Is it better to stay a Fantasy?

[MatthewsJ_1985]

New to the board, but I was just hoping to maybe get a little advice. I have been into TGirls for a few years now but have never really had the guts to actually act on those feelings. Every time after I finish jerking off, those feelings go away for a few hours, but they always come back. Here recently I have been having a conversation with a local TS escort and she has offered to be my first. I am just wondering should I go through with it, or is it best for me to just leave it as a fantasy.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

[sukumvit boy]

go for it , just be careful.

[jamesedwards]

New to the board, but I was just hoping to maybe get a little advice. I have been into TGirls for a few years now but have never really had the guts to actually act on those feelings. Every time after I finish jerking off, those feelings go away for a few hours, but they always come back. Here recently I have been having a conversation with a local TS escort and she has offered to be my first. I am just wondering should I go through with it, or is it best for me to just leave it as a fantasy.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

I will say this, if its just a feeling and goes away that's a fantasy, and if you feel it will cross the lines of your limits don't do it, and don't try it because someone else likes it. It could be a horrid experience for you and things could get ugly. WE don't have to always act on fantasies, I have a fantasy of jumping out of a plane with a parachute but will I actually do it? Hell to the no LOL .Just know you have the right to do it or not and no one will hate you. Do it or not on your terms, there is nothing wrong with fantasies.:cheers:

[MatthewsJ_1985]

I will say this, if its just a feeling and goes away that's a fantasy, and if you feel it will cross the lines of your limits don't do it, and don't try it because someone else likes it. It could be a horrid experience for you and things could get ugly. WE don't have to always act on fantasies, I have a fantasy of jumping out of a plane with a parachute but will I actually do it? Hell to the no LOL .Just know you have the right to do it or not and no one will hate you. Do it or not on your terms, there is nothing wrong with fantasies.:cheers:


Really appreciate that advice man. It will definitely be something I take into thought on this situation. I just worry about the fantasy possibly boiling over later in life when I am married with a family.

As far as the jumping out of a plane thing lol. I highly recommend it. I have about 8 jumps under my belt right now. Seriously the best feeling in the world..

[TSPornFan]

I always said I would never pay for sex and die a happy virgin. However, I would pay an escort if she is a pornstar like Sarina Valentina. If I was you, then I would hire a pornstar escort. It would be costly and it may take time to save money, but it would be worth it.

I'm recommending a pornstar escort because you know they're not the police. You also know what they look like. Be careful with ads. Not all girls are honest. Some steal photos while others edit their photos for escort sites.

[MatthewsJ_1985]

I always said I would never pay for sex and die a happy virgin. However, I would pay an escort if she is a pornstar like Sarina Valentina. If I was you, then I would hire a pornstar escort. It would be costly and it may take time to save money, but it would be worth it.

I'm recommending a pornstar escort because you know they're not the police. You also know what they look like. Be careful with ads. Not all girls are honest. Some steal photos while others edit their photos for escort sites.


I am a little nervous about the whole police thing as well. She seems to be very nice and isn't bad looking by no means. I'm not sure if these are allowed to be posted or not but ill put a link to her Eros site. And it would take me forever to be able to afford a pornstar escort and not really sure of any located around South Carolina.


http://www.eros-carolina.com/files/244789.htm

[TSPornFan]

I am a little nervous about the whole police thing as well. She seems to be very nice and isn't bad looking by no means. I'm not sure if these are allowed to be posted or not but ill put a link to her Eros site. And it would take me forever to be able to afford a pornstar escort and not really sure of any located around South Carolina.


http://www.eros-carolina.com/files/244789.htm

Pornstars occasionally travel around the US. Check their Twitter pages and escort pages for updates.

[Turlington]

Go for it!

[Ben in LA]

My first time wasn't all that, but things got a LOT better after that. Guess I was one of the lucky ones.

[bluesoul]

I am just wondering should I go through with it, or is it best for me to just leave it as a fantasy.


i think only you will know when you're ready, if ever. as an example, i personally have never been with a transsexual, and it's not something i currently want to indulge in. i'm fine just looking at pictures and reading about other people's experiences. this is what works for me and i'm comfortable with it.

find out what you're comfortable with- then ask yourself what you want and go from there

[Prospero]

I would NOT hire a pornstar - contrary to other advice here. True they are very beautiful in many cases, but in my experience some can be arrogant and that really will turn you off. I would suggest if you do decide to try it that you go for the local hometown girl. She is more likely to be pleasant and understanding of what are likely to be your real feelings of nervousness.

But i don't think otherwise I'd advise you one way or the other. I've been at it for years and love it. But it is an intensely personal thing. You'll know when and if you feel the time is right.

[stan.smith]

i felt that 4 a long time that it was just a "visual thing" but once I got a perfect kinky sexual experience out of it (mind you it did take a while to find the perfect Tgirl) everything fell into perspective. my suggestion is you don't give up just keep looking at porn and find the one who you think would be great for ur desires and everything will fall into place.

[Tonytaco]

i felt that 4 a long time that it was just a "visual thing" but once I got a perfect kinky sexual experience out of it (mind you it did take a while to find the perfect Tgirl) everything fell into perspective. my suggestion is you don't give up just keep looking at porn and find the one who you think would be great for ur desires and everything will fall into place.
I had the itch for a few years after meeting a TS in a bar in Singapore. Took her back to the hotel but was too pissed to do anything.
Spent a few years watching porn vids then found an escort using tinder in london. Paid to play as she was really hot (asunta mae) then starting using escorts more and more.
I am glad the real first time was (for me) hot and very sexy rather than some of the bad experiences I have had as well as good ones.

[Amber Littlefeather]

Hey hun..I say go for it ;-) But the escort route is probably be best for your first time just be smart about it...I can say for me if a guy comes up to in a bar or some were and tells me he is looking to have a first time experience.. I run for the hills..Best of luck hun.

[Telemaque]

I say: you only live once. If you feel like you want to try something out, go for it. Better have remorse sthan regrets.

If you don't like it, then you can forget about it and never do it again. If you like it, you'll be glad you tried :)

[cleatus1]

Hi
I also loose my disire after coming watching TS porn...but it soon returns
I had one experience in Amsterdam red light area but was so high don't remember much. I am also very interested in spending an hour or two with a London TS escort but very nervous as I am worried about the dangers
Love reading about fellow posters reviews....keep them up

[Ts RedVeX]

If you want to make our dreams come true, you have to stop dreaming... Otherwise they will remain just dreams.

[runningdownthatdream]

I'd suggest that if you're asking others whether to act on YOUR dream, YOUR fantasy that now may not be the right time for you. Wait until you want it bad enough to make like Nike and just do it! Desire coupled with spontaneity and decisiveness make a huge positive difference when realizing a dream.

[Jericho]

Keep it a fantasy.
Once these crazy bitches get their hooks into you, there's no going back!...Run Forrest, run! :hide-1:

[Amber Littlefeather]

We can be addicting :salad

[Jericho]

We can be addicting :salad

Aint that the truth!
Off to look at your albums for a fix (:jerkoff never heard it called that before! :p

[Chaos]

We can be addicting :salad

Prove it... :kiss:

[Donkey]

I am a little nervous about the whole police thing as well. She seems to be very nice and isn't bad looking by no means. I'm not sure if these are allowed to be posted or not but ill put a link to her Eros site. And it would take me forever to be able to afford a pornstar escort and not really sure of any located around South Carolina.


http://www.eros-carolina.com/files/244789.htm
I realize looks are subjective, but do you really want your first TS to be a 37 year old, 165lb white girl? I promise you that her weight and age are both higher than what she states in her ad too. There are much better options.

[Prospero]

what's wrong with a white girl, Donkey?

[Amber Littlefeather]

And being 37 :-P

[Jericho]

Where's that place in Spain where they chuck a donkey off a tower? :hide-1:

[STARTUP999]

"Is it better to remain a fantasy?"
If you have to ask strangers on a porn forum for validation the answer is "yes" your probably not ready. I would suggest if you do try it though you don't pump yourself up for unrealistic expectations (same for regular sex with GG).

That said, Ms Littlefeather is right that T-girls are addictive. I still enjoy the GG experience, it will do if there are no TG's available but now I can never be totally satisfied with GG's alone. Its like getting hamburger when you really crave fillet minion. But TG's were an acquired taste and it took me four times to become addicted.

As for the law enforcement thing. Going to a known porn star is one way around that. I have heard that some porn stars are arrogant but you can check reviews. I have been with a few girls who dabbled in porn and two actual stars. The stars were among the best providers I ever had.

Another way around a vice bust is 1) never state an amount your donating along with any sexual act. Your just paying for the providers time and company, what "may happen" between adults is just a natural part of the visit and not tied to the donation ever.

2) A technique I picked up from Ednita who is well known in the Hollywood area. She answered the door naked or nearly so always with that huge ebony cock at full mast. She would go down on me without a word as soon as I walked in the door then while she was still sucking she put her hand out for the donation. Classic.

That inspired me to ease that first date awkwardness by walking in with a condom in my hand and go right to my knees, ask permission to go down on her and then do so (wrapped of course). I never had a girl say no. Then I hand or put the donation on the dresser.
I found this eases the girl's mind that I am legit and it makes sure she is too.

Another tactic always amuses me. Often a girl GG or TG will ask "Are you a cop?" in the mistaken belief that an on duty cop can't lie or its entrapment. (Trust me ladies this is NOT the case).

I will casually respond "no" then ask them like I am suspicious, "Hey are you?" They usually laugh but then I insist they prove it to me. Every time I have done this the girl either has given me an open mouth kiss or goes down on me on the spot to prove herself, sometimes both. I love that.

This has always worked for me but maybe some of the providers here could comment if this would put them at ease or if a client being that assertive would put them off.

IMHO Jackie looks like lovely woman. Very few ladies tell the truth about their age, weight or in the case TG's their cock size so what? A mature experienced provider might be just the type to ease your first time jitters. You don't want your first (or any) experience to be with a clock watching diva, no matter how beautiful or famous they are.

[Donkey]

what's wrong with a white girl, Donkey?

Stop race baiting.

[bimbimbop]

As someone from NC too, she has been on Eros for a while now. Can't say anything about her or experience, just that she has been in the area for a while.

In the same boat as you though.

[wearboots4me]

I will say this, if its just a feeling and goes away that's a fantasy, and if you feel it will cross the lines of your limits don't do it, and don't try it because someone else likes it. It could be a horrid experience for you and things could get ugly. WE don't have to always act on fantasies, I have a fantasy of jumping out of a plane with a parachute but will I actually do it? Hell to the no LOL .Just know you have the right to do it or not and no one will hate you. Do it or not on your terms, there is nothing wrong with fantasies.:cheers:
:iagree: Excellent advice.


I am a little nervous about the whole police thing as well. She seems to be very nice and isn't bad looking by no means.


If you are going to see an escort, I would strongly advise you to check out TER, along with any local escort review sites you can find. Seeing a girl with a lot of positive reviews is likely to be a safer, more fun experience than one with no reviews or bad reviews. Also avoid any girls that you know have been arrested recently for anything, because anyone facing criminal charges is susceptible to law enforcement coercion. Hope this helps!

[Rusty Eldora]

We can be addicting :salad

Amber is for sure. I just know her socially but such an amazing woman.

[Rusty Eldora]

To OP, you are probably going thru a lot of the "am I gay" thoughts. Tgirls are women, they are real, and they have personalities. Yes, check out TER theeroticreview.com, also for the east coast there is a hobby board called Eccie.com

yes never discuss sex acts and minimize any talk of money. Go with someone that is well reviewed. I disagree on TG porn stars, (but GG porn stars I avoid) many are quite excellent and only a minimal premium if any.

I would say go for it, but the fantasy will be shattered. Yet the reality can be so much better. Each one is very unique so it might take some study.

[gaysian71]

I think you should try it at least once. You never know, you might really like it. I mean really really like it. Enough to where you won't want to marry a gg and have kids. you might find that you are perfectly happy falling in love with a transgendered woman and be happy you never got into a permanent relationship with a genetic woman.

Just sayin

[hairyguy]

why not date a tgirl? and no, don't choose one just based off chemistry/looks. i have had a bunch of prostitutes over in asia and the best ones are always 49% or lower in looks (average, not too hot) and 51% or higher personality. i remember spending time with a prostitute who looked like she had down syndrome. small eyes, flat nose, etc. she was normal but the face was a turn off. she was great in bed and out of it though. really satisfied me. drank great pussy juice, came on her asshole, she washed me up in the shower afterwards *and* even made sure i had enough money for a cab ride back to my hotel (she was going to actually give me a little money to make sure i am not stranded - i was shocked - she was not independent and had a pimp but still, her personality was great). that was so much better than having a stuck up snob in bed or out of it. if the girl is rude, you will be turned off. this includes either prostitutes or just a fun experience you are searching for. i assume you know this, but at least try the dating route instead of wondering the fantasy thing. and make sure that she treats you right (i assume you reciprocate) or at least is compatible with you.

RustyEldora: WHY do ppl. have those thoughts? why don't they just do what they like? never live your life for someone else. you always end up with regrets. and being gay in america today is OK. not in asia or middle east but it's alright here if that really matters for some reason.

[bimbimbop]

eccie.net

.com is for a Cisco CCIE certification site.

I just looked it up as I had never heard about it before.


To OP, you are probably going thru a lot of the "am I gay" thoughts. Tgirls are women, they are real, and they have personalities. Yes, check out TER theeroticreview.com, also for the east coast there is a hobby board called Eccie.com

yes never discuss sex acts and minimize any talk of money. Go with someone that is well reviewed. I disagree on TG porn stars, (but GG porn stars I avoid) many are quite excellent and only a minimal premium if any.

I would say go for it, but the fantasy will be shattered. Yet the reality can be so much better. Each one is very unique so it might take some study.

[Rusty Eldora]

RustyEldora: WHY do ppl. have those thoughts? why don't they just do what they like? never live your life for someone else. you always end up with regrets. and being gay in america today is OK. not in asia or middle east but it's alright here if that really matters for some reason.

Well for straight guys the message for a long time has been "can't be gay"

I haven't let others live my life, but I think that question is the biggest hurdle to seeing a tgirl.

BimBim - you are right it is Eccie.net. As I am on the west coast I rarely go to it. MyRedbook and TNAboard are the bigger west coast hobby boards.

[Prospero]

Rusty when i warned against Porn stars i did make the point that some are very arrogant. Not all. But when you know them socially it is very different - as you clearly do (and I know a few). The arrogance factor increases when they are on a "flying" visit. But fir a first timer any pay for play experience will be a gamble.

[Rusty Eldora]

Rusty when i warned against Porn stars i did make the point that some are very arrogant. Not all. But when you know them socially it is very different - as you clearly do (and I know a few). The arrogance factor increases when they are on a "flying" visit. But fir a first timer any pay for play experience will be a gamble.

Point taken Prospero - I probably weeded out the ones I thought might be arrogant and didn't even think of seeing them. For a 1st time, a very down to earth sweetheart is the best.