How many are comfortable enough to tell your boys or your girl about liking tgirls

[Rasclaat]

if yes what was their response to the news?
Personally its my awesome guilty pleasure and would probably keep it that way

[Turlington]

A few of my friends know. One even went to the awards this year. Two GGs friends of mine are also in the know. It's all good.

[RallyCola]

i'm fortunate to have a few transwomen in my close circle of friends so to a certain extent, all of my long time friends from school and such have to know because 1) i introduced these transwomen to our group, 2) of my work. that is, i believe that many must believe that i have an intense sexual attraction whereas others may think my interest is purely academic. that said, i do have a few extremely homophobic acquaintances that won't come to parties/events if my trans or gay friends are there. They are not close friends but we do share similar social circles. most of my gay friends have asked but i've never confirmed nor denied.

One of my friends who is trans, was somewhat ostracized at work because all the other secretaries thought she was a bitch and all the dudes didn't want to be seen with her. my lab mates have come around since my wife and i started having lunch with her and became close with her, so now slowly, my group of friends have begun to see her as just a regular member of our group.

the only member of my group of friends that absolutely knows (because i told him) is quite fine with it. I strongly believe he likes tgirls too but he has never admitted it.

overall, other than a few jack asses that are quite prejudiced, i've had no issues

[wiltthestilt]

Ive told my good friends I watch TS porn. They have admitted watching it too. I havent told anyone yet that I have seen TS escorts or attended a TS party. If I met a hot TS I wouldnt keep her a secret. But thus far Ive only met TS's through paid meetings so its a moot point.

[LI SEAN08]

Of course I don't tell all friends, but I have a bunch of dude friends and a few female friends who are well aware.

[wearboots4me]

My ex-girlfriend brought it up once. She was talking about trans girls, I thought that was a strange subject for her to bring up. I thought perhaps she had seen it on my computer? So, when she brought it up, I said, "Is there something you want to ask me, or tell me?" But she didn't want to talk. Then, a few days or a week later she told me that she had some bisexual feelings. I told her that was fine with me. Months later, the relationship didn't work out for other reasons. Sometimes I wish I had questioned her more about why she was talking about trans women?

[smoothboi]

The last two GGs I played around with knew. One of them I used to show pics of girls that I thought were hot.

[maaarc]

it's shame people are so concerned with a persons sexual preference - when there are so very many legitimate reasons to dislike and shun the vast majority of people.

[Torris]

I originally discovered Vaniity with a girlfriend who wanted to watch gay porn where I wanted to watch the usual mid 90s Evil Angel hard porn with copious anal. So we...uh, split the difference.

Lost the GG, found the Tgirl

But I have no desire to have a heart to heart with my friends or family about my porn viewing habits.

It is doubtful I will ever be in a situation to meet or date a Tgirl locally, so I am content to voyeuristically explore the hyper feminity of Tgirl porn where het porn seems like the girls take their femininity for granted and punch a clock.

The quality of Tgirl porn has never been better and seems on the rise (pun intended) where the het porn side seems oversaturated. That is how jaded I have become with Porn Drift.

I only want to watch anal porn, so I know one way or another I'm gonna get that in a Tgirl film

I would say 2/3 of the porn I buy is Tgirl. But getting to be more like 4 out of 5 for porn I watch.

But to the statement of telling friends or family about liking/watching Tgirl porn. Same reason why I don't tell them how much pot I smoke. It's nobody's business but mine.

It's one area in my life I can deviate from the norm and not get busted for the privilege (yet)

[Jdeere562]

A G/F took me to a gay bar she worked at part time, maybe 10 years ago.
They had some crossdresser/tranny types come in about 9 PM. She said one had better legs than her.

She was right! Nothing happened though. It's just a memory.

[Kiwi_bloke]

My lady is well aware of my love of girls with a little extra.

I think it turns her on and I just cannot wait until she suggests a three-way with a trans.

[transfan8591]

I've admitted that I think that some Transwomen can be more attractive that Genetic Women.
I came to terms that I like fapping to Transwomen two years ago and I feel so liberated.

But I have never shown or told anybody about my small collection of pictures
of Trans-female pornstars (Eva Lin, Sarina Valentina, etc) I have on my iPod. Because that is my personal thing (it's somewhat of a guilty pleasure of mine)

[RallyCola]

at this point in time, my tranny porn archive spans several tbs so it is not easily hidden as a small collection of pics. when i bought another 4tb hdd a few weeks ago, all of my friends were asking wtf it was for.

[tyboosti]

I have brought it up only twice... and the two females told me that they didn't feel like they turned them on enough.. and I wanted something more... They both gave me anal whenever I wanted, they felt like they didn't have the parts to please me... they were so wrong... But its ok... I will always share my attractions to T-girls... Sucks.. just the truth

[transfan8591]

at this point in time, my tranny porn archive spans several tbs so it is not easily hidden as a small collection of pics. when i bought another 4tb hdd a few weeks ago, all of my friends were asking wtf it was for.

Terabites...that's pretty boss.
:Bowdown:

[RallyCola]

I have brought it up only twice... and the two females told me that they didn't feel like they turned them on enough.. and I wanted something more... They both gave me anal whenever I wanted, they felt like they didn't have the parts to please me... they were so wrong... But its ok... I will always share my attractions to T-girls... Sucks.. just the truth

i've encountered that sentiment...some girls who are otherwise ok with the idea of their man liking transwomen can become overly obsessed with thinking their man wants dick. that's a tough one to crack but all in all more manageable than a girl that freaks out and doesn't try to respect or understand her man

[Ben in LA]

When my crew saw my pics from the awards up on AVN (they know I'm Otola Photography), a few were surprised, but none of them cared. In fact, they want to attend the awards next year.

[curious-ian]

I'm single so no-one to tell. None of my friends or family know. Actually I've discussed shemale porn with my mates before as one of them has admitted he's sort of got a thing for t girls, I didn't fully confess my desire to my mates tho so they might know I've seen the porn but not that I want to be with a t girl sexually etc.

[Westheangelino]

There are a few friends with whom I'll share everything with (stories about clubs, hook ups, etc)., and all my long term female lovers knew too. It's not something that I keep secret, and if you hang with me long enough, you're going to figure it out. Sometimes casual coworkers or acquaintances will come up to me and act like it's some HUGE secret, which is quickly dispelled by my laid back reaction. The best was when a very good friend (who somehow didn't know this about me) was talking to another friend.

Friend 1: "So....Wes is into trannys?"
Friend 2: "Yeah, he is."
Friend 1:"Yeah, well....I mean, but...."
Friend 2: "There is no but.....he IS."

[bimbimbop]

My wife likes it. I told her before we got married...a few of her friends at the time knew it too, and they all thought it was hot.

Maybe one day we as a couple can act out of fantasies.

[AshlynCreamher]

That sounds like a horrible ideal. I don't recall my parents telling me there sexual preferences growing up, did your parents tell you about there sexual preferences??? If you seriously are considering telling your children that you like trannies than you are sick.

Go tell a therapist and spare your children the agony!

[amberskyi]

That sounds like a horrible ideal. I don't recall my parents telling me t preferences growing up, did your parents tell you about there sexual preferences??? If you seriously are considering telling your children that you like trannies than you are sick.

Go tell a therapist and spare your children the agony!

What kind of attitude is that to have? I guess I shouldn't be surprised because most people who use the word "tranny" tend to have some rather intetrsting views on ts woman.
A trans woman is a person just like everyone else.It would be no different than a gay parent explaining why mommy dates other woman.Its all about context.
Not everyone sees ts woman as taboo sexual play things.Some men actually build lives with ts woman and if such a man has a child I imagine that its something they'll need to talk about eventually.
Its so out dated to think that anything other than a "hetero-normative" environment is traumatic to children.

[maxpower]

I'm pretty sure when the OP said "your boys" he meant male friends, and "your girl" meant girlfriend - not literally someone's children, but it could read that way. And I suspect Ashlyn may have been tongue-in-cheek with her reply.

[AshlynCreamher]

What kind of attitude is that to have? I guess I shouldn't be surprised because most people who use the word "tranny" tend to have some rather intetrsting views on ts woman.
A trans woman is a person just like everyone else.It would be no different than a gay parent explaining why mommy dates other woman.Its all about context.
Not everyone sees ts woman as taboo sexual play things.Some men actually build lives with ts woman and if such a man has a child I imagine that its something they'll need to talk about eventually.
Its so out dated to think that anything other than a "hetero-normative" environment is traumatic to children.

you're right a "trans person" is a person just like anyone else (good of you to explain that) but if a "transwoman is just like any ordinary woman than why is it ever an issue to feel like you're responsible for explaining to your children OR BUDDIES that you enjoy jerking off to or dating "trans woman". Would you also tell your children OR BUDDIES that you want to date genetic woman too???

and as for your comment about my views on "ts woman" :fu:

I'm sorry but your point has given me no logic

[amberskyi]

you're right a "trans person" is a person just like anyone else (good of you to explain that) bh "transwoman is just like any ordinary woman than why is it ever an issue to feel like you're responsible for explaining to your children OR BUDDIES that you enjoy jerking off to or dating "trans woman". Would you also tell your children OR BUDDIES that you want to date genetic woman too???

and as for your comment about my views on "ts woman" :fu:

I'm sorry but your point has given me no logic

Did I say ts girls were like any other woman?
Some parents believe in having open and honest relationships with their children. What kind of parent would hid their gender history from their kids.
My dad actually did talk to me about his prefrence for dating genetic woman, it was called "the talk" and it was especially necessary to explain the nature of attraction and how it varies since his son (at the time) had a different orientation than him.

You didn't get tired of putting quotation marks around ts woman? Lol.Do you do so because you don't think its a real thing or you chafe at using a more respectful word?

[AshlynCreamher]

wow, that is one open family, good for you!
yes my father had "the talk" with me as well only to me it seemed more like "the test" I remember him saying to me (pointing out a girl walking through a parking lot) explaining how he would like to fuck that ass and asked what I thought of her and what I wanted to do to her. at this moment in my life i was maybe 14-15 and I did not feel any closer to him from "the talk" at that moment all i wanted to do was vomit in his truck.

its not about hiding your gender history at all, its about being an adult. maybe you don't have experience in living with and having a relationship with multiple children in your life. I am a aunt of three and for the past year have been a step mother (friend) to a 15 year. And I'm telling you I never once told any of them that I have a dick.

IAs for "quotations" and "transwoman" I don't owe an explanation, so why don't you tell me what think it means???

[amberskyi]

wow, that is one open family, good for you!
yes my father had "the talk" with me as well only to me it seemed more like "the test" I remember him saying to me (pointing out a girl walking through a parking lot) explaining how he would like to fuck that ass and asked what I thought of her and what I wanted to do to her. at this moment in my life i was maybe 14-15 and I did not feel any closer to him from "the talk" at that moment all i wanted to do was vomit in his truck.

its not about hiding your gender history at all, its about being an adult. maybe you don't have experience in living with and having a relationship with multiple children in your life. I am a aunt of three and for the past year have been a step mother (friend) to a 15 year. And I'm telling you I never once told any of them that I have a dick.

IAs for "quotations" and "transwoman" I don't owe an explanation, so why don't you tell me what think it means???

The younger generation of woman in my family are having a hard time marrying for some reason lol so no baby neices or nephews yet.
I do have several friends with children tho.One little girl I'm particularly close to.She accepts me as a girl with little question but that's not always going to be the case.I'm 6'2 so I know as she gets older and socializes more certain things she's going to start to question, like why is Amber taller than most of the woman I know.She's already asked about a scar I have from when I had my adams apple removed.Children are incredibly bright and perceptive. You'd be surprised what they can understand and accept.
We no longer live in a world where heteronormative is being shoved down people tthroats. More children are coming out at a younger age and finding the acceptance/support they need.Being told that daddy's girlfriend/wife has an interesting past isn't likely to mess them up.

[transfan8591]

you're right a "trans person" is a person just like anyone else (good of you to explain that) but if a "transwoman is just like any ordinary woman than why is it ever an issue to feel like you're responsible for explaining to your children OR BUDDIES that you enjoy jerking off to or dating "trans woman". Would you also tell your children OR BUDDIES that you want to date genetic woman too???

and as for your comment about my views on "ts woman" :fu:

I'm sorry but your point has given me no logic



I agree, I don't think anybody is obligated to tell somebody what
their sexual preferences/interests are.
What somebody likes to get off to is no ones elses business.

[amberskyi]

I agree, I don't think anybody is obligated to tell somebody what
their sexual preferences/interests are.
What somebody likes to get off to is no ones elses business.

Well for some trans people are more than just something they get off too.like i mentioned, some guys actually date/marry ts woman.In those instances a dialog about it is bound to happen at some point.
Its not an obligation of course but people will be curious and ask questions.

[Castor_Troy05]

I think around 90% of the people, I know closely enough, know. I've never hidden it and even my parents have spoken to my gf with the knowledge of her gender identity. She wanted them to know so I was cool with telling them. No big deal as far as they're all concerned it seems

[AshlynCreamher]

Well for some trans people are more than just something they get off too.like i mentioned, some guys actually date/marry ts woman.In those instances a dialog about it is bound to happen at some point.
Its not an obligation of course but people will be curious and ask questions.

Following up on this:
For other trans people they may go 15 months of there private life living in deep stealth. Some of these trans people pretend to be or actually do get married to a man with family, friends and work associates. These trans people typicly interact with the family, friends and work associates pretty regularly too.

Why do you think it is that a trans woman can go this long without anyone from family, friends and work associates asking curious questions?

[amberskyi]

Following up on this:
For other trans people they may go 15 months of there private life living in deep stealth. Some of these trans people pretend to be or actually do get married to a man with family, friends and work associates. These trans people typicly interact with the family, friends and work associates pretty regularly too.

Why do you think it is that a trans woman can go this long without anyone from family, friends and work associates asking curious questions?

Not all ts woman are capable or interested in going stealth.thats allot of pressure to hid a vital part of ones identity and past.how does one has a genuine connection or relationship under those circumstances?
A common theme is allot of stealth trans woman narratives is the fear and paranoia of their past getting out.Some described their fear as crippeling or always present.I personally couldn't focus on fostering genuine relationships with that kind of cloud over me.

[disnug]

Most of my friends and about 1/2 my family know, as they have met my girlfriend.
I quit living a "half-life" and decided to tell those that mattered.
Fortunately, nobody gave a shit!
I guess coming out at 40 was not as big a deal as I thought.

[south ov da border]

if I date now its a prerequisite that its out in the open

[Deja Vu]

I've said told my ex, my family and some friends know. It's not a big deal tbh

[longestnamever]

But I have no desire to have a heart to heart with my friends or family about my porn viewing habits.

But to the statement of telling friends or family about liking/watching Tgirl porn. Same reason why I don't tell them how much pot I smoke. It's nobody's business but mine.

ditto!

I never had the inclination to discuss any sort of porn I watched so why start now?

[Chaos]

I have no kids. I have said before that my family doesn't DESERVE to know my business,they made me an outcast at an age when I had no idea what was happening.BUT, if I DID have kids? I'd hide nothing from them(once they're old enough to know). I'd be honest,I'd tell them that NO ONE has the right to look down on you for any choice you make,and to never let OTHER people dictate what YOU live for. ( I hope that came out right).Shit, IF I found the woman of my dreams right now,I'd tell everyone that they can accept it or fuck off.Like I said, no kids,so I may not seem child friendly...