Married dilemma

[Youngmc]

Is it possible for married men to be with shemales.

[saifan]

Depends on the arrangement that he has with his wife.

[Jericho]

Is it possible for married men to be with shemales.


Yeah...If they're dishonest fuckers.
Quite easily! :shrug

[Cundalini]

I am single with no lovers so I have no worries ! I would say if would be very difficult to keep a secret ! Ever thought about telling the wife ?

[Prospero]

In what sense "be with" ? If you mean visit escorts then of course... if you don't mind cheating on your wife and are careful.

[ElectricWoody]

Is it safe?? You obviously know nothing about Females.

[Drizzy]

What do you mean anything is possible. If you want shemales so badly get a divorce don't hurt your wife who is most likely deserving of a devoted husband and find a shemale. Females are crazy if she finds out be prepared to have knives and forks thrown at you. And her likely to try and run you over with a car

[DL_NL]

It doesn't matter who you're seeing- unless you're a Mormon there's only two people in a marriage.

[RallyCola]

if you are interested in keeping your fantasies a secret...many married men do that

if you are interested in getting your wife involved in your fantasies...that is quite possible but many do have difficulty with it too.

if you are interested in seeing transwomen on the DL and cheating on your wife...that's your business and you get whatever comes to you if you willfully mislead and cheat on her.

if you are interested in making your fantasies a reality WITH your wife...then sir...i wish you the best of luck because that is a difficult dream to attain BUT one that should make you one happy fucker

[Jamie French]

The good news the universe doesn't give two shits what you do. The other good news is, if you cheat on your wife we all get to call you a scumbag.

I like to know who I'm objectively better than as a person... so go ahead, do it.

[rodinuk]

I'm getting deja vu...


i had the best girl i could ever be with, and we were to get married, but we broke it off, cuz deep down i loved my fantasies for trannys, and i knew if i got married i had to leave this life behind, but this life has no love in it,.....

[Ts RedVeX]

Is it possible for married men to be with shemales.

Sky's the limit - so they say;>

[Kioji]

If you are a scumbag, sure

[fred41]

Is it possible for married men to be with shemales.

Sure...marry one.

[gregorysgirl]

Same dilemma, came close to cheating, but nowadays shemale cock is but a hot memory.

[waltham]

Hmmm. Quite a judgemental outfit here. Lots of stone throwing which I surprises me from a community that involves so many people who are frequently misunderstood and discriminated against.

[Prospero]

The world is a flawed place - and we are flawed species. Do what you want but you'll have to resolve your own moral quandaries and your own conscience. Don't kow tow to the prejudices and judgements of others here.

[Jamie French]

The fuck? Dude took vows. There are moral AND legal obligations in play. This is a false dilemma. The only potential victim here is his wife should he follow through with his douchebag inclinations.

When did cheating on your wife become fodder for moral relativism? He made a deal. You don't break you're deals without condemnation, ridicule and comeuppance.

I hope he does it just to watch another idiot lose everything. Until then, no lessons will be learned.


Hmmm. Quite a judgemental outfit here. Lots of stone throwing which I surprises me from a community that involves so many people who are frequently misunderstood and discriminated against.

[waltham]

Prospero ever the voice of considered observation :-)

[Jamie French]

You're being soft in the interest of being polite. Grow a spine, be a man and stand up for something solid.


The world is a flawed place - and we are flawed species. Do what you want but you'll have to resolve your own moral quandaries and your own conscience. Don't kow tow to the prejudices and judgements of others here.

[Jamie French]

What the entire fuck is wrong with you people?

HOW IMPORTANT CAN YOUR DICK URGES POSSIBLY BE!?

You fuckers ruin everything. You deserve anything wrong that's every happened or is going to happen to you. All of you. I hope you loose your children and have to live short, sad lives off the grid because you'll never make enough money to cover both alimony and child support. Go rot.

[waltham]

A lot of assumptions being made there Jamie. And if we ruled the worked based on unsupported assumption the world would be an even more dangerous place.

Add to that that for all we know this may be a young person confused about their sexuality, the morality imposed by others, and seeking guidance. Yet rather than have a sensible considered conversation to help, some people here prefer to judge as if their house is without stain, and to insult the very person who may be reaching out for help. Smacks of old fashioned preaching verging in bullying, but that is just my view.

Assumption: the mother of all fuck ups.

[Prospero]

Jamie... I don't post provocative and hate filled messages for the fun of it like you do on occasions. I have a spine, And I stand-up for many things here and in "real life." I have values with regard to one's sexual behaviour but I don't believe in imposing them on others in the way they conduct their own private lives. I will condemn hate, I will condemn murder, I will condemn homophobia, racism or any other phobias. I will condemn child abuse and all manner of other abuses. I will condemn violence against women and against minorities. I will condemn hate speech. I do so regularly here. I will argue with people over firearms and blanket condemnation of - say - all Muslims because of the poison affecting part of their community. I condemn stupid and risky behaviour - such as the advocacy of barebacking and the open advocacy of the use of drugs. But when it comes to how people act in their private lives and their orivate relationships - well that is for them if it doesn't actively harm others.

[waltham]

Reasonable as ever. I am so relieved we have such clever, considerate, and open minded people to guide us. Still you make me feel better about myself for which I thank you.

[Prospero]

And I wrote that last post before your hate filled little diatribe jamie. You really are full of bile aren't you.

[Jamie French]

He's grown enough to have said, "I do."

You can muddy up the rest of the scenario with all the rationale in the barrel, but in the end you're just making excuses for his dick.

Don't be a butt head. Some ladies trust and legitimate happiness is on the line.

All enablers must hang.


A lot of assumptions being made there Jamie. And if we ruled the worked based on unsupported assumption the world would be an even more dangerous place.

Add to that that for all we know this may be a young person confused about their sexuality, the morality imposed by others, and seeking guidance. Yet rather than have a sensible considered conversation to help, some people here prefer to judge as if their house is without stain, and to insult the very person who may be reaching out for help. Smacks of old fashioned preaching verging in bullying, but that is just my view.

Assumption: the mother of all fuck ups.

[Prospero]

Ah the sweet thoughts of our little neo-Nazi transsexual

[Jamie French]

Yes. But at least I don't cheat. I'm filled with bile and am an infinitely better person than the OP. This makes me a moral authority, free to splash my bile any which way I see fit.


And I wrote that last post before your hate filled little diatribe jamie. You really are full of bile aren't you.

[Prospero]

Infintely better eh Jamie? Oh to be so sure of your own worth and the lack of worth of another...I wonder if ISIS had you in their clasp if they;d find you a moral authority?

Stop being an arrogant little twerp.

[Jamie French]

Me? A nazi? The same person who will never again work with Blackula because he took a few pictures of some chick in a latex SS uniform? The same person who spent 3 weeks in county jail for diving off a stage to stomp a dude I saw with a swastika arm band?

You're a little bit retarded tonight.


Ah the sweet thoughts of our little neo-Nazi transsexual

[Jamie French]

I'll be whatever I please. Go fuck your mother.


Infintely better eh Jamie? Oh to be so sure of your own worth and the lack of worth of another...I wonder if ISIS had you in their clasp if they;d find you a moral authority?

Stop being an arrogant little twerp.

[Prospero]

Two final point before I stop arguing with you Jamie.

1. You've mad a big assumption about the OP. he did not state he was married. just opened up a discussion.

2. Your hope that people will get AIDS and die because they step out of line with your set of values and your constant hugely aggressive and expressions of violent hate towards those who dissent with your viewpoint are what make me call you a neo-Nazi. It is your attitude not your behaviour towards some twerp wearing a Swastika in his or her punk regalia that I am talking about.

[Prospero]

The Jamie charm school in full flood. I rest my case.

[Jamie French]

Wait a minute... so you put stock in the opinions of a terrorist group as some sort of moral authority? You're slippin' hard tonight. Now do as I say and put your weird little penis into you mothers gaping cunt and swish it around a lil bit. Show her a good time.

[DeadGirl-Productions]

Mothers. Gaping. Cunt.

[waltham]

The voice of reason and inteligence. Quick let's vote him in to rule the world.

[Turlington]

Sorry...I also believe in the sanctity of marriage. If you take the vows, see them out. Or else, get a divorce. I'm single, so I can fool around as much as I want to. If I had a wife (or girlfriend) I'd be faithful. Now if she okay'd playing around and/or wanted to join in, that's another story.

Don't hurt someone innocent just to fulfill a fantasy. And believe me, if you hurt her, she'll do everything in her power to hurt YOU.

[Prospero]

I don't disagree with you Turlington. And nor do i offer a defence of cheating. I observed simply that this is a matter for one's own conscience. if someone eels it is okay to cheat then who are you or I or Jamie to tell them what do do. Plenty of churchmen of various faith would tell us all we should not have sex with "perverts" like transgendered girls or with hookers or with anyone outside of wedlock. Indeed some fundamentalist christian say we should only have sex for procreation and should not have anal sex or oral sex at all ever with anyone.

and yes if you cheat on a partner - ife, husband etc etc - and they find out then you should expect to get hurt.

But what we don't need is arrogant and vicious people like jamie declaring in her obnoxious holier than thou fashion that people who break what she sees as the rules should hang, die of aids or whatever her imagination comes up with. nor cursing out people trying to present a civilised argument and telling them go fuk their mother.

[waltham]

I am with prospero on that. Besides why does everyone assume the original poster is married? And how far do you extend the reasoning? If your morality is against the cheaters it ought logically be against escorts as they know the majority of their clients are married, yet they are seemingly judged differently here.

I have no bones with you having your own opinions and views Turlington, but to shout a person down with abuse and vulgarity and based on assumption is not going to help create open, honest, constructive dialogue.

Anyway I am bored of this thread now precisely because I have no interest in slanging matches.

[Prospero]

Turlington didn't do that at all waltham

[waltham]

No he didn't and I did not intend to imply he did. I was referring to others that did. Turlington expressed a simple opinion which I have no problem with. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

[Ts RedVeX]

Heey, OP!! Get married and come over to me a few times to see what happens. It should be easier and very accurate to get the answer that way (;

[Jericho]

Anyway I am bored of this thread now precisely because I have no interest in slanging matches.

That's the only reason i come here! :shrug

[giovanni_hotel]

Creeping is creeping. DOn't blame tgirls for not being true to your marital vows.

It's sad that many people's sexuality matures as they get older and they learn what and whom really attracts them. The problem is this maturation often occurs to married people.

If guys were more self aware at say age 16 and KNEW how much they were into TS women, the world would be a much better place.lol

I was waaaayy too homophobic at 16 to admit even the slightest attraction to TS.

[RallyCola]

The fuck? Dude took vows. There are moral AND legal obligations in play. This is a false dilemma. The only potential victim here is his wife should he follow through with his douchebag inclinations.

When did cheating on your wife become fodder for moral relativism? He made a deal. You don't break you're deals without condemnation, ridicule and comeuppance.

I hope he does it just to watch another idiot lose everything. Until then, no lessons will be learned.


I LOL this post with all the fervor that it took the escort who wrote it had. you would gladly take his money if he were to hire you for a date so please stop talking about the sanctity of marriage.

[giovanni_hotel]

I LOL this post with all the fervor that it took the escort who wrote it had. you would gladly take his money if he were to hire you for a date so please stop talking about the sanctity of marriage.
:werd:

LOL. It blows my mind that an escort will hold on to the fantasy that she's NOT seeing any married men, or men not in other committed relationships.


When the topic of married men cheating comes up, I think anyone working as an escort should keep quiet.:fuckin::ignore:

[Tapatio]

Not to reduce an escort to an object, but cars don't ask you if you're drunk, guns don't ask if you're hunting or murdering, and the Internet doesn't ask you if you're a fucking idiot (though it's generally quick to tell you, if that is the case.)

We all do things that we'd prefer not to do, and we all look past others' issues so we can get on with our lives.

Make your money, Jamie. You don't have to get a waiver signed or anything. If guys cheat, it's on them. Making it your (or any escort's) responsibility is deflection on the part of the morally weak, IMO.

[pimpdog]

I LOL this post with all the fervor that it took the escort who wrote it had. you would gladly take his money if he were to hire you for a date so please stop talking about the sanctity of marriage.
lol so true, she would take his money, and jerk off in his face, lol.

[Valentine_80]

I'm getting married next year. So my plan is just to have the odd masturbating session, no cheating. That's the plan anyway.

I'm just going to have a wank every time I get tempted to get in contact with my old TS booty calls (already deleted their numbers)

[giovanni_hotel]

I'm getting married next year. So my plan is just to have the odd masturbating session, no cheating. That's the plan anyway.

I'm just going to have a wank every time I get tempted to get in contact with my old TS booty calls (already deleted their numbers)

The problem I think is for a man in LTR with a GG, if he still has a jonez for TS women realizes he's not getting the exact same thing at home.

If you only messed with GG before marrying a GG, you don't feel like you're missing out on anything physically you could get from another female.

My attraction to GGs and TGs is roughly equal, but my lust quotient is slightly higher for tgirls.

I get that 'I'm losing my mind' sensation way more from TS during sex than I ever did from GGs.

I dunno if marrying a GG would ever make me feel satisfied never being with a TG again.

But that's me.

[Drizzy]

Instead of cheating why not just have sex with your future wife all the time

[North323]

is masturbating to TS porn cheating? or masturbating to any porn for that matter? I know its not physically cheating but if you ask your spouse, gf, or partner they may think you are cheating at least on an emotional level.

[Prospero]

is masturbating to TS porn cheating? or masturbating to any porn for that matter? I know its not physically cheating but if you ask your spouse, gf, or partner they may think you are cheating at least on an emotional level.

that sounds rather Jimmy Carter to me: "In my heart I have been unfaithful"

[saifan]

is masturbating to TS porn cheating? or masturbating to any porn for that matter? I know its not physically cheating but if you ask your spouse, gf, or partner they may think you are cheating at least on an emotional level.

No, and anyone who is with a partner who thinks that should run the other way as fast as they can!

[Valentine_80]

Every guy who's in a relationship masturbates. Standard.

[Kioji]

Creeping is creeping. DOn't blame tgirls for not being true to your marital vows.

It's sad that many people's sexuality matures as they get older and they learn what and whom really attracts them. The problem is this maturation often occurs to married people.

If guys were more self aware at say age 16 and KNEW how much they were into TS women, the world would be a much better place.lol

I was waaaayy too homophobic at 16 to admit even the slightest attraction to TS.

I'm only 20 actually was 16 when I admitted to myself i was attracted to transwomen pffft god thinking about it know it seems kinda odd but in context of who i am i didn't have much of a teenage life i hung out with some people who did but my homophobia died with puberty and by time i was 16 a lot of my friends where gay/bi and i had a conversation with a trans chick at an anime convention that made me realize how ridiculous my fear or worries about my sexuality were and now i have even discussed this with some of my lgbt friends(most of my close friends are lesbians)
(slightly off topic and like 2 moths late just wanted to share since i was rereading this thread)

[Redballs]

Married/single? Why all the drama. Get on your knees, pull down her panties and start sucking.

[trish]

It's not cheating as long as you paste your wife or gf's face onto the pic you're jacking off to.

[lifeisfiction]

If married men didn't cheat a lot of escorts would be out of business, lol.

[Odelay]

[long boring personal piece - aborted before posting]

[lifeisfiction]

[long boring personal piece - aborted before posting]

If you still want to share it with us, regardless of what you think I am still will read it. And when did you become boring?

[Odelay]

Seriously, half the shit I type out with the initial intention to post on this board, I abort upon re-read. It's pretty much the same for all forums I participate in.

The gist of what I was going to post was about the difficulties of remaining sexually faithful in a marriage. And despite marrying for the first time at 50+ yrs of age only 6 months ago, I am floored by my desires outside of the woman I married. I really hope I can remain true to her but it's impossible for me to know for sure. At least I don't have the burden of wondering what sex with a trans-gender woman is like, as years before my marriage I had visited a few escorts and had a brief trist with a non-escort. In the end, for me a good woman is a good woman whether she has a tee or a vee. There's a lot more of the latter so it was easier for me to find and fall in love with my wife who is cis-gendered.

[Rusty Eldora]

:werd:

LOL. It blows my mind that an escort will hold on to the fantasy that she's NOT seeing any married men, or men not in other committed relationships.


When the topic of married men cheating comes up, I think anyone working as an escort should keep quiet.:fuckin::ignore:

It's 3/4 of her clientele. Besides married guys are safer, less likely to have STD's, less likely to be a stalker or a bother, and more likely to be quiet about it.

[lifeisfiction]

Seriously, half the shit I type out with the initial intention to post on this board, I abort upon re-read. It's pretty much the same for all forums I participate in.

The gist of what I was going to post was about the difficulties of remaining sexually faithful in a marriage. And despite marrying for the first time at 50+ yrs of age only 6 months ago, I am floored by my desires outside of the woman I married. I really hope I can remain true to her but it's impossible for me to know for sure. At least I don't have the burden of wondering what sex with a trans-gender woman is like, as years before my marriage I had visited a few escorts and had a brief trist with a non-escort. In the end, for me a good woman is a good woman whether she has a tee or a vee. There's a lot more of the latter so it was easier for me to find and fall in love with my wife who is cis-gendered.

Thanks for your honesty. Being married doesn't make you immune from temptation. Everyone forgets that even when you meet the person of your dreams, there will always be that one person who will offer something you didn't know before. Its up to you to decide where your relationship will go with the person you are with. Curiosity is a very dangerous thing in a relationship. I thank you Odelay for telling it as it is and its far better for you to have said it then to have never have said it.

[gregorysgirl]

Struggling not to ring certain escorts myself, in a little over a year of marriage I have genuinely struggled with fidelity. I certainly spend less time watching porn and logging on here, but if I am honest it doesn't really help.