Does your wife know?

[Mrnobody]

Just taking little survey here. Does your wife know you like shemales? Have you told it by yourself, or has she find out it someway? I wasnt' careful enough (or maybe I didn't just care to be more careful), so she did find it out. How have your wife or partner reacted for this "surprise"?

[Bobzz]

Yes. I told her and she is cool with it. We have a great sex life and we're both pretty open. Her words, "be careful, be respectful and play safe".

[Dino Velvet]

Had no idea I had a wife. Guess I've seen Lemon Drop so many times we've become Common Law. She does make me grocery lists and I have helped her get a TV. She has no idea and she's looked me dead in the eye about it without seeing any contradictory evidence.

[ILuvGurls]

no.............gave marriage up for a saner life.

[RallyCola]

my wife knows and is fine with it. where she draws the line is joining in.

how it came up was with that chick on ANTM, Isis King, who was the first transgender contestant on that show. I simply said, she's not pretty...the tgirls i'm into are far more attractive. After a brief Q and A period, I slipped in the Jet Set 5 dvd where Joanna Jet rails 2 willing ggirls and have enjoyed a guilt free life since then.

[Chaingunner]

Yes. I told her and no fucks were given

Thankfully

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Since when do I have a wife??? What do you know that I don't??

[Chaingunner]

Since when do I have a wife??? What do you know that I don't??

I'da thought you'd have had one in every state!

[DeliaTS]

My wife is totally cool with it. She's kinda into them herself ;)

[Dino Velvet]

Since when do I have a wife???

I think it meant presently.

Guns N' Roses-Used to Love Her - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zXIuAz7aryo)

[Dino Velvet]

I'da thought you'd have had one in every state!

Chunks perhaps.

[Dino Velvet]

If you call CORVETTEDUDE a murderer the more you harden your eyes and clench your teeth saying it the more ambitious he will think you are complimenting him.

[El Nino]

^^^ Haha

[TSLovingCouple]

My wife was unsure about it when I first told her. So I decided I would ease her into it with a scene with Vanity and Belladonna. Now she is all in.

[MesaRidge]

My wife knows and it isn't an issue for her. I am free to enjoy viewing all the TS lovelys I can.

It came up during one of our first or second conversations. Somehow we got into a discussion about being "open minded" and I told her that if I brought home with a woman and she found that she was trans I would not kick her out.

[tao1kiku]

Yeah, she totally knows, but then again, she is one.

[volkov2006]

She knows and is actually into them as much as I am, she is Bi.

It came into a conversation that I was into them when I came out to my wife as being trans. I had hid it until I was 25 and could not hold on to it any longer and it just exploded from me at 2:30 am while on my route that she was helping with. The next day I showed her a few pictures of Sarina Valentina and she was hooked. Her favorites are Sarina, Bailey Jay, Joanna Jet, and Foxxy. She is okay with it to the point that this October we are going up to Toronto to see Lucy Bisset!

So yeah I think she is okay with it, although not at first, the whole "are they gay, am I gay for liking a trans woman" that kind of stuff stopped within the first 2 months. Now she is proud to be in a relationship with a Tgirl and to be turned on by them. In fact she has told me that she actually looks up to trans people now.

[BlüeKarma]

I never told my girlfriend, she found out by accident, I had some movies downloaded in my bittorrent que and she watched one. Didn't end well.

I still miss her sometimes.

:smh

[TiffanyTCD]

For a long time I hid in shame and never told my wife and then within the past year or so I started to show her movies with ts in them. Eventually she said it was hot and now we watch them together, best way to spice up the relationship and keep that spark going.

[whatsupwithat]

yep. and she likes transwomen too.

[whatsupwithat]

I never told my girlfriend, she found out by accident, I had some movies downloaded in my bittorrent que and she watched one. Didn't end well.

I still miss her sometimes.

:smh

you'll find someone who loves you for you. and by that i mean all of you. hang in there.

[Castor_Troy05]

I told an ex, and she was not cool with it at all. Now with a filipina trans girl so it's a non issue

[Turlington]

My ex-girlfriend knew. We're not together anymore but we're still good friends. She had a crush on Yasmin Lee...

[will802]

Told me wife and she did not understand. I got the whole are you gay Q&A....I don't even bother trying to explore it further with her...Just not worth it....

[jarp]

I told my girlfriend that I was into shemales before we ever started dating so she knew from the beginning. I was a little nervous how she would react but she was totally cool with it. She isn't as attracted to shemales as I am but she will watch videos and such with me.

[RallyCola]

Told me wife and she did not understand. I got the whole are you gay Q&A....I don't even bother trying to explore it further with her...Just not worth it....

well now that she knows...does she ever bring it up?

[CORVETTEDUDE]

If you call CORVETTEDUDE a murderer the more you harden your eyes and clench your teeth saying it the more ambitious he will think you are complimenting him.

Hiding the bodies is getting tough these days!!:whistle:

[looking4TS]

Fuck no.

[will802]

well now that she knows...does she ever bring it up?

No, never

[BeardedOne]

I don't have a 'wife', per se, but the woman that everyone thinks is my wife (Known each other for years, hang out together all the time, bicker constantly, never have sex, etc.) not only knows but encourages my friendships with transwomen. She sez that I'm at my 'most human' and happiest when I spend time with them.

I'm OK with that. :)

[RallyCola]

No, never

oh ok...then you must hide it well. before i told my wife, i was always worried she'd find the stash. in fact, in 2001, she did find 1 video that i left in the download folder among lesbian videos. since it was only 1, i played it off as if it was a joke that someone sent me and i downloaded accidentally.

my point is...since she knows but never brings it up...are you free to enjoy the porn in private or are you in constant fear that she will find the porn and lambaste you about it?

[will802]

well now that she knows...does she ever bring it up?


oh ok...then you must hide it well. before i told my wife, i was always worried she'd find the stash. in fact, in 2001, she did find 1 video that i left in the download folder among lesbian videos. since it was only 1, i played it off as if it was a joke that someone sent me and i downloaded accidentally.

my point is...since she knows but never brings it up...are you free to enjoy the porn in private or are you in constant fear that she will find the porn and lambaste you about it?

We both have our own devices and don't share one. Kind of like our own don't ask don't tell. Same applies with our personal finances. I do only stream and rarely download though.

[pimpdog]

:mad:
I never told my girlfriend, she found out by accident, I had some movies downloaded in my bittorrent que and she watched one. Didn't end well.

I still miss her sometimes.

:smh Fucking Hilarious.

[BlüeKarma]

Yeah, the perils of living in a overly conservative town.

[Mrnobody]

Thanks for all your answers this far. It's pleasant to hear, that for many of you things have settled nice. The ones who have told by themselfs about it, your partners have good reason to value your courage to tell it openly. Too bad every relationship cant handle it.

After few days on confusion, I think my own relationship with my wife is now better than before. I dont have to stress of hiding this fantasy anymore, and that makes atmosphere feeling much more free and open. I interpreted that she accepted it, at least in major way. But I still wouldnt give any advice to anyone :)

[RallyCola]

Thanks for all your answers this far. It's pleasant to hear, that for many of you things have settled nice. The ones who have told by themselfs about it, your partners have good reason to value your courage to tell it openly. Too bad every relationship cant handle it.

After few days on confusion, I think my own relationship with my wife is now better than before. I dont have to stress of hiding this fantasy anymore, and that makes atmosphere feeling much more free and open. I interpreted that she accepted it, at least in major way. But I still wouldnt give any advice to anyone :)

for me it was a bit of serendipity so to speak. for some reason in the weeks leading up to me telling her, i had envisioned telling her just to get it out there and off my chest. my love of transwomen and their porn is a significant part of my masturbatory and online life therefore i not only wanted her to be a part of that, but i also knew that she had to eventually find out so better i tell her. the TV show and the transwoman on it, being particularly average at best, was the perfect opportunity.

here's how awesome my relationship is and how accepting she has become. this AM when watching the sterling stuff on espn, she turned to me and said, "V. Stiviano looks like a tranny but not as hot as the ones you like."

short of actually joining in a threesome with me, i really can't ask for anything more and i feel particularly unburdened.

[rockabilly]

Short answer is ... Yes.

[Idt20082008"]

Great question, and one that I am debating currently. I have been dating a girl for almost a year, and can see myself marrying her. I want to tell because I think it would really add to our sex life and also because I think she would be attracted to Trans Women as well. I'm not 100% sure though and had a bad experience previously when a girlfriend found out, so those two things hold me back. I keep hoping she brings it up to me and asks, or better yet just brings porn home and puts it in but that is probably a pipe dream. Pun intended. She told me previously she likes guy/guy porn but not sure if or how that factors in

[RallyCola]

before i told my wife, i had always thought to strategically leave out some porn...with a 95/5 mix...95% ggirl and 5% tgirl so that there was a buffer and if she got mad, she would only do so about porn in general rather than just not understanding.

that was one of many schemes that i had come up with but in the end, outright honesty worked.

[ldfelix]

I never told my ex wife but she loved to put on a strap-on and top me. I dont know how she would have reacted. a few of my friends know so i have an outlet. id like to be more open and hate that i know it would make my relationships with some people "weird"

[stan.smith]

ur a very lucky man rally! although I'm not married i could never see myself telling my wife about my tgirl fantasies. some secrets are best taken to the grave.

[notme122]

my gf knows, found out from pictures from waaaay back from myspace pictures with my ex that was a ts. She hates it always feels im going to leave her for a ts. When we are on drugs she tells me it actualy turns her on and one day wants to participate but that would never happen because we have to live a sober life

[Jericho]

I've never been married but i did once tell an ex-girlfriend that i was seriously into T-Girls.
She wasn't particularly impressed...Just sat there raising her eyebrows and stroking her cock! :shrug

[Redballs]

My wife would be real surprised to find out not only that I have sucked more cocks then her, I'm a lot better at it.

[LovinThaTSLadiez]

no.............gave marriage up for a saner life.

LOL! Me too. And my wife never knew. I didn't actually have my first TS date until after she and I divorced. I already had an interest though.

[LovinThaTSLadiez]

My wife would be real surprised to find out not only that I have sucked more cocks then her, I'm a lot better at it.

Hahahaha!! Priceless!

[LovinThaTSLadiez]

I've never been married but i did once tell an ex-girlfriend that i was seriously into T-Girls.
She wasn't particularly impressed...Just sat there raising her eyebrows and stroking her cock! :shrug

LOL! There are some funny motherfuckers in this thread.