the nicer you are the more they want to bullshit. then after you move on they do everything to get your attention.

want to know why they call us chasers? because their dumb asses are always running.

Well not me. enjoy your jogging cuz MY time is important too. I've been with and am friends with enough to know this to be true. one good apple does not a fresh batch make. Sorry.

and dont mistake this for being jaded or angry. I'm just saying what others are feeling but are scared to open their mouths about. Just like the whole "non passable" issue that NO ONE wants to talk about, but we all know it present.

end rant.

[kingaddictx]

And for the girls this doesn't apply to (you know who you are) just keep being the good woman that you are.

[Ts RedVeX]

Narcissism has nothing to do with chasers. Although, existence of the latter does enable most ts narcissists' existence. C'est la vie, excuse my french. xd

[KellyKlaymour]

I find the concept of "chasers" a little humorous.
I have a preference for the toned body-type over all others, am I a "toned body-type chaser"?
I mean, really, throw in any preference that you favour and it's equally redonk.

[kingaddictx]

Narcissism has nothing to do with chasers. Although, existence of the latter does enable most ts narcissists' existence. C'est la vie, excuse my french. xd

I agree. "chasers" make it easier for the self-centered to remain so. I wasn't saying that chasers create the narcissism, rather that some buy into it and thus are labeled chasers by said TS narcissus.

My point was more that alot of TS's, pardon my frankness, think they are the shit for no reason at all.

If u are a gia darling or venus lux, i would understand, but if u are JUST STARTING TO TRANSITION and still have a bread LOL GTFO.

But you do have a valid point. there are dudes who will kiss their ass regardless and that just makes it worse.

[kingaddictx]

I find the concept of "chasers" a little humorous.
I have a preference for the toned body-type over all others, am I a "toned body-type chaser"?
I mean, really, throw in any preference that you favour and it's equally redonk.

I agrees 100 percent. I've had girls get mad at me for not identifying as a "chaser" and All i could do was laugh. I'm a man whom is attracted to sexy ladies. GG and TS. end of story. I'm not chasing anyone lol. In fact if i have to chase you, than its too much work, that's kiddie games my grown ass don't have time for.

No GG has ever called me a "girl chaser" lmao.

I guess its easier to put up a wall and assume everyone is the same. Wait it is easier that's why everyone does it lol.

[cal_tsg]

I'm surprised to see very little mention of narcissism in the HA threads. Is it a big no no to even mention this subject?

I ended up doing a bit of reading up after becoming fed up dealing with rude people on another website to the point where I gave up. I can definitely say that I've now learnt my lesson and will no longer provide compliments or comments to anyone (even though I've always had a policy of only saying something if I have something nice to say).

Most recently I asked a simple question about crossdressers (in a Crossdresser group) asking what percentage of CD's are straight men. The question didn't really get many responses but I got a lot of abuse from a few on the group telling me that CD's are individuals and should not be pigeon holed. Also, that I was wrong to assume that sexuality plays a part in crossdressing. Interestingly, the same people resorted to sarcasm and insults. I didn't mind people opposing my views but te insults and sarcasm seemed over the top for asking a simple question.

The last straw on the other website was when I made the mistake of joining a TS admirer group and posting my first post with a question. What a mistake! I quickly received a message from the Group Moderator stating that I had placed an Ad which broke the group rules so, she had deleted my post and gave me a time out. Her message was filled with entire sentences TYPED OUT IN UPPERCASE LETTERS, insults and sarcastic comments (sarcasm seems to be a running theme). I replied to her msg saying that I was a bit confused because I didn't think I'd posted an advert. Her short response was;

Whatever u call posting. u posted in My group.
Still confused?

Which was not very helpful!

At this point I decided that I didn't want to be part a group run by power crazy sarcastic rude fuckwit so left the group asap.

Anyway, before I start ranting....

I have to say that in person I have met some really nice people but, online it seems that you're very likely to end up dealing with a lot of people who are just unpleasant fullstop. I wonder if this is down to narcissistic tendencies of individuals such as men who crossdress and people who take up roles where they have some sort of control over others?

You might have guessed that I'm no psychologist but, I think it's actually quite an interesting topic and understanding it might just help a few people deal with these issues a bit better.

[zaphod]

narcissism? Perhaps on the exterior. A necessary reaction to societal pressures to conform which most trans have rejected. Interior, people are people regardless of their their sexual affinity.

Chaser label. I can understand this point of view. I am guilty of declaring a featured hungangel is sexy and expressing my desire to have sex with them. WITHOUT meeting the Angel and connecting person to person. After being approached repeatedly with impersonal sexual advances I can imagine a defensive posture taken. This is said within the non-professional setting.

To be honest I am a bisexual married man. I attempt, in my limited tryst to connect on a personal level, then sexual. I have tried the opposing and found it unsatisfying.

[cal_tsg]

narcissism? Perhaps on the exterior. A necessary reaction to societal pressures to conform which most trans have rejected. Interior, people are people regardless of their their sexual affinity.

Chaser label. I can understand this point of view. I am guilty of declaring a featured hungangel is sexy and expressing my desire to have sex with them. WITHOUT meeting the Angel and connecting person to person. After being approached repeatedly with impersonal sexual advances I can imagine a defensive posture taken. This is said within the non-professional setting.

To be honest I am a bisexual married man. I attempt, in my limited tryst to connect on a personal level, then sexual. I have tried the opposing and found it unsatisfying.

I think I pretty much agree with you here.

But I'm wondering if the same thing applies outside of porn and the sex industry?

[zaphod]

I think I pretty much agree with you here.

But I'm wondering if the same thing applies outside of porn and the sex industry?

Cal_tsg, I think so. We are born with the same basic cognitive equipment. Granted we all choose different pathways as life experience happen. The pathways of least resistance and most positive personal satisfaction could be preferred. Defense mechanism to help "self" fit into society niches are necessary.

The original question asks to apply a generalization of group behavior. The resulting answer never is completely relevant to an individual 100%. However with self reflection the generalization could help with personal choices.

A personal example. I have been blessed with a grower cock of 7.25" x 5.8". I am bi-sexual and post on sites such as FetLife and Adultfriendfinder. I am looking for sexual NSA partners. I have been contacted by men who are simply aggressive and not willing to take the time to discover who we really are. I feel slighted, the object of a chaser. True I expose myself to this activity by posting pictures. I shall use a bastardization of a Yogi Berra quote about baseball. "Sex is 68% mental and the other 85% is mental. Try getting erect when your partner is someone who you deeply disagree with. i.e. a sexual encounter with, for me, Donald Trump would be a disaster! I think I would enjoy a Dominant male partner. Trump fits the bill on 2 counts but the 85% remainder is stifling.

Sex in person is complicated. Sex within a fantasy has relatively uncomplex design. The chaser and narcissism are the interface of personal sex versus fantasy, IMHO.

What do you thinks?

[cal_tsg]

Cal_tsg, I think so. We are born with the same basic cognitive equipment. Granted we all choose different pathways as life experience happen. The pathways of least resistance and most positive personal satisfaction could be preferred. Defense mechanism to help "self" fit into society niches are necessary.

The original question asks to apply a generalization of group behavior. The resulting answer never is completely relevant to an individual 100%. However with self reflection the generalization could help with personal choices.

A personal example. I have been blessed with a grower cock of 7.25" x 5.8". I am bi-sexual and post on sites such as FetLife and Adultfriendfinder. I am looking for sexual NSA partners. I have been contacted by men who are simply aggressive and not willing to take the time to discover who we really are. I feel slighted, the object of a chaser. True I expose myself to this activity by posting pictures. I shall use a bastardization of a Yogi Berra quote about baseball. "Sex is 68% mental and the other 85% is mental. Try getting erect when your partner is someone who you deeply disagree with. i.e. a sexual encounter with, for me, Donald Trump would be a disaster! I think I would enjoy a Dominant male partner. Trump fits the bill on 2 counts but the 85% remainder is stifling.

Sex in person is complicated. Sex within a fantasy has relatively uncomplex design. The chaser and narcissism are the interface of personal sex versus fantasy, IMHO.

What do you thinks?

I think whatever the problem is, it's definitely getting worse especially online. Webcam sites, forums, Fetlife and social media have got to the point where I've now lost interest in trying to chat with anyone. It seems that growing numbers of people online automatically default to throwing out insults without even giving people a chance to be nice. Sadly, this might just be the way the whole world is going.

One thing I do wonder about is the possibility that online people act disrespectfully due to the perceived lack of consequences?

[drfunyc]

To me it doesnt matter, it is all down to preference as Kelly just stated. It not awesome that people are still trying to put people into boxes and such. But it is nothing new, it is something that everyone does daily they just dont put it into writing to often because one box will get offended by another box calling that box a box. I am in NYC and if I see a guy at a bar wearing cargo pants and doc martins I will bet the farm his favorite band is Blink 182. So I guess in short I think it about preference, and it is terrible that there is another new way to label people. In my understanding and correct if wrong the term chaser is attached to the person that goes to TG events every week always looking and never with any form of commitment and is treating other people like it is their hobby rather than another person.

[zaphod]

Insults = true. And aggressive behavior. A certain degree of decorum and respectfulness goes along way.

One thing I do wonder about is the possibility that online people act disrespectfully due to the perceived lack of consequences.

I agree. The policy I have chosen is not to howl at the moon no matter how entertaining. I wear a western hat or a fedora. I like the style AND it affords an opportunity to show respect. The simple act of tipping the hat, to a acquaintance or stranger generally elicits a genuine smile. Respect for other humans requires vigilance and practice. AND the generosity is reflected back, giving a positive outlook on life.

Life's test is your treatment of the anonymous. Choices of polite, neutral, or crass to waitstaff.

[drfunyc]

Quote from my grandfather: ' Manners are the education of life, and the best part of Manners are that they are free.'
The hat is a good mechanism, never thought of it as a tool for disarming and displaying manners which I will from here on out in my life.

[Fitzcarraldo]

I wear a western hat or a fedora. I like the style AND it affords an opportunity to show respect. The simple act of tipping the hat, to a acquaintance or stranger generally elicits a genuine smile. Respect for other humans requires vigilance and practice. AND the generosity is reflected back, giving a positive outlook on life.


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[zaphod]

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[BostonBad]

I find the concept of "chasers" a little humorous.
I have a preference for the toned body-type over all others, am I a "toned body-type chaser"?
I mean, really, throw in any preference that you favour and it's equally redonk.

I agree. I like the additional muscularity and fitness look many ts women have. That's what sucked me in.

Afterward it was swallowing semen.

[Dudedude12345]

I wouldn't call it "narcissism", I rather call it a double standard. The reason why is that many transwomen do the same thing to heterosexual men when they made perfectly clear that they do not want to be with a transwoman, even Lil Duval went to the extreme to clarity that