Working with Transexual woman in your 9 to 5 job

[KiraHarden]

How would you guys handle working with a co worker that transitions on the job in your workplace. Would you show your support? Would your view this as your chance to get to know a trans woman, become friends, ask out, try to date, or see this as a chance to live out a fantasy of sleeping with a ts female, and risk being outted?

It will be 10 yrs ago next month that I transitioned on my job, and for the most part it's been great drama free, more Coworkers say hello or talk with me now than my past life there, and in the past few yrs quite a few of my male coworkers hit on me, flirt, or have asked me out, including a lesbian who became angry and hasn't said a word to me in a few yrs since I turned down her invite to meet her at a bar for a drink. I won't date or sleep with anyone from my workplace thou. Don't need a potential headache developing on the job

I'm also have been celibate now just over 3 yrs, enjoy being single and relationship free

[bluesoul]

i'd most likely treat this individual just like i treat anyone else at my workplace. i wouldn't care or be interested in their transition because that's their own private matter. my only interest would be how efficient they are completing tasks required of them.

as to romantic interest (dating, friendship, asking out, living a fantasy): no. my interest in transexuals doesn't extend to the point where i want to engage it. i find the reality more disappointing than the fantasy hints.

[ladd3rfr3ak]

i would support and encourage her, ask her out if she is single, if we both bond well together would make her my wife, grow old with her.....:D

[Rusty Eldora]

As I now know several tgirls I would be very encouraging but professional at work. I have found that someone able to complete the challenge of transition should be able to tackle problems at work with ease, if she is interested in them.

Yes workplace romances are usually disasters, I think with a tgirl there is more attention on them as well as issues of harassment, meaning they really need to keep their nest clean.

Would I personally hire, work with, or work for a tgirl. It would be an honor.

[Turlington]

I wouldn't have any problems whatsoever.

[jamesedwards]

How are you?
Tell you the truth I wouldn't do none of thee above. I am glad it was drama free for you, that's great, but for me I really wouldn't care about if that person is transitioning or not, I am there for work and that only, that's always been my spread.

I would say hi and keep it moving, I wouldn't ask questions or try to date or sex a TGirl on the job, I don't even do that with women, "Don't eat and shit in the same place", and I have followed that motto even with women. I have never dated a woman on the job and never will.

I would leave that personal thingy that the TGirl is going through private and wouldn't want to get involved in talks or anything.

I find it very odd that people started talking to you after you transitioned.



How would you guys handle working with a co worker that transitions on the job in your workplace. Would you show your support? Would your view this as your chance to get to know a trans woman, become friends, ask out, try to date, or see this as a chance to live out a fantasy of sleeping with a ts female, and risk being outted?

It will be 10 yrs ago next month that I transitioned on my job, and for the most part it's been great drama free, more Coworkers say hello or talk with me now than my past life there, and in the past few yrs quite a few of my male coworkers hit on me, flirt, or have asked me out, including a lesbian who became angry and hasn't said a word to me in a few yrs since I turned down her invite to meet her at a bar for a drink. I won't date or sleep with anyone from my workplace thou. Don't need a potential headache developing on the job

I'm also have been celibate now just over 3 yrs, enjoy being single and relationship free

[CORVETTEDUDE]

I have been following and supporting the transgender community for nearly 30 years. Although now retired and not in the workforce, I would hope I would be equally supportive of a peer that felt the need to transition their life in an effort to be the person they believe themselves to be. I would hope they wouldn't take that decision lightly. However, I would not date anyone I worked with for romantic purposes. I've never seen it turn out well, both from personal and observed experiences.

I have no reservations regarding dating, either privately or publicly, a person that is in transition. There are ladies within the community for which I garner a great amount of affection. For me personally, an extended relationship with the right lady is not out of the question.

Walk down the street with you....YOU BET!!!:Bowdown:

[my my my!]

I consider myself a trans supporter, and have many trans friends including FTMs.

I've never had a trans person (that I know of) work at the places I've worked.

All I know, is where I live, it is still a very backward hispanic catholic community, and it's 50/50 in how they treat anyone LGBT. at work, they would all of the sudden mention transsexuals, and say demeaning stuff like " if one of those things ever works here, I'll wait for it outside of work and kick it's ass" and stuff like that.

My reaction was "hey dude, what the fuck is it to you? " and since I'm not exactly scrawny, i got the impression that they realized they were out of line. It's just too bad I never had the opportunity to stand up for anyone in person.

At my current job, the owners would not even consider hiring a transgendered person, and it's one of the reason I want to leave.

[SmithXXX]

I work along side transgender women quite a bit in my job. It is very difficult to not hit on them and not sleep with them. As a matter of fact if I don't have sex with them the camera man would get mad and I probably would get fired......lol I do love my job

[tonkatoy]

I work alone, so it would be somewhat alarming.

[lifeisfiction]

How would you guys handle working with a co worker that transitions on the job in your workplace. Would you show your support? Would your view this as your chance to get to know a trans woman, become friends, ask out, try to date, or see this as a chance to live out a fantasy of sleeping with a ts female, and risk being outted?

It will be 10 yrs ago next month that I transitioned on my job, and for the most part it's been great drama free, more Coworkers say hello or talk with me now than my past life there, and in the past few yrs quite a few of my male coworkers hit on me, flirt, or have asked me out, including a lesbian who became angry and hasn't said a word to me in a few yrs since I turned down her invite to meet her at a bar for a drink. I won't date or sleep with anyone from my workplace thou. Don't need a potential headache developing on the job

I'm also have been celibate now just over 3 yrs, enjoy being single and relationship free

James said it best. Work is for making money. Friends, yes but I am generally friendly to everyone so, yea I wouldn't think about saying oh wow, I want to hook with my co-worker. I have seen enough relationship problems stemming from a work environment. Then you can have major problem if you start dating and it ends really messy, now for the rest of you duration with the business you have work with a person.... Yeah let me stop there.

[JenniferParisHusband]

I used to work with a woman who transitioned much later in life. This was in the mid-90's, in a very conservative city, and I don't remember her having an easy time of things in our office. I never saw her talk to too many people, and never went to lunch with anyone. I was still young, and hadn't had a lot of experience in the world yet, and normally hung with the people in my department. When she got her SRS, she never came back. Always felt sorry for her, of course that office was filled with Corporate douche-nozzles. I was glad when I left.

Later in life, went to law school with a girl who was still pre-op. She was pretty, fun, and nice to work with. Wanted to date her, but I had a job where I very much had to be mindful of my public image, and keep most of my life private (couldn't use Facebook even). We came close, I got about 2 minutes of a blow job from her before she had to quit (public place, people were starting to come close to us.) Always wanted to try again, but left the city before I got another chance to try to get a relationship going. Would have loved to work with her though. She was a lot of fun, and wicked smart.

[RallyCola]

beyond the scope of my work in school where i was fortunate to meet and befriend a few transwoman, admittedly the majority of my interactions have been through porn/escorts. also, despite previously being involved with my undergrad and grad lgbta's, again, those people have faded away. that said, I am fortunate to I work with a wonderful woman who is quite intelligent, funny, engaging, attentive and who is amid her transition. at first it was a bit odd to socialize with her simply because she is one of the department admins and my lab mates and colleagues, well, frankly frown on that because they are aloof...but beyond getting passed that, i had no issue being seen as supportive of her and friendly with her. my wife and i have lunch with her at least 2x weekly and we are all great friends now. she came to the department about 2 months or so after I did. she interviewed as a woman states that at no time during the interview process was she asked about her gender identity. i specifically remember my colleagues trying to be crass but 1) being afraid to do it for fear of harassment charges, or 2) they are just not that crass because they are a bunch of nerds. She does well at her job and for all intents and purposes never needs to address her gender issue.

She is one of only 2 transwomen that i presently count among my close group of friends. my other close friend crossdressed for about 3 years and actually lived as a woman in all aspects other than work for 2-3 years before finally starting to transition with hormones and elective surgeries. she had agonized over telling her boss that she was transitioning because she worked for a very small agency on long island. ironically, her agony was really self inflicted as she was accepted for the woman she was transitioning to be. i am not sure how exactly she managed to do it but one day, she ripped the band aid off and walked into work as a woman and never looked back. it took quite a bit of guts to do it that way.

[Rusty Eldora]

I work along side transgender women quite a bit in my job. It is very difficult to not hit on them and not sleep with them. As a matter of fact if I don't have sex with them the camera man would get mad and I probably would get fired......lol I do love my job

It's in your Position Description to fuck and suck them to their delight. The rest of us are quite jealous. You get paid to be with girls we only dream about.

[Bark]

How would you guys handle working with a co worker that transitions on the job in your workplace. Would you show your support? Would your view this as your chance to get to know a trans woman, become friends, ask out, try to date, or see this as a chance to live out a fantasy of sleeping with a ts female, and risk being outted?

It will be 10 yrs ago next month that I transitioned on my job, and for the most part it's been great drama free, more Coworkers say hello or talk with me now than my past life there, and in the past few yrs quite a few of my male coworkers hit on me, flirt, or have asked me out, including a lesbian who became angry and hasn't said a word to me in a few yrs since I turned down her invite to meet her at a bar for a drink. I won't date or sleep with anyone from my workplace thou. Don't need a potential headache developing on the job

I'm also have been celibate now just over 3 yrs, enjoy being single and relationship free
If she is cut enough I want to go home with her, see her sexy secret.

[Wendy Summers]

I work along side transgender women quite a bit in my job. It is very difficult to not hit on them and not sleep with them. As a matter of fact if I don't have sex with them the camera man would get mad and I probably would get fired......lol I do love my job

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[Tapatio]

A lot of the responses seem to instantly sexualize being transsexual.

I feel that kind of sucks.

I know this is a porn forum, but still...

[gaysian71]

I have only been lucky enough to work with one transsexual woman. I actually hired her. She was married plus I worked with her, so I made no sexual advances toward her in any way. But she was fun as hell to work with. Given the opportunity I would hire another transgendered woman. But there aren't many in y industry, so unfortunately it probably won't happen again.

[SmithXXX]

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HAHAHAHA. .....
You just had to go there huh? Definitely made me laugh. Ed will probably get a chuckle out of that response too.

[MrFanti]

How would you guys handle working with a co worker that transitions on the job in your workplace. Would you show your support? Would your view this as your chance to get to know a trans woman, become friends,

-Wouldn't mind one bit.
I would definitely support and would also love to get to know the individual.

Great question!

[KiraHarden]

I work alone, so it would be somewhat alarming.
I bet

[KiraHarden]

I work along side transgender women quite a bit in my job. It is very difficult to not hit on them and not sleep with them. As a matter of fact if I don't have sex with them the camera man would get mad and I probably would get fired......lol I do love my job
That would be the same as me refusing to work with male coworkers unless they fuck me

[Bobzz]

I'd hire one. In fact, I'm looking for a secretary in Philadelphia, so if anyone knows of one ...
let me know.

[diddyboponTOP]

I wish more TS would work 9-5
The culture would be taken much more seriously in society.Sex work holds then back.Like GG escorts have the same issues.

[KiraHarden]

ts hooker/escorts are just a small percentage, of what trans woman do for a career choice

[KiraHarden]

Ts hookers/escorts are a small percentage of what trans woman choose for a career

[maddygirl]

How about just treat her like anyone else. Some of the responses here are ridiculous. "Uh I'd like to get to know her and fuck her." That's pretty much the gist of half the responses here. Well, that's a bit unnerving.

[kmersh]

At my previous employer (I now work for a much smaller employer) we constantly had what HR called "In Service Training" which was basically Gender and Sexuality Sensitivity Training and we were given many different scenarios about to deport oursleves at the office as well as how to handle different interpersonal situations that might occur at the office.

Oh and Fraternization among colleagues was discouraged, to the point that my manager would remind us that if we met up socially after work, any planning for said social event would have to occur after work hours.

We did in fact have an employee (not in my group) transition and I think she went about it in the wrong way, instead of maybe talking to her immediate colleagues, she decided to bring in HR, which in turned caused the entire office to have training sessions about what it is to be Transgendered and how we should relate with this particular colleague.

I worked in a massive office with 10,000 people and most people had no idea who worked outside of their group, so now after HR specifically talking about how to treat this individual she lost her anonymity and everybody in the building knew her name.

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[KiraHarden]

At my previous employer (I now work for a much smaller employer) we constantly had what HR called "In Service Training" which was basically Gender and Sexuality Sensitivity Training and we were given many different scenarios about to deport oursleves at the office as well as how to handle different interpersonal situations that might occur at the office.

Oh and Fraternization among colleagues was discouraged, to the point that my manager would remind us that if we met up socially after work, any planning for said social event would have to occur after work hours.

We did in fact have an employee (not in my group) transition and I think she went about it in the wrong way, instead of maybe talking to her immediate colleagues, she decided to bring in HR, which in turned caused the entire office to have training sessions about what it is to be Transgendered and how we should relate with this particular colleague.

I worked in a massive office with 10,000 people and most people had no idea who worked outside of their group, so now after HR specifically talking about how to treat this individual she lost her anonymity and everybody in the building knew her name.

k
I approached a coworker I trusted first, then supervisor, Union about my plans to transition. Then upper management set up a meeting with my supervisors, immediate coworkers, EEO was present(for any questions) and then I brought up and discussed my plans to transition. I work with about 3000 employees. Then other sections had their own pvt talks about typically EEO issues and the zero tolerance policy .

Word got around super fast and I was the new hot workplace topic and became the most well know Name in the company. Which is good and bad . The bad being that many coworkers would say hi as we passed on workroom floor using my female name, but I had no idea who they were or name. The good being it provided me the opportunity to meet and make new friends from that first hello. My company and coworkers have been wonderfull for 10 yrs

[vicky]

At work I don't care who or what you are. Do you do your job. Can you be counted on to be there everyday. Are you a team player. We will get along just fine. I don't fish from the company pier, so I won't have any problem there.

[bimale69]

How about just treat her like anyone else. Some of the responses here are ridiculous. "Uh I'd like to get to know her and fuck her." That's pretty much the gist of half the responses here. Well, that's a bit unnerving.

Very true. My company has a transwoman driving for us, I didn't really know she was until one of the dimwit mechanics outed her, what pissed me off was the offending dimwit mechanic went and spread the word to the other drivers. One afternoon I was at the home terminal for our "truckers appreciation week", she was there moving into a new truck, a couple drivers (idiot rednecks) came up to me whispering "hey that's really a dude!", to which I explained that she had has just as much right to be out here working as anyone else. Unfortunately, they started acting like the hillbilly dumbasses that they were and trying to spread some rumor that I was a "good buddy" and that I was her "fag boyfriend". Fortunately the company has a VERY strict LGBT friendly anti-discrimination/harassment policy,the offending mechanic and those drivers are gone and the tgirl working here is one of our best drivers. ( and no, I wasn't dating her, as I don't fraternize with co-workers) I have no problem at all working along side transgender and gay employees and supervisors, in fact I wish there were more of them in my industry. I feel more comfortable among them than with most of the redneck bible thumping hillbillies out here. Of course it helps I'm a member of the LGBT community myself.

[fred41]

How about just treat her like anyone else. Some of the responses here are ridiculous. "Uh I'd like to get to know her and fuck her." That's pretty much the gist of half the responses here. Well, that's a bit unnerving.

Damn, I read all of the comments and I think you're off base. It's nowhere near half. The majority of comments were fairly respectful, with many posters saying they wouldn't even have ANY workplace relationships.

[fred41]

To answer the OP though...I've never (as far as I know) run into a transsexual on my job...and there are definitely none at my small work location at present. I would support them if necessary, other than that I would treat them like any other worker.
I don't have an "I don't date coworkers" policy...as a matter of fact, I have dated a few and even married one for many, many years...but it's probably not the best idea in the world...but if there was a mutual attraction and she was NOT a subordinate...then I wouldn't rule it out. Same as GG.

Good question BTW.

Don't know if I would've answered this question the same way twenty or thirty years ago. I'd like to think so.