dreamon
01-07-2015, 12:30 AM
My ex-girlfriend and I broke up in June 2013 after a 3 year relationship. It took me close to a year but I finally moved on and have been doing great.
On New Years this year, I went out with some friends that also are friends with my ex. We had been drinking a bit, as young people such as ourselves are wont to do on New Years, and as a result, and as such, one of my friends accidentally absent-mindedly casually let slip something about my ex's new-boyfriend. That she was dating was news to me (I haven't been in contact with her for over a year).
Letting my weak curious side get the better of me I started snooping on her social media again.
Yesterday I saw her change her Facebook status to in a relationship, and it absolutely dropped me. Almost back to the way I felt when I first started back in 2013. I've been struggling ever since I saw it to get myself back on track.
The thing is, I don't understand why it is hurting me so much. I know and have accepted we are never getting back together, in fact I don't even want to! I know that she has the right to date, and I've even dated women myself. I knew that this day would come, and I know that this doesn't matter to me, and that I have given my full truths and everything about her and I is in the past and that i am doing so so well with my life and improving myself and moving forward.
And yet I still can't seem to shake the hurt and shock and sadness that came with the revelation that she is dating someone else.
I don't know why, but finding this out has actually really bothered me. I'm doing so well with everything, and I'm still doing all the things that have gotten me here in the first place. Does anyone have advice to help me? Thank you, and Happy New Years.
On New Years this year, I went out with some friends that also are friends with my ex. We had been drinking a bit, as young people such as ourselves are wont to do on New Years, and as a result, and as such, one of my friends accidentally absent-mindedly casually let slip something about my ex's new-boyfriend. That she was dating was news to me (I haven't been in contact with her for over a year).
Letting my weak curious side get the better of me I started snooping on her social media again.
Yesterday I saw her change her Facebook status to in a relationship, and it absolutely dropped me. Almost back to the way I felt when I first started back in 2013. I've been struggling ever since I saw it to get myself back on track.
The thing is, I don't understand why it is hurting me so much. I know and have accepted we are never getting back together, in fact I don't even want to! I know that she has the right to date, and I've even dated women myself. I knew that this day would come, and I know that this doesn't matter to me, and that I have given my full truths and everything about her and I is in the past and that i am doing so so well with my life and improving myself and moving forward.
And yet I still can't seem to shake the hurt and shock and sadness that came with the revelation that she is dating someone else.
I don't know why, but finding this out has actually really bothered me. I'm doing so well with everything, and I'm still doing all the things that have gotten me here in the first place. Does anyone have advice to help me? Thank you, and Happy New Years.