First time advice

[mrfool]

I'm having real trouble deciding whether to meet my first TS. I'm in a committed relationship (married) but I still find myself curious and fantasising about being with a sexy TS.

I would never want to hurt my wife or jeopardise our relationship, I think I can quash the fantasy and then it reappears. Sometimes I think it doesn't matter and then other times I think I have to try and find out what it's like. I'm worried that if I like it then I'll want more but whilst abstaining is the correct moral thing to do experimenting makes me excited and this is something I could never do with my wife, plus telling her might change how she feels about me.

Any useful advice out there.

I'm also worried about STDs and the thought of getting something and then passing that on would be unforgivable.

Thanks.

[rodinuk]

There was a long thread on the subject here not so long ago:

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/showthread.php?t=89149

From what you've stated you'd have too much trouble living with yourself afterwards and once it's done it's done. So don't do it. Treat your wife instead.

[mrfool]

Thanks for replying! This is what my head tells me. I'm so lucky to have her, I should just channel my desires in to something more positive.

Cheers.

[unstoppable69]

I think you will always desire this, eventually you will have to at least have a play with a hot t girl even if you do not fuk her. This I think is ok for safety. Once you have done this you may be able to get over it for a bit until next time. This is the trouble with being a man, women n t girls can be so dam sexy.

[mrfool]

Thanks for replying. Interesting that you think it's ok if you avoid fucking. I've thought about this too and whilst it's logical I picture telling my wife and hearing the onslaught! I'm interested to hear from anyone who has also been in this position and what may or may not of transpired.

I read some of the posts from the other thread vid RODINUK. Lots of mixed reactions... :/

[unstoppable69]

Thanks for replying. Interesting that you think it's ok if you avoid fucking. I've thought about this too and whilst it's logical I picture telling my wife and hearing the onslaught! I'm interested to hear from anyone who has also been in this position and what may or may not of transpired.

I read some of the posts from the other thread vid RODINUK. Lots of mixed reactions... :/
Why would you tell your wife and hear all that?

[mrfool]

I wouldn't. Just joking. Her voice in my head is like an extra conscience!

[Jericho]

I would never want to hurt my wife or jeopardise our relationship,


But........ :rolleyes:

[kingaddictx]

sounds like you've made up your mind but really just want to explore the consequences.

First i would say think about your interest in this carefully. Is this just a porn fetish or do you actually REALLY want to go all the way with a TS. If so then you have to accept your trans-attraction (~sign~don't worry your not "gay"). This is really the hard part for most. Then it just becomes cheating on your wife, regardless of if they are a Genetic girl or a TS.

In some cultures banging a side-chick is ok (especially escorts) as long as no feelings get envolved.

I've had friends who's wifes caught them. Some got a divorce. Others worked it out. You know your spouse better than anyone, so no one can help you there. If you really know this women (she is your wife after all), then you ALREADY KNOW how she would react to telling her out right or her catching you. If you really wanna do it, be a man and just do it, don't look for moral support to cheat on your wife. strap up and no STD's to worry about......only your conchec

but understand...if you do this once and enjoy it, YOU WILL DO IT AGAIN.

[dreamon]

It's normal to fantasize outside of a committed relationship... with TS and GG... but cheating is never a solution. Being with someone you love is something you can't replace. Try shaking it up in the bedroom with your wife, try some new things... this will help you with fantasizing outside your relationship

[GroobySteven]

Calling the troll police.

[Jamie French]

You gained someones's trust and signed a contract. This is not a complicated moral dilemma. The wedding vows saw to that. Don't be a fuckwad about it.

[AshlynCreamher]

You're a good guy with a sound mind, which is a unique quality these days. If you're really worried your wife may take it the wrong way but still unsure - perhaps you should slowly, very slowly condition her to understand more about your interest and fantasys. (Ask her without directly asking - make a joke or be creative in how you ask her - like a trick question). Once you feel more confident you could just ask her directly. Naturally any supportive, loving wife will play an active role in your sex life because she is apart of your sex life. Just constantly remind her that she is the most important person in your life and you want to make her happy. she may even find a new interest in the world of trannies. Buy her a strap-on dildo for Christmas!!!

[Kioji]

I'm having real trouble deciding whether to meet my first TS. I'm in a committed relationship (married) but I still find myself curious and fantasising about being with a sexy TS.

I would never want to hurt my wife or jeopardise our relationship, I think I can quash the fantasy and then it reappears. Sometimes I think it doesn't matter and then other times I think I have to try and find out what it's like. I'm worried that if I like it then I'll want more but whilst abstaining is the correct moral thing to do experimenting makes me excited and this is something I could never do with my wife, plus telling her might change how she feels about me.

Any useful advice out there.

I'm also worried about STDs and the thought of getting something and then passing that on would be unforgivable.

Thanks.
Look mate, why are you even married if you don't only want to be with your wife what is your relationship even like maybe i don't get it because I have never been married but when i fall for a girl one else is important porn is on the back burner and i feel bad about even going on dates with girls when i'm not in a relationship but really into one chick. I know everyone doesn't work like I do but if you have really strong desires you need to talk to your wife about it, a therapist, both or just get a divorce. I know it sounds harsh but you don't seem like someone who could deal with the guilt neither could i i would probably hate myself it's not worth it man stay with your wife or do what i said above.

[Kioji]

You're a good guy with a sound mind, which is a unique quality these days. If you're really worried your wife may take it the wrong way but still unsure - perhaps you should slowly, very slowly condition her to understand more about your interest and fantasys. (Ask her without directly asking - make a joke or be creative in how you ask her - like a trick question). Once you feel more confident you could just ask her directly. Naturally any supportive, loving wife will play an active role in your sex life because she is apart of your sex life. Just constantly remind her that she is the most important person in your life and you want to make her happy. she may even find a new interest in the world of trannies. Buy her a strap-on dildo for Christmas!!!

also this is the best advice about how to talk to your wife about it if you so choose.

[Jamie French]

You're wife is having this same conversation with her girlfriends about some hot dude she sees down at the bank or the store or wherever. Feels pretty awesome huh?

[mrfool]

Thanks for all the comments. I am not about to rush off and go fuck things up, I'm not a complete cock. I'm merely sharing my dilemma and looking for people with perhaps similar thoughts. For those interested, marriage is amazing but its also really hard work and you get tired and the passion also gets tired. i'm a horny bugger and my wife unfortunately doesn't have the same horny streak. That's just people, I don't blame her or resent her. I just want some excitement and I realise you can't have your cake and eat it. Hence my post.

Should we get a divorce? I think that's a little black and white. We love each other. I don't think we'd ever find better compatible partners but that doesn't stop me having these fantasies.

I definitely think slowly introducing exciting things in to our sex life is the way to go – thanks for that advice. I consider her pretty open minded and she knows I've got a naughty side (in the sense that I've got a wild imagination when it comes to sex – not cheating).

I really think sharing has helped, so thanks to all.