Mrkay
07-30-2014, 05:29 AM
Hello Forum! :')
I've finally massed a lot of courage, to share with you an experience I've had, being in a relationship with a transgender woman. Who eventually became a Escort, however, I am also looking for people who've had success in being in such a relationship.
(Please note that I'm referring to a possible successful relationship with a Escort, I am aware there is already a thread on this, but I would really like for you to read the post before answering, thanks! :D
In 2011, I began my student life in London, I'm originally from South Yorkshire. Which meant for my first year, I was to be living in student accommodation, where I met, not to my knowledge at the time a transgender woman. Who was my flatmate. To our knowledge, that being our flatmates, we had no idea, she, was a transgender.
As ignorant as I might sound, I didn't know what a transgender was, I knew what a tranny was, but not a transgender, t-girl, ts, etc.
She also, didn't even tell any of us, that she was a pre-op transgender woman. Nor, did we suspect she was, to my knowledge she was a GG.
As we spent a lot of time together during the start of term being freshers, shopping together, going out on student nights, etc, we created such an amazing bond, an amazing friendship.
We both ultimately were crazy about each other, we spent as much time in any given day in each others rooms and company.
When I knew this would lead to a relationship was when all I'd do is text her, and she'll text me.
It got into 3 months of being at uni, I've not kissed her at this point, or anything sexual at this point, but we knew we wanted to be together, to me, there was no if, only certainty.
So, we got together, now, at this point, I was 19 and she was 20, I've only ever been with GG's, since I was a kid, I've never known or had any different.
I was so excited to be with her, many people flirted with her at uni, in clubs, they would always try it, so I was happy and proud to have the woman who not only in my eyes is desirable but also desirable to other men.
Being so excited, I wanted to finally kiss her, being at the flat, where we was both comfortable, I went to spontaneously kiss her.
At this time we were talking about our goals, aspirations, lives and it was really passionate.
The kiss wasn't even sex motivated, as growing up, I had so much respect for women, I still have the utmost of respect, mainly because I was raised solely by my mother.
But she didn't instill that in me, I did that on my own, so I wouldn't of dared to even push her to sex. I just wanted to kiss the woman I'm in love with, but, she rejected me.
Now, this was the second week of our relationship, the first week, she spent at home, and the rest revising. So I didn't even get the chance to really spend a great deal of time with her, also, I didn't want to smother her either. I wanted her to be comfortable and happy, take things slow, not act like a married couple, which would of been easy seeing as we literally were living together.
When she rejected me, so much was going through my mind as to why, but, straightaway she did say to me that there was something she had to tell me.
Then, she came out with it, she was a transgender, she was born a man, she is now a woman, but still has a penis, which is why she didn't want to kiss me.
Because, I may have felt her penis against me, but I was in shock.
What came first was that I had to swear that I wouldn't reveal she was a transgender, so I couldn't tell my flatmates or anyone, as I was at the time distraught, shocked, scared and I was in such despair, I was really frightened. I was in love, bit it was such a confusing mess to me, at the time.
However, after telling me, she begged me not to leave her, at the time I wasn't angry, just upset, as I felt like I was conned, at the time I had no right to feel that way, even though I would feel such a way in the future, but, I was mainly upset.
She then explained to me, that I was in love with a woman, not a man. As, I believed I was in love with a man, again, this was all at the time, I really was not educated, or open minded at all; in regards to transgenders.
But, she was right, very early on I learnt I was in love with the gender, not the genitalia, she also promised it wouldn't be anything different, apart from the sex and the children will have to be adopted and all that. But after the weekend I just got over it.
I felt the need to educate myself, as I owed it to her, our relationship, and I did, so I got over it pretty quickly so it seemed.
It also meant I wasn't gay as I was believing to me the case. ¬ ¬
So yeah, we went out and we was happy, very happy, I treated her no different, to me, she was my girlfriend, I did everything I would normally do with a GG.
To me she was not any different in that aspect, she was a girl, a woman, as I called her, like all women I had a lot of respect for her, and also the transgender community, for being able to commit against so many odds, to another gender.
I respected her a lot during our time together, sex was another issue at first, having to commit to doing anal with her instead of virginal. It was all a big hurdle for me, but again I got over it, and for that aspect especially, I did more research. I really was in love with her, and genuinely did want to be with her regardless of her being a pre-op transsexual. That became a non-issue for me it really did, but during my research, I ran in to this forum. I didn't sign up straightaway, but it educated me a lot. (Thanks HG! :D <3)
Which lead me to get into the idea of giving her oral, not for some kinky fetish, but the fact that she was a woman, my woman, and I wanted to please her.
I never got oral from her as I felt it would be unfair, she was surprised and even shocked I would even think about doing it, but for her, I wanted too.
I was really scared so to start, for like a few weeks, I would masturbate her, as normally she would only touch her penis, I never did, but overtime, gradually, I got into the idea and finally gave her oral. I got into the idea of her having a penis, and even using it, it became normal to me.
I remember, as I wanted to impress her and please her, I tried deep-throating bananas for a few weeks for prepping, so yeah, I'm a pro!
The oral was a major milestone in the relationship, and so was being together for at the time 3 months. :')
She also revealed that she wanted to feel different sensations, which meant topping me, which at the time to me was a no-no but, for her pleasure I wanted to, I did give her oral to be fair, I touched her penis, and sex should go both ways, it's only fair. So we decided, as I was a anal virgin, we would wait for her birthday as a little gift, :)
As I wanted time to prepare, give her an amazing day, treat her like a princess and at the end of the night, give her some ass!! :')
But, to me, it was all about her, I was in love with her, I wanted to please her as I was in love. It was about making love not being all kinky, just love. I learnt that she IS A WOMAN, no matter how she was born, she is a woman, so I treated her as such.
It got towards, April, everything was going amazing! It was a unique, and beautiful experience for me, but up to this point, money, was really difficult, I had some, but obviously, not enough. Same in regards for many students, for me it was especially tough as I'm a media production student, with an emphasis on film.
So, I had put in money for a budget for a short film I directed, as we needed costumes, and other stuff. But, I survived, however my girlfriend at the time, wasn't surviving.
So, she came to me, she revealed to me her plans for escorting, as she needed the money. Now again, like the last time, I really did feel distraught, but only this time it was soo much worse as I felt like my life came crashing down around me.
I loved her, I couldn't even imagine her with another man, but she told me she needed it, she also told me she would top them, when I offered to help she said then revealed that it was for surgery to make her well, a woman.
Now, I didn't not agree with the idea, however, I'm not the person to control someone, or tell them what to do. So, I made a choice to leave her, as bad as that may sound, I didn't want her sleeping with another man, also, I felt hurt, I felt conned as I was told and made to believe things would be different.
Which in my defense was the truth, so everything to me, was a lie.
I had so many different emotions, but I really did not want to tell her what to do, It was her life, so I made the decision to leave her to it.
But, she begged me to stay, even though it wasn't what I signed up for, she told me it was only for the surgery and I was so naive I believed her, so I stayed with her, I supported her the best I could, but it was really the worst experience of my life.
But, I never left her, I did my best to understand, and support her.
I finally did after a week, which felt like torment, as I had no one, not even her to talk too.
In a relationship, which I believed I had you should be able to communicate with your partner.
To me, she really was my best friend, as best friends are loyal, open, hate the same things you do, never judges you, and I did my utmost to create that sort of relationship, which I did.
I mean, I know you shouldn't be insecure but isn't the whole point of being with someone it to rationally be able to share your concerns? Be comforted and be told it will be all okay?
I never got any of that, I genuinely believe I was deprived of that, escort or not, there is no excuse for that.
However at that time, I was all alone on the escorting issue, I got over the idea, as I began to realise many people must do it.
As it is only topping, to my knowledge, I became okay with it, It may have been worse if she was bottoming but she said she wasn't.
So I became okay with the idea of topping no bottoming, also, I kinda had no choice, well I did but I believed I didn't.
It came towards the end of May, she now, had become a full blown coke addict. : /
I rarely got to see her as she wasn't escorting from the flat, she was doing it from a friends or something, she also went out to transgender clubs and it was just a mess.
I just felt conned as I was promised a way of life and never got it, she changed, hurt me many times, so, I just got fed up and left her.
She turned into a real dick, (pun intended) I even got a job to stay with her until my contract ran out with my accommodation till July.
Now, she has dropped out of uni and I have no idea what she is doing, she could even be on this site for all I know, or even lurking, like I was until I signed up as I came home from uni.
I joined this site like 2 years ago, never really posted, just lurked, but I did see an awesome community, and I always wanted to be a part of it.
But, all that time I was with her, I got used to the idea of being with a TS, being bottomed, giving head, a penis on a woman. Even though by the way I'm still a virgin on the bottom front. It is still no different now, at one point I did call a TS, who is local, but had a weird, bad experience in that regard and never called or met a escort again.
But I still have the desire to be with a transsexual, a pre-op one as I still haven't been topped and I do like the idea. To me, being bottomed is an act of making love rather than a fetish.
But, I've never really met a transgender after her, not going to lie I want to meet one as well.
But many seem to be in the profession of escorting, and that's fine, people have the right to do and be who and what they want.
I'm an advocate of that, but now after telling my experience I want some advice. Will it really work, being with a TS? Regardless of them being an Escort or not.
I understand the hurdles, people in public, family, all of that, I really do get it and been through it somewhat. But what I'm asking is does anyone have an experience with it working either way?
My experience was an awful but like any relationship regardless of gender I understand it was just her as a person.
Because after being with one, I really do not see me being with a GG, ultimately because I don't want too, it ain't fair on her. In so many ways, as I would hate to desire a TS, while I'm with her.
So I'm asking, does anyone have experience with it working?
I would also like to apologise for rambling on and potentially many grammar mistakes.
It is my first thread, and been wanting to make one for a long time.
Thanks again. :)
I've finally massed a lot of courage, to share with you an experience I've had, being in a relationship with a transgender woman. Who eventually became a Escort, however, I am also looking for people who've had success in being in such a relationship.
(Please note that I'm referring to a possible successful relationship with a Escort, I am aware there is already a thread on this, but I would really like for you to read the post before answering, thanks! :D
In 2011, I began my student life in London, I'm originally from South Yorkshire. Which meant for my first year, I was to be living in student accommodation, where I met, not to my knowledge at the time a transgender woman. Who was my flatmate. To our knowledge, that being our flatmates, we had no idea, she, was a transgender.
As ignorant as I might sound, I didn't know what a transgender was, I knew what a tranny was, but not a transgender, t-girl, ts, etc.
She also, didn't even tell any of us, that she was a pre-op transgender woman. Nor, did we suspect she was, to my knowledge she was a GG.
As we spent a lot of time together during the start of term being freshers, shopping together, going out on student nights, etc, we created such an amazing bond, an amazing friendship.
We both ultimately were crazy about each other, we spent as much time in any given day in each others rooms and company.
When I knew this would lead to a relationship was when all I'd do is text her, and she'll text me.
It got into 3 months of being at uni, I've not kissed her at this point, or anything sexual at this point, but we knew we wanted to be together, to me, there was no if, only certainty.
So, we got together, now, at this point, I was 19 and she was 20, I've only ever been with GG's, since I was a kid, I've never known or had any different.
I was so excited to be with her, many people flirted with her at uni, in clubs, they would always try it, so I was happy and proud to have the woman who not only in my eyes is desirable but also desirable to other men.
Being so excited, I wanted to finally kiss her, being at the flat, where we was both comfortable, I went to spontaneously kiss her.
At this time we were talking about our goals, aspirations, lives and it was really passionate.
The kiss wasn't even sex motivated, as growing up, I had so much respect for women, I still have the utmost of respect, mainly because I was raised solely by my mother.
But she didn't instill that in me, I did that on my own, so I wouldn't of dared to even push her to sex. I just wanted to kiss the woman I'm in love with, but, she rejected me.
Now, this was the second week of our relationship, the first week, she spent at home, and the rest revising. So I didn't even get the chance to really spend a great deal of time with her, also, I didn't want to smother her either. I wanted her to be comfortable and happy, take things slow, not act like a married couple, which would of been easy seeing as we literally were living together.
When she rejected me, so much was going through my mind as to why, but, straightaway she did say to me that there was something she had to tell me.
Then, she came out with it, she was a transgender, she was born a man, she is now a woman, but still has a penis, which is why she didn't want to kiss me.
Because, I may have felt her penis against me, but I was in shock.
What came first was that I had to swear that I wouldn't reveal she was a transgender, so I couldn't tell my flatmates or anyone, as I was at the time distraught, shocked, scared and I was in such despair, I was really frightened. I was in love, bit it was such a confusing mess to me, at the time.
However, after telling me, she begged me not to leave her, at the time I wasn't angry, just upset, as I felt like I was conned, at the time I had no right to feel that way, even though I would feel such a way in the future, but, I was mainly upset.
She then explained to me, that I was in love with a woman, not a man. As, I believed I was in love with a man, again, this was all at the time, I really was not educated, or open minded at all; in regards to transgenders.
But, she was right, very early on I learnt I was in love with the gender, not the genitalia, she also promised it wouldn't be anything different, apart from the sex and the children will have to be adopted and all that. But after the weekend I just got over it.
I felt the need to educate myself, as I owed it to her, our relationship, and I did, so I got over it pretty quickly so it seemed.
It also meant I wasn't gay as I was believing to me the case. ¬ ¬
So yeah, we went out and we was happy, very happy, I treated her no different, to me, she was my girlfriend, I did everything I would normally do with a GG.
To me she was not any different in that aspect, she was a girl, a woman, as I called her, like all women I had a lot of respect for her, and also the transgender community, for being able to commit against so many odds, to another gender.
I respected her a lot during our time together, sex was another issue at first, having to commit to doing anal with her instead of virginal. It was all a big hurdle for me, but again I got over it, and for that aspect especially, I did more research. I really was in love with her, and genuinely did want to be with her regardless of her being a pre-op transsexual. That became a non-issue for me it really did, but during my research, I ran in to this forum. I didn't sign up straightaway, but it educated me a lot. (Thanks HG! :D <3)
Which lead me to get into the idea of giving her oral, not for some kinky fetish, but the fact that she was a woman, my woman, and I wanted to please her.
I never got oral from her as I felt it would be unfair, she was surprised and even shocked I would even think about doing it, but for her, I wanted too.
I was really scared so to start, for like a few weeks, I would masturbate her, as normally she would only touch her penis, I never did, but overtime, gradually, I got into the idea and finally gave her oral. I got into the idea of her having a penis, and even using it, it became normal to me.
I remember, as I wanted to impress her and please her, I tried deep-throating bananas for a few weeks for prepping, so yeah, I'm a pro!
The oral was a major milestone in the relationship, and so was being together for at the time 3 months. :')
She also revealed that she wanted to feel different sensations, which meant topping me, which at the time to me was a no-no but, for her pleasure I wanted to, I did give her oral to be fair, I touched her penis, and sex should go both ways, it's only fair. So we decided, as I was a anal virgin, we would wait for her birthday as a little gift, :)
As I wanted time to prepare, give her an amazing day, treat her like a princess and at the end of the night, give her some ass!! :')
But, to me, it was all about her, I was in love with her, I wanted to please her as I was in love. It was about making love not being all kinky, just love. I learnt that she IS A WOMAN, no matter how she was born, she is a woman, so I treated her as such.
It got towards, April, everything was going amazing! It was a unique, and beautiful experience for me, but up to this point, money, was really difficult, I had some, but obviously, not enough. Same in regards for many students, for me it was especially tough as I'm a media production student, with an emphasis on film.
So, I had put in money for a budget for a short film I directed, as we needed costumes, and other stuff. But, I survived, however my girlfriend at the time, wasn't surviving.
So, she came to me, she revealed to me her plans for escorting, as she needed the money. Now again, like the last time, I really did feel distraught, but only this time it was soo much worse as I felt like my life came crashing down around me.
I loved her, I couldn't even imagine her with another man, but she told me she needed it, she also told me she would top them, when I offered to help she said then revealed that it was for surgery to make her well, a woman.
Now, I didn't not agree with the idea, however, I'm not the person to control someone, or tell them what to do. So, I made a choice to leave her, as bad as that may sound, I didn't want her sleeping with another man, also, I felt hurt, I felt conned as I was told and made to believe things would be different.
Which in my defense was the truth, so everything to me, was a lie.
I had so many different emotions, but I really did not want to tell her what to do, It was her life, so I made the decision to leave her to it.
But, she begged me to stay, even though it wasn't what I signed up for, she told me it was only for the surgery and I was so naive I believed her, so I stayed with her, I supported her the best I could, but it was really the worst experience of my life.
But, I never left her, I did my best to understand, and support her.
I finally did after a week, which felt like torment, as I had no one, not even her to talk too.
In a relationship, which I believed I had you should be able to communicate with your partner.
To me, she really was my best friend, as best friends are loyal, open, hate the same things you do, never judges you, and I did my utmost to create that sort of relationship, which I did.
I mean, I know you shouldn't be insecure but isn't the whole point of being with someone it to rationally be able to share your concerns? Be comforted and be told it will be all okay?
I never got any of that, I genuinely believe I was deprived of that, escort or not, there is no excuse for that.
However at that time, I was all alone on the escorting issue, I got over the idea, as I began to realise many people must do it.
As it is only topping, to my knowledge, I became okay with it, It may have been worse if she was bottoming but she said she wasn't.
So I became okay with the idea of topping no bottoming, also, I kinda had no choice, well I did but I believed I didn't.
It came towards the end of May, she now, had become a full blown coke addict. : /
I rarely got to see her as she wasn't escorting from the flat, she was doing it from a friends or something, she also went out to transgender clubs and it was just a mess.
I just felt conned as I was promised a way of life and never got it, she changed, hurt me many times, so, I just got fed up and left her.
She turned into a real dick, (pun intended) I even got a job to stay with her until my contract ran out with my accommodation till July.
Now, she has dropped out of uni and I have no idea what she is doing, she could even be on this site for all I know, or even lurking, like I was until I signed up as I came home from uni.
I joined this site like 2 years ago, never really posted, just lurked, but I did see an awesome community, and I always wanted to be a part of it.
But, all that time I was with her, I got used to the idea of being with a TS, being bottomed, giving head, a penis on a woman. Even though by the way I'm still a virgin on the bottom front. It is still no different now, at one point I did call a TS, who is local, but had a weird, bad experience in that regard and never called or met a escort again.
But I still have the desire to be with a transsexual, a pre-op one as I still haven't been topped and I do like the idea. To me, being bottomed is an act of making love rather than a fetish.
But, I've never really met a transgender after her, not going to lie I want to meet one as well.
But many seem to be in the profession of escorting, and that's fine, people have the right to do and be who and what they want.
I'm an advocate of that, but now after telling my experience I want some advice. Will it really work, being with a TS? Regardless of them being an Escort or not.
I understand the hurdles, people in public, family, all of that, I really do get it and been through it somewhat. But what I'm asking is does anyone have an experience with it working either way?
My experience was an awful but like any relationship regardless of gender I understand it was just her as a person.
Because after being with one, I really do not see me being with a GG, ultimately because I don't want too, it ain't fair on her. In so many ways, as I would hate to desire a TS, while I'm with her.
So I'm asking, does anyone have experience with it working?
I would also like to apologise for rambling on and potentially many grammar mistakes.
It is my first thread, and been wanting to make one for a long time.
Thanks again. :)