curious: guys with gf or ts with experience

[stina3366]

Currently in a relationship with a guy for 3 years. Early in the relationship I found cl searches m4m, m4t confronted him and he denied. Fast forward I found HIM on cl confronted him still nothing. I went so far as saying I would be OKAY with it as long as he could tell me... Still didn't change his answer. I have now found him here. We talk about marriage and we live together. Why would he want to marry me and cheat on me? I love this guy so much and I feel like I am being MORE than reasonable and honest with him. I have no problem with doing anal...just scared! Scared because 1. If I'm gonna do it he's going to be the only one and I don't want him to get it from me then go and find some escort. That would break my heart. I even told him I would use a strap on if that's what he wanted! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm at a loss here. I really want to hear other guys stories and ts who see married/attached men.

[francisfkudrow]

Well, men by nature have varied sexual interests. The only difference is that some (like your bf) have a wider range of interests than others. He's not going to be able to completely purge himself of these interests. So, what are your options?

Are there any sexual interests that YOU have that he can't fulfill? (The stereotypical one of course would be BBC, but it could be anything). If so, make him a deal. He gets to occasionally fool around (safely of course) with a t-girl, and you get to occasionally do what you like (also safely). That would probably be the ultimate win-win.

Similarly, if t-girls aren't a complete turnoff for you, maybe you could have a threesome with one every once in a while.

Other than that, the strap-on is a good idea. Perhaps he can commit to keeping actual encounters with t-girls as a strictly mental fantasy if you can meet him half way with a strap-on or anal, or whatnot. This kind of depends on how much you trust your man, and whether he can resist the temptation to go astray.

If none of these work, maybe you're just not right for one another.

[stina3366]

Thank you for your response, I would totally do the threesome. I would let him mess around with a tgirl but I want him to tell me about it and be open with me. Obviously I accept him for who he is or I would have been long gone by now, ya kno? I just feel he might be embarrassed or something. I'm not sure.

[francisfkudrow]

You're a good gf. Ask him if we wants to have a threesome with a t-girl. Assure him that you're OK with it. And have fun!

[CaptainPlanet]

You're a good gf. Ask him if we wants to have a threesome with a t-girl. Assure him that you're OK with it. And have fun!

wow she sounds like an amazing GF.:banana:

[stina3366]

Thanks y'all. Really do just want to try to make it work but like I said in my original post when I bring it up he gets defensive or just shuts down. I'm not sure how to approach it anymore. I mean I'm basically letting him have his cake and eat it too... If he could be honest with me.

[Jamie French]

Do not marry this guy. It's trouble right out of the gate. Scummy guys (liars) are scummy to the core. I don't take married men as clients because of it, (I don't want to be party to some ass hat's infidelity.)

[Jericho]

What can you say! :shrug

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[rjshemalelover]

You aren't what he truly wants, don't waste your time. Move on to someone else because even if you have a threesome with him and a transsexual he is not going to be comfortable enough to enjoy himself if he can't even be honest with you about it after 3 years.

So then your just gonna be having threesomes and have him sneaking around your back.

[Tapatio]

Did you find him on this board recently or almost a year ago?

Regardless, I think rj is right-

As awesome as it is that you're willing to do these things with him it sounds like he'd rather not, or isn't ready to be honest about what he wants and how it affects the relationship.

[up_for_it]

Do not marry this guy. It's trouble right out of the gate. Scummy guys (liars) are scummy to the core. I don't take married men as clients because of it, (I don't want to be party to some ass hat's infidelity.)

Straight up. What else would this dude lie about? There's a difference with being, for lack of a better term, closeted about your sexuality, and actively seeking it on the side, that's bullshit.

[itsmall80]

Sorry to say, u gotta pack up. How many chances are u gonna give him? And dont be a doormat.

[malmonger]

I agree with everyone telling you that you have to move on. It's not because he's interested in TS. It's because he won't be honest with you. If he can't be honest after you telling him you'll be ok with it, then that's really bad. As in no hope bad.

I know you love him, but he's not ready for you. This has nothing to do with you. You're not doing anything wrong at all. I'm afraid it's about him.

You're better off dealing with the pain and grief now rather than in a few years time.

[pimpdog]

Do not marry this guy. It's trouble right out of the gate. Scummy guys (liars) are scummy to the core. I don't take married men as clients because of it, (I don't want to be party to some ass hat's infidelity.)
your my hero for this, no joke.

[islandmix]

Lol do you want to catch a disease? If this guy is bottom feeding on cl for ts or worst cd what gives you the asurance he`s playing safe? ohhhh because he said he is yea get real