Hmm this is sort of emberassing but I need some advice

[NWVegan]

Whenever im with a new girl I get extremely nervous and my dick shrinks up to a point where it is almost non existant. This is quite an akward experience as one might imagine. Especially considering I am on the larger side of things. 7 1/2" and quite gurthy. Has anyone else suffered from this problem and does anyone know if this is something viagra or similar drugs can fix? Id like to point out having sex with someone ive been with for about a month or so is never a problem. It is only with someone I do not know very well. What can I do about this?

[Quinn]

It sounds like you have performance anxiety. If that is the case, taking Viagra or something else won’t necessarily guarantee your performance. I had the same thing happen to me with a woman when I was 22 years old. The key is to not think about how she views you or your performance; just think about how you’re going to fuck the living hell out of her and how good it's going to feel. Once you get past the first or second time, you should be fine.

One more thing, you might want to consider laying off of any type of sexual gratification for a few days before you fuck her. This should serve to ensure that your appetite is sufficiently primed to stay focused on what counts: fucking her brains out. Good luck.

-Quinn

[hondarobot]

Speaking of Viagra, I find those commercials funny as hell, the ones with the "doctor" warning of the side effects (you know he's a real doctor because they do a slow camera pan across his "doctor" name tag).

"If you have an erection lasting more then four hours, or experience a loss of vision, call a doctor right away."

I don't really see a downside to a four hour erection, but actually checking into the hospital for that would really suck.

Although a blind guy with a constant hard-on would probably be a big hit with the nurses, I imagine.

:)

[ezed]

You need a fluffer!

[Jamie Michelle]

Whenever im with a new girl I get extremely nervous and my dick shrinks up to a point where it is almost non existant. This is quite an akward experience as one might imagine. Especially considering I am on the larger side of things. 7 1/2" and quite gurthy. Has anyone else suffered from this problem and does anyone know if this is something viagra or similar drugs can fix? Id like to point out having sex with someone ive been with for about a month or so is never a problem. It is only with someone I do not know very well. What can I do about this?

Apparently performance anxiety is pretty common. See the below articles:

"Cupid's Broken Arrow: Performance Anxiety and Substance Abuse Figure Into the Increase in Reports of Impotence on Campus," Laura Sessions Stepp, Washington Post, May 7, 2006; Page D01:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/05/06/AR2006050601206_pf.html

"Impotence on Campus: Performance Anxiety and Substance Abuse Figure Into the Increase in Reports of Impotence on Campus," Laura Sessions Stepp and Dr. Barry W. McCarthy, Washington Post, May 8, 2006:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2006/05/08/DI2006050800542.html


My recommendation to you is to get to know the girl pretty well before you attempt to have sex with her. Date her for at least a number of weeks before attempting to have sex. Become comfortable in her presence, such that you are no longer nervous with her. Once you become truly comfortable with her then you will no longer have performance anxiety with her.

Also, in order to learn how to stay hard for a long time (i.e., as long as you want), read my posts contained in the below link:

"How to Fuck Like a True Sex-God Stud," TetrahedronOmega, October 2, 2005:

http://www.armleg.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=21&mforum=libertyandtruth

[Knarfdogg]

Viagra or, even better, Cialis might do the trick even with performance anxiety. They act to slow down the "softening" so if you used one of those and made some attempt to stay relaxed, you might have a reasonably successful experience which will help your confidence for the next time.

[adameast]

I have a couple of questions for you.

Do you only shrink when you are with Trans girls?

Does this also occur with GGs?

If it occurs only with Trans girls, are you arroused by the idea that they would be bigger than you? If so, Im suggesting that it is in your mind....which is the same as an anxiety problem.....the mind is very powerful and can either give you "wood" or take it away.

[Cat]

I've had the same trouble.

Just don't think so much.

[Quinn]

LMAO @ Cat's avatar. Ins't that McGruff the Crime Dog? Very nice.....

-Quinn

[ARMANIXXX]

Thinking back upon that old Seinfeld episode with George Costanza,

Just tell her you got out of the pool and it's "pool shrinkage".

[Cat]

LMAO @ Cat's avatar. Ins't that McGruff the Crime Dog? Very nice.....

-Quinn
Yep. ;)

[TonyStarx]

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