T-Dating Sites

[up_for_it]

I recently decided to give TSdating.com a try, since I was curious to see if any ladies in the area were using it, in the off chance that I might actually meet a cool, down to earth woman who is actually looking for something substantial. I figured at the very least it'd be entertaining for a couple of days and then I'd just cancel my membership.

So far, I haven't been too impressed and it seems like there are a lot of fake profiles- I found one using Vicki Richter's picture and have seen one's with Brittany St Jordan and Domino Presley too, and I'm not sure if they're legit or not. There's also a lot of profiles done by working girls. I've made a couple of contacts, but they're all way too far away to really develop in to anything.

Anyways, I just wondered what other people's experiences with these sites has been like and if they were really worth using. On the one hand, I think they're kind of cool, but on the other, really feel like I'm better off going to a club and trying to meet people the good, old fashioned way.

[emmettray]

Be careful. there's a few rogue homosexuals that tell fibs knocking about...allegedly.

[saintpatrick]

I joined transgenderdate.com. It was free, so what the fuck. With the help of google image search I found supposed transwoman that were using pictures of top models, ones who also were advertising on Eros.com, a ton from the Philippines, a bunch of transvestite wannabees, and a few very real ones. If you are not in a handful of major metropolises, the pickings for passable TGs at clubs can be pretty sparse if you are not in NY-LA, so check it out.

[Johnny.Blaze]

I don't trust any of those "So called" Tgirl dating sites. Sure you may find a couple scattered about, but the majority are fake or girls just trying to promote their own sites or webcams. I'm actually surprised this site promotes one. Just go to the front page and you see a picture of Sienna Grace and other models. Dating site my ass! That kind of bs really ticks me off...

[Telemaque]

Agreed with the comment above: I believe most Tgirl dating sites I've stumbled upon are just scam and are not worth a minute of your time: they're either empty or full of fakes.

The only one that seems sort of legit is transgenderdate, as it's free anyway. Unfortunately, the choice is not great. If you fancy girls from the Philippines, though, there's plenty of that :)

[GroobySteven]

We've a white label at Tlovers.com which we've had a lot to do with the designing and terminology as well as trying to "keep it honest" with taking off escort and working girls ads. Depending on the area, it can be quite good.

In the "olden" days I had good success on Adultfriendfinder.com

It all depends how you approach it, there are plenty of good girls looking for good REAL guys out there, just don't be a dick.

[Prospero]

www.tvchix.com in the Uk is on the edge of being okay

[Ts RedVeX]

IMHO, T- or non T-dating sites are for boring no-lifes who lack imagination or are simply to lazy to do anything in reality. Others just do not have time for that kind of bullcrap.

[Prospero]

:iagree:
IMHO, T- or non T-dating sites are for boring no-lifes who lack imagination or are simply to lazy to do anything in reality. Others just do not have time for that kind of bullcrap.

By and large yes, but.... for those who do not want to go clubbing or are unable to or who live away from major metropolitan centres it might be the only method they have of befriending transgendered women unless they want to go see escorts. And similarly for the girls who want to meet non-scene guys.

[Janos12]

The sites i have looked at are pretty much a waste of time if you are serous about looking for a real hook up. I live in a relatively small town yet it is astonishing how many TS girls live near me if you believe the promotional ads . Ypu can waste a lot of time writing or replying to girls allegedly looking for the right guy before you get a reply. I did meet a couple of genuine girls though so cannot claim it is 100% con.

[Prospero]

I met one through TS-dating a few years back. When we met she was way rougher looking than her pix and it was clearly just a sex hook-up she wanted. I beat a retreat.

[martin48]

I find mainly full of sad males in a frock.

[Telemaque]

On Transgenderdate I got emailed by a pretty chick yesterday evening, and thought it was too good to be true. We talked on Skype, and I could see she's not a hoax: a genuine beautiful girl.

Only problem: she's in the Philippines. :/ Shame, because she's stunning and really nice :)

[Ts RedVeX]

Many people tend to constrain to clubbing, drinking coffee, beer or whatever when it comes to meeting others while there are so many other opportunities... the last time I hooked up with girl was in a snowboarding class. We later went to germany together. If I didn't have to leave the Netherlands we'd prolly still be snowboarding together every now and then..

Clubbing and getting drunk with usually leads to bed and nothing else. Once the rush is over, there is nothing else to talk about and the hangover does't help here.

Only once did I actually hook up with a guy from the internet, who seemed interesting enough and took the effort to dust his roller skates... l plus he woul nt liv fr away. Unfortunately, he was looking for a serious relationship with a gg woman so when I told him, that was it.

Internet is good for making an appointment with someone you already know or for advertising some services but not for meeting people due to the facility of creating a false image of oneself. While it might work in short term, it often leads to an inevitable disappointment in the end.

[Robert66]

On Transgenderdate I got emailed by a pretty chick yesterday evening, and thought it was too good to be true. We talked on Skype, and I could see she's not a hoax: a genuine beautiful girl.

Only problem: she's in the Philippines. :/ Shame, because she's stunning and really nice :)
Most of the passable Tgirls are from SE Asia, so it's necessary to go visit them in those far-off exotic lands. I found my girlfriend on myladyboydate, she's from The Philippines and after six months of chatting I went to see her. I was not disappointed. No scam with this one. She works a 'normal' job, lives with her parents and is stunning. We've been dating now for over a year and I've been back twice more.

[Ts RedVeX]

You are calling 3 visits in a year plus skype and rmails dating?? I feel like a dinosaur now (O,o)

[Robert66]

You are calling 3 visits in a year plus skype and rmails dating?? I feel like a dinosaur now (O,o)
The last two visits were for two months each time, and she is coming to see me in July and staying for three months, so...yeah, I'd call it dating, T.Rex

[Ts RedVeX]

Hehe(: I don't think I would be willing to engage into that kind of relationship. Being old-school, I guess I'll gather some funds and and try to meet some ppl while checking out Scotland's pistes the following season. Or join a pole dancing class, which was what I also did in Holland. Shame that the language barrier was a bit too high for me to jump over at the time.

[Janos12]

When you say pole dancing - was that because you were homesick for the polonez or krakowiak or some other traditional Polish dance style?????

[Ts RedVeX]

Not exactly lol. Besides, those dating sites are full of empty profiles which is another thing that puts me off. What's the point in chatting to anybody who doesn't share at least a few interests with you? I mean you might as well stop someone in the street and say: "hello gorgeous!", "Hows yer day?" Or "Wanna chat" ... now where does that lead if you are lucky enough to not get bichslapped?

[Rabbiteyes]

Okcupid and transgenderdate seem to be the best IMO.

Transgenderdate is pretty bad though....most guys don't even fill out their profile (which means I don't bother replying).

I think I tend to run into more guys I would more likely date just through networking for work though (facebook or other places like that).

[Always_aUnicorn]

In reply to ts red vex(I forgt to include the quote where you said those of is on sites have no lives) I believe you and Kevin dong share this view. However take time to consider some if us who are really "passable" ( I hate that word it's like it discredits any trans woman who didn't hit the genetic lotto or opt for surgery) but yes some of us who are passable don't want to have the conversation with someone we are interested in about the fact we have a wierner. I an an introvert. An INFP personality type. I don't go to clubs and I don't like be hit on by strangers.
In my expierence these dating sites can be nice in the sense that it takes away the need for the "I have a wierner" talk. And on transgender date your can even choose to state weather you are a top bottom or versatile. That can also be awkward wen trying to date the conventional way, imagine u meet a Man U like him and a few dates in you find out he's a big ole bottom and so are you.
So say what u want about those of is on these sites. Say we hve no lives if you feel the need to do so. But just know you would be wrong in your assumptions.
For the rest of you interested in these sites they aren't so bad. The amounts of messages you may get from people so far away can be daunting. But sometimes there's a team diamond hidden among the riff raff.
"Behind every good man is a great woman. Unless he's a bottom. That's too literal for me."

[Ts RedVeX]

I am not saying the sites are bad in general, only that it's just about what you are really after and that the sites are a waste of time if you ask me. As the saying goes: "All roads lead to Rome" and aparently I choose one that's not being attended by many these days...

[Johnny.Blaze]

In response to Steven...I have no idea what you mean in your statement "We've a white label at Tlovers.com which we've had a lot to do with the designing and terminology"
How can one call it a dating site and yet have actual models from Porn Sites right on the front sign up page? Sienna Grace isn't looking to date anyone, she has a boyfriend already. So with that right there, I call shenanigans lol. Maybe if they put actual "REAL" singles as the cover models for the site, it would be more believable, and hence get more signups..

[SXFX]

okcupid.com.....

[maaarc]

I am not saying the sites are bad in general, only that it's just about what you are really after and that the sites are a waste of time if you ask me. As the saying goes: "All roads lead to Rome" and aparently I choose one that's not being attended by many these days...


After having seen your profile pictures I believe that is a major loss for the "many" cause you are absolutely stunningly beautiful. Good fortune to you RedVex and to you also aUnicorn may you both find whatever it is that you are seeking.

[Ts RedVeX]

Thanx but if my looks is all that any of "the many" are after, they might as well hire a local girl for a date.

[maaarc]

Thanx but if my looks is all that any of "the many" are after, they might as well hire a local girl for a date.

I don't imagine looks are all you have to offer - judging by your posts here I'd say you also have intelligence, wit and charm - these are qualities that for me at least surpass physical beauty

[AshlynCreamher]

In my experience with TSDating I found it quite disturbing that most of there "trans members" are man hating transvestites. They abuse guys and lower there self esteem on the TSDating forum.

Just my advise, stay away from TSDating.com

[Rabbiteyes]

In my experience with TSDating I found it quite disturbing that most of there "trans members" are man hating transvestites. They abuse guys and lower there self esteem on the TSDating forum.

Just my advise, stay away from TSDating.com

Like I said when they first brought it up.... if you want to attract non sex working trans women (or those who dress up just for kink), then you need to make the site look "normal" and not overly sexualized.

The landing page on TSDating.com has half naked porn stars and sexual expressions...that is going to send any non sex working trans woman running away (finding a guy who wants to just hook up isn't hard, but for a DATING site, they want a different message).

That, or rename the site "TSHookup" to be more accurate.

Trans woman grow extremely tired with the creepy types of guys who just want to have sex. If they wanted that, they would go be escorts and make some money off it at least. They want a site that promotes actual decent dating behaviour (like normal hello message...or being asked on dates, instead of asking to "hang out" at their place).

My guess is the guys on that website have (at most) headless pictures right? That should tell you what type of guys are joining and what type of site they think it is...and what types of girls are joining as well.

[up_for_it]

Like I said when they first brought it up.... if you want to attract non sex working trans women (or those who dress up just for kink), then you need to make the site look "normal" and not overly sexualized.

Trans woman grow extremely tired with the creepy types of guys who just want to have sex. If they wanted that, they would go be escorts and make some money off it at least. They want a site that promotes actual decent dating behaviour (like normal hello message...or being asked on dates, instead of asking to "hang out" at their place).



I agree with all of this, I was actually put off trying TSDating for awhile because of the cheesecake presentation on the front pages. So, I'm sure it attracts its fair share of douchebags just because of that. That being said, I don't really find much of a difference between TSDating and a more mainstream site such as OKCupid- they both are chock full of people with incomplete, half ass profiles and tons of people 7,000 miles away that just want to wank off by getting attention from people by sending messages and not following through.

I actually cancelled by subscription yesterday since the only person of quality I met lives two states away. My city is small and doesn't half much of a scene in term of transgendered ladies, but at this point I think I'm better off going back to the clubs.

[Ts RedVeX]

Badoo doesn't look like a sex oriented site and I would still get morons wanting to get laid... Some of them would also feel touched when I'd give a positive answer with a price lol. That is what you get when you put a ts tag in the profile name no mater what the site is. It's just useless. Then again, maybe my expectations are simply too high;p

[AshlynCreamher]

Sorry for bring this thread back from the deadhttp://www.ashlyncreamher.com/socialnet/Screenshot_2014-06-02-15-09-41.png


I found the TSDating Admins profile to be interesting enough to share with this thread. I'm not bad mouthing his like or dislikes. Just kina thought that the Amin for TSDating would be more professional and use more respectful nouns and pronouns. I guess this only further proves my previous point...

[North323]

I think they all kinda suck! I have my pic on there and everyone just wants a hook up. I have had moderate success at TG friendly bars. Why is it so damm hard to find a nice girl and hang out. If I do find one I like, they only seem to want material things.

[Novelusername]

Okcupid and transgenderdate seem to be the best IMO.

Transgenderdate is pretty bad though....most guys don't even fill out their profile (which means I don't bother replying).

I think I tend to run into more guys I would more likely date just through networking for work though (facebook or other places like that).



Well said...OKCupid and TGD seem to be the best sites for those who *actually* are looking for a meaningful relationship...though my luck on either has been faaaaar less than stellar, as of late(note implied sarcasm lol...groan)

TSDating seems to be a haven for the socially maladapted and those who simply are out solely for sex and/or escorts, I don't both keeping a profile on there anymore.

[Novelusername]

As a point of reference, I have a fairly well written profile on TGD...buuut meh, online dating as a wole is exhausting, my profile doesn't exactly generate interest from the sort of woman wom I would be interested in dating....or,at best, the woman I talk to on occasion are a time zone removed.

My TGD profile, for those who maaay be interested, can be found at this link:

http://transgenderdate.com/viewuser.php?id=233500

[ripped4urpleasure]

i find that most girls on sites either blow you off or are working girls. I understand why they would blow someone off because most of them probably get spammed with messages all day. What works for me is I visit SF or San Diego often and just post a craigslist ad that doesnt look like im looking for sex. Normally post something like lets get together for dinner wine or something. Im not really looking for a booty call. Then just get to know them from there see what happens.

Most posts i see online are guys wanting to suck me off which gets annoying so i can understand where a sexy TS will get annoyed by tons of "hey sexy hows it going"

[Jack8941]

Try Fab Swingers

[SXFX]

I'll be honest i don't know a single girl who has had a positive time in okcupid.
I'm a guy whos on there and i've had a good number of dates and they always start the same
1) Wow you look like your profile photo. So many guys don't use a real photo.
2) So you are not married? Or dating? So many married guys on there. It's free and so they can get on there and not have to pay for it so there is no paper trail.
3) I'm amazed you are articulate. So many guys from the fucked up IT side in there fucking shit up bad! They read the Game but lack the balls to go outside and talk to women so they go into OKcupid with some serious attitude or really bad pick up lines.

All the above really make it a truly toxic place for women and even worse for guys who don't have their thumbs shoved up their asses.

So long story short? I guess you are kind of fucked. Both the guys looking for the women and the TS women looking for the guys. And if you go on facebook odds are the TS girl's hobby is a performer and then you have to deal with that shit while on date 1....you know her walking to and from the bathroom every 5 min looking and waving as if she is Ms. America....

So how fucked are we? I would say very fucked. You are basically just relying on chance and hope that you meet the right girl at the right place at the right time.

Sadly guys i doubt that the shows in NYC would be a good place as well.

[obslam]

Transgenderdate.com - met my wonderful wife there and I know others similar too...

[jniowa]

Just affirming the general feeling for most of these sites. Tsdating has only led to two dates in several years for me. Granted I live in a smaller metro area, the dates turned out to be more "hook up" than anything, although we did actually go out first. Transgender date seems to be a little bit better. At least they show the last login date and time accurately for their members. All in all though the majority of profiles appear to be scammers, old men in drag etc. Actually going out and meeting people face to face has been a much more positive experience for me.

[nysprod]

I think this gives a good illustration regarding the complexities of TG dating.

Taken from 2 random profiles on OKcupid:

TG1 has a whole list of do's and dont's which specifically include NOT asking about hormones/surg etc. Another big no-no is "complimenting" her regarding how passable she is.

TG2 goes on and on about how her life has changed with hrt, that she's unsure about srs, how "feminine" she feels, etc.

Not saying which one is right, just how different people are.

[superman9]

Your better off going to specialized clubs where you can meet them face to face. I have found them to be from one extreme to the next as they have complex lives.

[tao1kiku]

Yup, will say it again, I too met my wife on TG Date, we've been in a relationship now for close to 4 years.

[hiten369]

I've tried Tgirl.com and TSdating, but I've had no success. For me it just cost to much to pay for a membership when you get nothing out of it. Unfortunately, I don't have the means to go to clubs and meet TS personally.

[lust4love]

ts-dating.com have a dating area, I suspect it serves them well, pulling in men that really want to meet someone. When they're inside they'll soon find that it's all escort and camshows.

Another thing, most dating sites suck if you're a person who have difficulties with old fashioned dating. Online or offline.. the same girls and the same competition.

[KellyKlaymour]

As per this thread, I signed up for TG Date.

Straight girls, go get it!! You'd have your pick of the litter. Tonnes of dudes. 2 days in, I'm at 1108 notifications..from 99.9% guys.

[AshlynCreamher]

TSDating members mostly consist of feminist transvestites who will destroy men. It's a bizarre website with even more bizarre members.

Best advice I could give anyone is' don't join TSD

[up_for_it]

Hi everyone,

Wow, its been awhile since I checked this thread.. thanks for posting your thoughts and experiences.

I've tried TSDating, and it was actually ok- I didn't have any problems meeting ladies at all. For once women were hitting me up instead of the other way around. Unfortunately, the ones that were cool lived two or three states away. Still, it was a cool experience and a way to get to know some folks. That being said, I just couldn't rationalize 20$ a month just to trade emails with people though. If I lived in another part of the country, like NY or CA, I'd definitely resubscribe.

OKCupid is a fucking joke, for both GGs and Tgirls. The only girl I met on there was a flake and spent a lot of time bugging out about crossdressers and people in general. It was lame. As a "dating" site its horrible, like anything else that's free. I'm tempted to try a pay site like eharmony, just to see if that makes a difference in the quality of people. There are so many fuckatoos on OKC, its unbelievable. My big question would be whether or not Tgirls use the bigger pay dating sites.

I think it really comes down to where you live. I'm in a smaller city in the southeast that doesn't have a club scene and after playing around on personals sites for awhile I've come to the conclusion that I'm suffering from redneckitis in general. Everyone wants to go fishing and ride around in 4 wheelers. That stuff is cool from time to time, but I'm looking for people with a bit more depth and it just hasn't been forthcoming.

So, no luck on meeting any transgendered women yet, but I'll keep the faith. In the meantime, I guess I'll just keep doing things the old fashioned way, at least until I'm able to relocate to hopefully a much bigger city that has more to offer. Best wishes to everyone else out there.