Balancing "this" with your private life

[MorningRunner]

First of all, this isn't a cry for help or anything like that. Nor is it me looking for an excuse or someone to justify cheating.

A tgirl escort (one who is very well reviewed, and looks great) is touring through my town - which never happens. I've not much experience with seeing ts girls, just the one a year or so back which was great.

Nowadays, I have a girlfriend. I love her very much, she's beautiful, funny, kind. She's good to/for me, and I'm very happy and content. My sex life with her is the best I have ever had. So naturally, it would be a total arsehole move of me to see the escort, so I'm not going to.

Now while I know that's the right decision, it's just left me down in the dumps a bit. In that I feel, there's this whole side to my sex life that might go unfulfilled. I just wanted to have a vent, and figured that there must be plenty of guys on here who have found themselves in similar situations?

I do have in my mind that I could tell her about my attraction to ts girls. She's open minded and has some bisexual tendencies herself, so I kind of hope that she might be understanding to some degree, or in the best case intrigued.

Anyway, vent over!

[LovinThaTSLadiez]

I was married some years back to a GG. Though I carried an interest in TG's, at that time I had never been with one. Sometimes it was very difficult because I would be thinking about t-girls some days and not be able to fulfill that desire.

I am glad that I never cheated on her for obvious moral reasons. But, she and I divorced some years back and I've since been able to fulfill all of my sexual desires with some hot t-girls. These days I still have an active interest in both GG's and TG's, but can't honestly see myself settling down again. Part of it is due to my interest in both types of women and not wanting to treat anyone unfairly in the relationship.

Having said all that, if you are truly happy with your woman, stay with her. I would gladly trade all of my sexual experiences for one, special lady that would be mine and only mine. Just my two cents.

[Tapatio]

Forget her bi-tendencies- maybe she'd like to be spit roasted.

Frankly, I feel you'd generally have more trouble finding a TS to tag team her than you would convincing your wife.

Though business is business... if the escort can get it up for a chick your chances are probably pretty good.

Go for it. The worst that can happen is she freaks out, breaks up with you, spreads rumors- or goes along and films it, THEN freaks out, etc.

But at least then cheating would no longer be an issue.

[Plaything]

You sound like you want to do the right thing.

Problem is.

Right thing for who?

Good luck.

Nobody here knows you, or your delightful girlfriend.

Although we understand, and share your passion for beautiful tgirls.

Only you can determine how to make that a part of your life.

And to what degree you can open that part, to a wider world.

I hope you are better at it than I have ever been. The best I have achieved is to only ever open myself to escorts...and then, only when not dating. So I don't cheat. But I lack real emotional courage, and integrity.

I am not proud of that.

Again. Good luck.

[francisfkudrow]

You are a good guy, and you are doing a good thing by not doing it... but to play Devil's advocate, you do only live once. If it is truly on your bucket list to try a tgirl, I would consider trying to discretely make it happen. Don't get addicted to it. Don't nail every tgirl escort that comes within 100 miles of you. But consider just this once.

[lifeisfiction]

Sometimes a fantasy never is a good as you think it will be and and once in a while its better. You can always make a reason why, but when you have something good you never know how good you have it till it is gone.

If you think your special other is that special then treat her so. You may not realize she may be enduring her temptations as well. There will always be opportunity to do so, its the guilt thing that cannot be undone. Only you can live with the decision so choose wisely.

(If it was me, I would stay with a good thing.)

[MorningRunner]

Thanks for all the replies! It did actually help just my writing the original post, but it's good to know there are others who have felt/feel the same way.

[MorningRunner]

Go for it. The worst that can happen is she freaks out, breaks up with you, spreads rumors- or goes along and films it, THEN freaks out, etc.

But at least then cheating would no longer be an issue.

Haha! :lol:

[londonnw1]

Any update mr morning runner?

[holzz]

just ask her. if she says no, then fine.

[richsaint18]

I was in a relationship with a GG for a long time and pretty much the whole time was wondering if I was really missing out on being with a TS. I had never really had much experience with TS at the time but it was always in the back of my mind. When I separated from my by then GG wife I went full steam ahead into the TS world and have never been happier since. I am married to a TS now. I'm guess i'm saying that if TS is really your thing then it's probably never going to go away.

[ILoveTransWomen]

My advice is to ask your girlfriend if she would be interested in bringing a TS into the bedroom. If she says no, you should try to discreetly make a visit to a TS pro when the opportunity arises. If you don't experience sex with a TS at least once, you will always wonder what you missed out on. I haven't had a GF in several years, but I enjoy taking GG and TG lovers equally.

[Robinhood81]

back in 2013 i split with my then GF & i thought, right F*** it, ive been dreaming of being with a TS for years, so went for it, had a wonderful experience with 'New' via an agency, however.. shortly after i met someone else and we were then together for 3 years, i too often had the urge for more TS experiences throughout that time but Im not a cheater and just didnt want to be that guy who cheats no matter how well i dressed it up in my mind to being ok, so I didnt, and im glad, we just recently split up however so now im craving it hard, i plan to visit a lovely TS soon (ive now narrowed it down to 2 lovely ladies) want to visit at least one before i go on holiday in august. im quite busy at the mo, but have a week in july earmarked when im less so.

id advise not to cheat but and I know this is extremely risky, you could broach the subject in a jokey manner, maybe orchestrate a scenario (perhaps with a tv show) where the subject could be brought up, joke how wouldnt it be wild to to be with or have a threesome with a TS and gauge her reaction. i never tried this with my ex as i knew she wouldnt be down for that at all but if you think your partner would be more open, its worth a punt, doing it in a jokey manner could save the conversation if shes not at all into it, you have an out, was just joking?