married a woman

[summer 69]

I married my college sweetheart, but I deeply regret it. I am infatuated with tgirls, I wish I could just have a redo:mad:

[saifan]

Well that sucks for you.

Don't have kids!

[summer 69]

Too late. Im actually depressed over this. My only hope is to find a few ladies that I can spoil and spend so.e quality time with.

[saifan]

Or be a man and stay true to vows or talk to your fucking wife about your desire to be unfaithful.

I continue to be amazed at men who get married without thinking things through.

[summer 69]

Thanks for the words of wisdom. I dont particularly like the situation either.

[Tapatio]

Talk to her then.

Easy for me to say, but I don't see you being fulfilled otherwise.

How you approach it is up to you. Maybe she has desires unspoken, as well.

Or die with regret and resent her until then. Either way.

Best of luck.

[AshlynCreamher]

My only hope is to find a few ladies that I can spoil and spend so.e quality time with.

Like a sugar daddy?

[itsnotme]

this seems to be a reoccurring theme here

[summer 69]

Yup like a sugar daddy

[bassman2546]

Unless you're wife is a bible thumper and dresses like Holly Hobby, you should be able to communicate your sexual fantasies - mutually! What have you got to lose? Divorce?

[gaysian71]

If you are truly infatuated with trans women, the it would be best to man up and get a divorce. Otherwise you will end up cheating on your wife and be always have that sense of guilt. Or you can just be faithful to her and forever regret ever getting married. And that's not good for any relationship.

And who knows, if you get a divorce e and start dating, you just might meet the woman of your dreams, get married and be forever happy.

The choice is yours.

[Instrumental]

Sucks. I still can't relate to people who want to get married. Especially those who get married young and miss out on so much. Variety is the spice of life.

[tarot]

In most cases marriage is a horrible trap .The stats for divorce is very high , the sex goes of almost immediately .And if you are a man , you will be turned into a provider .
You will live with endless guilt and emotional blackmail , and most likely end up emasculated and dumped .
The solution is , do not ever get married and go with T girls .T girls are the best women on the planet- period .

[Dahlia Babe Ailhad]

Hi summer 69

Lucky you!
Just read what you wrote a few times.



I married my college sweetheart...blah blah blah...I am infatuated with tgirls...blah blah blah....I married my college sweetheart...blah blah blah...I am infatuated with tgirls...blah blah blah....I married my college sweetheart...blah blah blah...I am infatuated with tgirls...blah blah blah....I married my college sweetheart...blah blah blah...I am infatuated with tgirls...blah blah blah....I married my college sweetheart...blah blah blah...I am infatuated with tgirls...blah blah blah....I married my college sweetheart...blah blah blah...I am infatuated with tgirls...blah blah blah....





Go hire some nice T-girl escorts and do what ALL the other guys do who married their college sweethearts.



Babe,
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xoxo

[wearboots4me]

I continue to be amazed at men who get married without thinking things through.

Because human beings (male or female) can be blinded by love.

[Admirer55]

This probably isn't the best place to go for advice. What would your actual plans for this be? There are a lot more girls out there then Tgirls it probably won't be easy finding a real Tgirl for a real relationship unless you are just looking for escorts/hookups. If it's just for the experience do like most others said and talk to the wife first.

[summer 69]

Wow I guess I should have just kept that to myself. I didn't realize my desire for a tgirl was that disturbing to most just because I am married. I suppose when I do find her it will be that much better. Thx for your opinions regardless, just remember you have all been where im at today.

[dreamon]

Wow I guess I should have just kept that to myself. I didn't realize my desire for a tgirl was that disturbing to most just because I am married. I suppose when I do find her it will be that much better. Thx for your opinions regardless, just remember you have all been where im at today.

It's the cheating that bothers people, not that you have desires for tgirls.

[CoolAwesomeBXDude]

u should be happy that ur married n someone actually is willing to put up with u for life...

depending on ur age ud get a certain response from me but

y get married in the first place if this is how u gonna feel later

[YoungGuy29]

Just jerk it off bro. Dont risk your marriage. And dont put her at risk either if you fuck up and cheat with a ts. Somethings should remain a fantasy.

[tarot]

It seems that a lot of members on this forum have an issue with married men having sex with TS escorts .Yet the majority of the client base for an escort is married men..
I can't help feeling that there is an hypocrisy or double standard at work here - ie with the one hand this forum promotes sex with transexual escorts , yet condemns it for married men with the other .
My only advice to married men seeking advice on this forum , is to keep the fact you're married to your self .Tell no one .
On another thread, a married man who was asking advice had AIDS wished upon him ...nice!
So married men , the only sound advice is not to ask advice in this place , as you will be condemned.

[Instrumental]

It seems that a lot of members on this forum have an issue with married men having sex with TS escorts .Yet the majority of the client base for an escort is married men..
I can't help feeling that there is an hypocrisy or double standard at work here - ie with the one hand this forum promotes sex with transexual escorts , yet condemns it for married men with the other .
My only advice to married men seeking advice on this forum , is to keep the fact you're married to your self .Tell no one .
On another thread, a married man who was asking advice had AIDS wished upon him ...nice!
So married men , the only sound advice is not to ask advice in this place , as you will be condemned.
This entire post is awful, but of particular note, I'd like to point out that promoting escorts and use of their services does not contradict or conflict with condemning people for cheating, being dishonest and betraying their loved ones.

[tarot]

I understand .But my point is then , that is not a forum for married men who like transexual escorts .
It is no point arguing the toss and bringing morality to bare .Marriage not sex is the issue here .this foul institution invented by the priest and politicians makes a prisoner of man.
So easy to get into and takes a life time to get out of.And yet when you use the words " cheat "and other condemning terms you are no better than the priest whose weapon is guilt .Marriage is a hell and most men can't break free because of this guilt and poverty - they can't afford to .So before any of you condem others , spend some time meditating on what conditions you.

[jamesedwards]

Wowwwwwwwwwww!

[yodajazz]

Marriage is much more than sex, it's about building a life together. Support is emotional and financial. Some of the better marriages find a way to make things work, so that each has their own space to make themselves happy. Many wives will let a husband go out and enjoy himself, knowing that he will come home and be a husband also. And sometimes a man will have to pursue his infatuation, in order to understand what true happiness is. Then he comes back home, a wiser man, if it's really there, at home. It will all work out one way or the other.

[AshlynCreamher]

Yup like a sugar daddy

If you and I were to swapped bodies and I was now living your life. I would stay married to the GG who would become the mother of my children. And just like you're suggesting i would have a few girls on the side too - strictly for pleasure ;)

Put the "Male" back in "AlfaMale" - rape, pillage and take what you want!

[Jamie French]

If the post stated that he was first getting a divorce, then going out to do whatever it is he wanted to do, judgments would be far and few in between.

And before you ask who is anyone to judge another human being... turns out it's EVERYONE. We live in a civilized society assholes, judgments are just one of the many mechanisms that make all this shit work. Don't like it? Get a boat and hit the open waters.

[summer 69]

If you and I were to swapped bodies and I was now living your life. I would stay married to the GG who would become the mother of my children. And just like you're suggesting i would have a few girls on the side too - strictly for pleasure ;)

Thats just what I plan to do!

Im not offended by any of the replies, I like to hear others opinions.

[tarot]

This is such a difficult subject and there probably is no other answer than abstinence .

[itsnotme]

or think before you act and don't let your lusts control you

[wearboots4me]

Wow I guess I should have just kept that to myself. I didn't realize my desire for a tgirl was that disturbing to most just because I am married. I suppose when I do find her it will be that much better. Thx for your opinions regardless, just remember you have all been where im at today.

It seems like you're in pain. I wish I could help you, but it's hard to give strangers advice over the internet.

[itsnotme]

look there is nothing wrong with his desires but hes made a commitment and hes either going to have to A be honest B control himself C be dishonest and be someone who many will look down on for good reason

[tarot]

I agree with ,Summer69, it is kind of weird that so many people would find this disturbing .
What about being married and jacking off to TS porn ?How does everyone feel about that?

[tarot]

After reading all these reactions on married threads ,it's probably better if those married , keep it to themselves .

[Tapatio]

look there is nothing wrong with his desires but hes made a commitment and hes either going to have to A be honest B control himself C be dishonest and be someone who many will look down on for good reason

No good reason?

Edit: I misread this.

[fred41]

After reading all these reactions on married threads ,it's probably better if those married , keep it to themselves .

I actually believe every circumstance is different...I don't know the circumstances of the marriage (love, shot gun wedding, splitting a pension, whatever..) or how long the marriage lasted so far...are there kids involved...etc.
The problem I had with a previous thread you commented on was different - that dude was relishing the idea of cheating on his future spouse before he even got married...that's almost predatory.

One question I always like to ask, even of guys who claim they have approval, is "would it be okay if you found out your wife is cheating also"?

or would you use that for grounds of divorce ?

[tarot]

I agree with you ,and to be premeditated about the cheating could be somewhat sociopathic .There would also have to be a total lack of empathy for ones partner , and maybe that is the issue .
Research into porn has found that it creates a lack of empathy and objectification.

[saifan]

I agree with ,Summer69, it is kind of weird that so many people would find this disturbing .
What about being married and jacking off to TS porn ?How does everyone feel about that?

Apples and oranges.

Can watching porn potentially expose your wife to an STD?

[Jimmy W]

Good news! Your wife is probably going to leave you anyway in a few years and it won't have anything to do with you liking trannys so cheer up.

[topboy]

Dude you're a disgrace, you married the woman of your life and you regret it coz your selfish self prefer to live up to your fantasies with tgirls?!

I feel sorry for your wife.

[tarot]

Saifan, no, porn cannot give your wife an std , so I guess it 's the safer route .But do you think that watching TS porn is cheating ?
What ive found somewhat strange about the reactions to these married threads is they seem based in Christian values , which is kinda weird for a TS site .But then again the majority of us are conditioned by that nonsense - it is deep within our DNA .
I come from a Tantric background that sees

the universe as "amoral" ( it doesn't give a
shit) and there is no right and wrong to this world - it just is .

[tarot]

If the argument is about giving the wife an STD and not morality , are we supposing that the majority of TS sex workers are infected , and diseased ?
In my experience, the sex workers I've met are fastidious about safety .
And what happens later in marriage when sex eventually dries up ( as it always does) and couples prefer separate rooms ? Will the majority on this forum still condemned sex outside of marriage?

[Jamie French]

Has nothing to do with christian values. Ask the ol' wife if it's cool to cheat and you'll quickly find that it has everything to do with your WIFE's values... you know, the ones you swore under penalty of law to uphold and abide by?
Marriage is for better or worse, and if a life devoid of sticking you're dick in some stranger's greased up asshole = worse for you? Man up and deal it, you looked her in the eye, said some magic words and signed the dotted line.

[bigballing05]

Men cheat all the time and most people seem to be fine with that understanding. But because you want to cheat with a Transexual people find it more disgusting, including transexuals themselves. This is so weird.

[Jamie French]

Nope. Cheating like so many other things knows no gender... you're on a board where literally NO ONE thinks it's gross to have sex with a tranny. What you're failing to do is put yourself in the cheated person's shoes. THAT's where the disgust comes from. Don't kid yourself.


Men cheat all the time and most people seem to be fine with that understanding. But because you want to cheat with a Transexual people find it more disgusting, including transexuals themselves. This is so weird.

[bigballing05]

Men like variety so most are either going to cheat or live a life of regret being with only one woman. Most people understand this but seem to have a hard time accepting a man who chooses a tgirl as the other woman. Why?

[Jamie French]

Nope. Cheating like so many other things knows no gender... you're on a board where literally NO ONE thinks it's gross to have sex with a tranny. What you're failing to do is put yourself in the cheated person's shoes. THAT's where the disgust comes from. Don't kid yourself.


Men like variety so most are either going to cheat or live a life of regret being with only one woman. Most people understand this but seem to have a hard time accepting a man who chooses a tgirl as the other woman. Why?

[bigballing05]

Jamie French, you do realize that almost every man of note in the history of the world has cheated on his wife. But you're on this board crushing a random guy.

[bigballing05]

Nope. Cheating like so many other things knows no gender... you're on a board where literally NO ONE thinks it's gross to have sex with a tranny. What you're failing to do is put yourself in the cheated person's shoes. THAT's where the disgust comes from. Don't kid yourself.

Yeah it sucks for the woman and I have considered their shoes but what I think most people are doing is placing more judgment on this man because he cheats with a transexual. I find that hypocritical.

[tarot]

Hypocritical is the correct term here .My view is , do as thy will , break all boundaries , destroy all your values and their institutions .Throw off the shackles of morality and live a life of unadultarted pleasure .
Just my take on things .......

[tarot]

And Jamie French , please answer the question - have you , and do you sleep with married men ? If not , then respect .But if you have , then you have no credibility here .

[bigballing05]

I do believe in having morals but let's just be honest about what it is we are judging or being moral about. I think someone made the comment that the OP may be a sociopath because of his desire to cheat. Would you say the same about a man who cheats on his wife with another female? JFK, MLK, Bill Clinton, Jay Z, and the list goes on. Or are folks just picking on the married guy who also likes transexuals?

[tarot]

Well you could say all the names you have mentioned are sociopaths - most people in positions of power are .
But who is say the sociopath is wrong and how they live is not envied .
Imagine a life without empathy , remorse or guilt - must be beautiful.

[tarot]

Jamie , you have gone silent .Could you please the answer the question honestly .
If you do 't want to answer the question , then you must allow us to draw what conclusions we come to .

[CoolAwesomeBXDude]

im not being hipocritical my view is the same (in response to what i saw on page 5)

i dont condone cheating whether its men cheating on women with gg, ts, or w.e
and likewise i dont condone women cheating on men with etc
same thing applies for ts relationships too

my thing is if i make a vow to someone i'm keeping it idc if the most beautiful girl or ts on the planet ask me to have sex with them.. i wouldnt

[Tapatio]

Jamie , you have gone silent .Could you please the answer the question honestly .
If you do 't want to answer the question , then you must allow us to draw what conclusions we come to .

ANSWER THE QUESTION! lmao.

Tarot, Jamie very recently answered this in another thread.

[hung angels ftw]

Men cheat all the time and most people seem to be fine with that understanding. But because you want to cheat with a Transexual people find it more disgusting, including transexuals themselves. This is so weird.

hmm, no offense but i'm really not sure what world you're living in...i don't know anyone who's "fine with that". are you trying to rationalize something?

[WesJohnson]

I'm randomly going through this post and I'm curious about her answer too lol..... I say get divorced dude.. BECAUSE I CAN'T FIGHT THESE FEELINGS ANYMOOOORRREEE....

[Tapatio]

my thing is if i make a vow to someone i'm keeping it idc if the most beautiful girl or ts on the planet ask me to have sex with them.. i wouldnt

Right on.

[tarot]

I'm just interested in knowing if , Jamie's "hang em high " attitude is coming from a place of true integrity and concern for others - or a defection of her own guilt ? And how does she feel that her porn videos may be contributing towards married men needing to act out with escorts ?

[tarot]

Tapitio , sorry , what thread was that ?

[Jamie French]

Nope, my Eros and Back Page ads specifically state that I do not take married clients. A hypocrite is that very last thing I am... my brains are mondo huge. This fucker, (me) aint got time to rationalize excuses or mince words.


And Jamie French , please answer the question - have you , and do you sleep with married men ? If not , then respect .But if you have , then you have no credibility here .

[Jamie French]

No one has gone silent... fuckers need to eat sleep and shit ya know.

Jamie , you have gone silent .Could you please the answer the question honestly .
If you do 't want to answer the question , then you must allow us to draw what conclusions we come to .

[Jamie French]

If porn drives you to cheat, you have the mind of a disabled child. Who watches something, anything and then says... "yeah, I'mma do that, DESPITE the fact that I'm in no financial, emotional, practical, or intellectual state to do so."?

[tarot]

Thank you very much , Jamie .

[tarot]

I also think that's really great that , Jamie does make it clear that she does not see married men..
But I don't agree that porn does not lead men to cheat .
The first time I saw Transexual imagary was in screw magazine ,NYC , and I was hooked .
Up to that point I had no idea that chicks with dicks existed .It was pre internet , and that imagary created some kind of split in me .

[Jamie French]

Never said that porn doesn't drive people to cheat... only that if it does, they're less than what humanity expects out of civilized individuals. COPS was a show for a reason. Humanity is defined by self discipline. It's what sociopaths, lower apes and the majority of most other lower order animals lack.

[Sli]

Talk to her then.

Do not, I repeat Do Not, tell your wife. Do not broach the subject at all, whether it be with ts or gg (especially NOT ts). Do not do it. No good can come of it. You are stuck. You're only way out is to get a divorce. You cannot calmly speak to your wife about wanting to be unfaithful and think that she'll respond in a similarly calm and logical manner. She will either flip out or cry...or she'll act like it's okay and then make underhanded comments here and there and just do the whole passive-aggressive thing.

Just cheat or get a divorce. Do not expect any sympathy or understanding from your wife. You will not get it.

[tarot]

Jamie , I can't argue with that .The day is yours .

[Jamie French]

Not only will you not get it, you won't have deserved it anyhow.


Do not, I repeat Do Not, tell your wife. Do not broach the subject at all, whether it be with ts or gg (especially NOT ts). Do not do it. No good can come of it. You are stuck. You're only way out is to get a divorce. You cannot calmly speak to your wife about wanting to be unfaithful and think that she'll respond in a similarly calm and logical manner. She will either flip out or cry...or she'll act like it's okay and then make underhanded comments here and there and just do the whole passive-aggressive thing.

Just cheat or get a divorce. Do not expect any sympathy or understanding from your wife. You will not get it.

[gaysian71]

At this point you have 4 choices.

1). Be faithful to her for the rest of your life and forget about your infatuation with trans women. = fair and loving.
2). Divorce her = break her heart.
3). Tell her about it then divorce her = break her heart then rip it out and stomp on it right in front of her.
4.) Cheat on her = possibly catch something and give it to her, break her heart, then rip it out and stomp on it right in front of her and have her take you to divorce court and make a total fool out of you and pay out the ass for God knows how many years.


obviously option 1 sounds like the most fair and reasonalble option. But let's face it. That ain't never gonna happen. Options 3&4 would be totally cold hearted and chicken shit to say the least. So it looks like option 2 is the only viable solution here.

[tarot]

One can resolve to be faithful.Once a person understand the full ramifications , it becomes much easier .
I feel this discussion has been very worthwhile for everyone involved , and I have learnt a lot .
I would like to thank , Jamie for her Intelligent arguments and integrity .

[dreamon]

Have any of you BEEN cheated on before? It's awful.

[Sli]

Not only will you not get it, you won't have deserved it anyhow.

You're right. But it's a sad situation for him. He wants something his wife is not and can never be. It's not like he wants another woman: a skinnier woman or more busty woman or whathaveyou. He wants a transwoman. His desire for the ts is not based on the same desire he has for his wife. It's like comparing apples and oranges. That should make his wife more understanding, but it won't.

[summer 69]

Thanks everyone for your insight. Im am honestly suprised by the responses, I will not be telling her of my intentions, I will fulfill my desires, I will not bring any diseases to myself or her. Thanks for all the insight friends

[Jamie French]

Here's to hoping you the very worst.


Thanks everyone for your insight. Im am honestly suprised by the responses, I will not be telling her of my intentions, I will fulfill my desires, I will not bring any diseases to myself or her. Thanks for all the insight friends

[SheWantsTheD]

I find the OPs plight and the responses to be most intriguing.

Fortunately for me I never married my childhood sweetheart.
Unfortunately for me I was encouraged by friends at a young age to cheat on my first few girlfriends.
Fortunately, I have realised that I have commitment issues and I've never popped the question.
Unfortunately for me I may never have a true and lasting relationship or marriage.

Oh, and now there is the tgirl attraction aswell. I will always be into both tgirls and ggs.

Same for the OP it seems. You just have to find a way to accept who you are and deal with it. I say hope for the best but prepare for the worst in your marriage.

[tarot]

Summer69, it's not the physical disease you need worry about ,it's the mental and spiritual ones that do the real damage.
The problem isn't so much the sex it's the "lying" ,it rots ones soul .
No matter how safe you are in your safe sex practise , and I'm sure if you're fastidious you'll avoid STD - you will still have secrets .And it's these secrets that do the damage .
My advice is , think twice before you marry ,and if possible avoid it .

[bigballing05]

Monogamy is unnatural (especially for men). There will always be a struggle for a man to be 100% faithful to his partner. I applaud any man willing to admit his struggle. The level of condemnation and judgment I've seen on this thread is incredible. To the OP, I wish you the best. I wish your wife the best. If you cheat, be safe. If you get caught, don't blame your wife...just suck it up and take whatever she dishes. Continue to be honest with yourself regarding your struggles and try to be a better person each day. Hopefully, you don't allow folks to bully or guilt you into abrupt or bad decisions. Nobody is perfect but admitting that you are not is half the battle.

[tarot]

I agree with everything , Bigballings has said ."Monogamy is unnatural" - it is .And I also concur that the level of judgement and condemnation on this thread is incredible .But the issue is ,Summer69 is going into his marriage with the intention to continue sex with transexual prostitutes , and there lies the problem.
Maybe it would be different if he went into marriage resolved to give up TS sex and stay faithful .Probably extremely difficult to do and would most likely struggle .But the intention would be positive and with time and discipline he could overcome his urges.
But I say "why put yourself through any of this at all , and just don't get married" .Stay free .Stay happy .

[summer 69]

Here's to hoping you the very worst.

Well JF thanks again for your kind thoughts. I hope you find happiness and peace in your life.

[francisfkudrow]

Or be a man and stay true to vows or talk to your fucking wife about your desire to be unfaithful.

I continue to be amazed at men who get married without thinking things through.

It's what society expects. Folks get married because that's what you do once you're done with college or whatever. Then come the kids. Our society doesn't really provide a respectable alternate path.

No offense to the OP--who I am sure is a smart guy, but a lot of people will just be like "I guess I'll get married" without thinking about it--it's like the "default" destiny of a man. You need to have a keen ability to think for yourself to choose another way.

[gaysian71]

Thanks everyone for your insight. Im am honestly suprised by the responses, I will not be telling her of my intentions, I will fulfill my desires, I will not bring any diseases to myself or her. Thanks for all the insight friends

How you gonna do that?

[tarot]

Gayasian, he's going to do that by using condoms.Plenty of punters ( and a famous one in the escort section) have hundreds of liaisons , and never get a scratch.All this is just scaremongering and a perverse morality .
BTW is that your real photo?

[tarot]

And, also there are a lot of great TS service providers that see married men ...And I know for a fact ( the ones I know)go for regular check ups and screenings .Don't you think this thread is somewhat disrespectful to those girls that specialise in this area .or do you think all the service providers should stop seeing married men?

[Jamie French]

And I hope you die of AIDS, or at least pass it on to your wife so her family murders you for killing their daughter.


Well JF thanks again for your kind thoughts. I hope you find happiness and peace in your life.

[lifeisfiction]

Why so hard on him Jamie. It's not like everyone can have an open relationship such as yourself. I don't agree with his choice, but I always use empathy as a way of understanding people.

[tarot]

You have to have empathy to use empathy .Otherwise it's like asking for bread at the shoe shop.
I think , Jamie is just being punk rock - she doesn't meant it .

[lifeisfiction]

Don't pick on punk rock as an excuse. What did punk rock ever do to you, lol.

[Instrumental]

Why so hard on him Jamie. It's not like everyone can have an open relationship such as yourself. I don't agree with his choice, but I always use empathy as a way of understanding people.

You don't need to be in an open relationship to be open and honest to your spouse. The only person who deserves empathy is his poor wife who is wasting her time and love and doesn't even know it.

[lifeisfiction]

You don't need to be in an open relationship to be open and honest to your spouse. The only person who deserves empathy is his poor wife who is wasting her time and love and doesn't even know it.

Good luck. Like how many people would be comfortable telling their wives they have seen escorts. Or what porn they watched. You should be honest an open, but don't make it sound like it's easy

[Instrumental]

If you aren't comfortable being forthright with a woman, you shouldn't be marrying her in the first place. And not entering a committed relationship with someone you feel you have to keep secrets from should be quite easy.

[tarot]

I'd love to heat , Jamie's music , I get a feeling it's punk ...

[tarot]

Jamie , where can I hear your music?

[Pleasureseeker]

Instrumental, I admire you :) as a woman, whom seeks honest love, your wonderful relationship material! If a guy came to me bravely, and admitted his attraction to TS girls, I'd help him explore his attraction and accept him for his respectful truth! You're right! His wife is wasting her precious time! She only gets 1 life and it is up to him to be honest, and allow her to choose what she is alright with. Hopefully, he will take and use your advice! It just may save a whole lot of heart ache on both sides! He is using her and justifying his trickery with the facade that the truth may "hurt her." I personally see why people hide their sexuality in today's society, but if more people followed your advice the TS world wouldn't even be known as a TS world! It would just be common to see couples who are involved in Transgender relationships! As it should be! Because let's face it, more humans are attracted to Transgender than people think!
In my city the population is barely over 1000, and I personally know over a dozen men who frequent this site from my circle. The secret is theirs to keep, but I hope for a day when we can all be honest like you are saying and no wife, husband, or significant other will have to deal with the abuse this man puts his family through.
I wish him well