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DevAero
04-19-2014, 03:11 AM
Hey guys, I'm new here and this is my first post. I'm a 19 y/o black guy and in love in Transgirls, but I was wondering if being black would automatically shut me down from dating and sex. I don't act black, and some call me an oreo meaning I act like a white person (if that matters).

I mean not harm by this post if I offended anyone I'm sorry, but I don't know where else to ask. I'm spending the summer in NYC so any tips on dating and hooking up there would be great.

Thank for any answers and advice you guys can give me.

TSPornFan
04-19-2014, 03:42 AM
You remind me of myself. I'm also black and not a stereotype.

Being black will not prevent you from dating. There are many women and ts women who love black men. However, it may prevent you from dating someone who isn't interested in black men stereotypical or not.

Some women are turned off by black men for not being stereotypical. This is where you may have a lot of problems. Women have complained about me not being "black enough" for their tastes.

Welcome to the forums. I hope you stay active here. You sound like a nice guy.

1hornySOB
04-19-2014, 03:43 AM
Be Yourself, Have Fun and Bring Lots of Cash

Black, White, Yellow doesn't matter but Green does

nysprod
04-19-2014, 04:39 AM
Hey guys, I'm new here and this is my first post. I'm a 19 y/o black guy and in love in Transgirls, but I was wondering if being black would automatically shut me down from dating and sex. I don't act black, and some call me an oreo meaning I act like a white person (if that matters).

I mean not harm by this post if I offended anyone I'm sorry, but I don't know where else to ask. I'm spending the summer in NYC so any tips on dating and hooking up there would be great.

Thank for any answers and advice you guys can give me.

If you in shape and got the bbc, the trans world is your oyster lol

Donkey
04-19-2014, 05:10 AM
I'm black, have a big cock, and have dated more TS "off the clock" than probably any other member here. Many TS actually prefer black dudes off the clock...they just don't want us as paying customers...cuz we don't pay

giovanni_hotel
04-19-2014, 05:19 AM
Confidence. Find some.

RallyCola
04-19-2014, 05:37 AM
Confidence. Find some.

:iagree:

i've found that looks, money and a big cock are often cited by men as the main thing most women look for where as many women would say its confidence and personality.

i'm not saying one group is right where the other is wrong, but a confident man will generally be more successful than those without. don't worry about race so much otherwise you are the one that might make it an issue more than your target.

TSPornFan
04-19-2014, 06:12 AM
:iagree:

i've found that looks, money and a big cock are often cited by men as the main thing most women look for where as many women would say its confidence and personality.

i'm not saying one group is right where the other is wrong, but a confident man will generally be more successful than those without. don't worry about race so much otherwise you are the one that might make it an issue more than your target.

As a black man I can say that one may want to worry about race. I know from personal experience that some women will not date a black man. Some women are disinterested in black men. Then we have women who have racist opinions about black people and will not date us. There are also women who want to date blacks but their families will disown them for choosing a black man.

I spoke to a porn director about interracial porn. He told me stories about how girls want to shoot IR scenes and their fathers found out and beat on or off set.

I met a girl in college who said that she wanted to date me but wasn't allowed to. Her family was racist and would have kicked her out of the house if she dated a black man. She's now married to a white guy and has a kid. I think she also dropped out of school.

Turlington
04-19-2014, 07:27 AM
In this country unfortunately it does.

DevAero
04-19-2014, 07:49 AM
If you in shape and got the bbc, the trans world is your oyster lol

Huh, I'm good looking and in shape. Looks like I'll be alright lol

DevAero
04-19-2014, 07:50 AM
Be Yourself, Have Fun and Bring Lots of Cash

Black, White, Yellow doesn't matter but Green does

Thanks bro!

DevAero
04-19-2014, 07:52 AM
You remind me of myself. I'm also black and not a stereotype.

Being black will not prevent you from dating. There are many women and ts women who love black men. However, it may prevent you from dating someone who isn't interested in black men stereotypical or not.

Some women are turned off by black men for not being stereotypical. This is where you may have a lot of problems. Women have complained about me not being "black enough" for their tastes.

Welcome to the forums. I hope you stay active here. You sound like a nice guy.

I've only recently found this out. Most girls that are into black guys want thugs and stuff like that. And black girls are a different world to me, they don't like me because I act "too white". Thanks for the advice bro!

DevAero
04-19-2014, 07:56 AM
:iagree:

i've found that looks, money and a big cock are often cited by men as the main thing most women look for where as many women would say its confidence and personality.

i'm not saying one group is right where the other is wrong, but a confident man will generally be more successful than those without. don't worry about race so much otherwise you are the one that might make it an issue more than your target.

This really makes a lot of sense. Really appreciate it.

amberskyi
04-19-2014, 12:20 PM
What an odd question.
Some people are going to be into you and others won't be for one reason or another. Don't over think it

Winkle
04-19-2014, 02:30 PM
You don't act black? well the first thing you can do is lose your stereotypical view of the world and understand that people should be viewed on individual merit.

Know yourself, know your history young brother.

fordly66
04-19-2014, 02:38 PM
As a black man I can say that one may want to worry about race. I know from personal experience that some women will not date a black man. Some women are disinterested in black men. Then we have women who have racist opinions about black people and will not date us. There are also women who want to date blacks but their families will disown them for choosing a black man.

I spoke to a porn director about interracial porn. He told me stories about how girls want to shoot IR scenes and their fathers found out and beat on or off set.

I met a girl in college who said that she wanted to date me but wasn't allowed to. Her family was racist and would have kicked her out of the house if she dated a black man. She's now married to a white guy and has a kid. I think she also dropped out of school.

This kind of thing goes both ways. I'm a white dude and have dated two women of color. Seems that their dads had problems with me because I was white. But there are white girls who can date guys of color without family issues. I mean, most ir couples are black guys with white girls, at least that is true in the U.S. It really shouldn't matter what color you are, and the more that time goes by and younger generations get older, the more it will be acceptable. As for being black but not acting black, I have two friends that act white and both are married to white women. They have told me that most black women have said that the aren't "strong enough" for them. So I guess they also view white guys as being "weak". Mentally is what I think they are referring to. I guess you just have to find the right person you click with, no matter what race they are.

FreddieGomez
04-19-2014, 05:17 PM
Ya'll need to be more secure with yourself.

I'm mixed with black but it's never been an issue for me.

I'm confident enough in myself to not even worry about who's into me and who's not because the fact is I've never had to chase after ass and i'm not about to start now.

It's that simple.

nysprod
04-19-2014, 05:18 PM
As a black man I can say that one may want to worry about race. I know from personal experience that some women will not date a black man. Some women are disinterested in black men. Then we have women who have racist opinions about black people and will not date us. There are also women who want to date blacks but their families will disown them for choosing a black man.

I spoke to a porn director about interracial porn. He told me stories about how girls want to shoot IR scenes and their fathers found out and beat on or off set.

I met a girl in college who said that she wanted to date me but wasn't allowed to. Her family was racist and would have kicked her out of the house if she dated a black man. She's now married to a white guy and has a kid. I think she also dropped out of school.


Ignore this completely, Franklyn has never even been with a Ts girl...and far as the TS world is concerned, there is no question that young, in shape and hung guys of any race will have no problem scoring all the free TS action they could ever want.

LibertyHarkness
04-19-2014, 05:41 PM
That's only if a Ts is looking for a shag nysprod.

Personally I can't stand young guys for personal level stuff as I find most young people are out for one thing only.

Personality goes a huge way if people are looking for something more serious than arrogance or overt cockiness about looks and sexual prowess.

As some others have said be yourself and don't be sleazy and you will find it easy to engage with girls whether Ts or gg .

As for color etc. That's subjective on each person so go with the flow, if a girl not into you then move along lots of people out there

nysprod
04-19-2014, 05:52 PM
That's only if a Ts is looking for a shag nysprod.

Lol I thought that's what we were talking about...

LibertyHarkness
04-19-2014, 06:39 PM
he mentions Dating and Sex .. the two are in different camps imo ...

fred41
04-19-2014, 07:23 PM
he mentions Dating and Sex .. the two are in different camps imo ...

agreed....two very different camps. often it seems though, when dudes mention the first....they really mean the second..lol

nysprod
04-19-2014, 07:38 PM
19 = looking for sex lol

fred41
04-19-2014, 07:56 PM
19 = looking for sex lol
hmm...yup

wiltthestilt
04-19-2014, 10:52 PM
:iagree:

i've found that looks, money and a big cock are often cited by men as the main thing most women look for where as many women would say its confidence and personality.

i'm not saying one group is right where the other is wrong, but a confident man will generally be more successful than those without. don't worry about race so much otherwise you are the one that might make it an issue more than your target.

I think money and looks are important, dick size is not unless it is abnormal. Between big and average I doubt it matters at all. I've never heard of dick size being a factor in a guy's ability to score, ever.

DevAero
04-20-2014, 01:12 AM
Awesome answers and advice here, thanks guys. I don't really have a problem with girls liking me. I'm just a little naive as to what Ts girls look for, I'm still pretty new to this. Thanks again.

nysprod
04-20-2014, 01:40 AM
:iagree:

i've found that looks, money and a big cock are often cited by men as the main thing most women look for where as many women would say its confidence and personality.

i'm not saying one group is right where the other is wrong, but a confident man will generally be more successful than those without. don't worry about race so much otherwise you are the one that might make it an issue more than your target.

The only girls who don't want big dick are the unfuckable ones.

broncofan
04-20-2014, 01:51 AM
The only girls who don't want big dick are the unfuckable ones.
The unfuckables? Isn't that a Brian Depalma movie?

bluesoul
04-20-2014, 02:32 AM
I don't act black, and some call me an oreo meaning I act like a white person (if that matters).


do people call you an oreo to your face?

also, i think you should add that you also type like a white person- so maybe that makes you a double oreo.

bluesoul
04-20-2014, 02:34 AM
he mentions Dating and Sex .. the two are in different camps imo ...

in the mind of a chaser, what you just said doesn't make sense

Dino Velvet
04-20-2014, 02:40 AM
Could be a benefit, a detriment, all of the above, or none of the above. Just make sure to put your best foot forward with your shoes tied and your pants pulled up. Have at it and don't forget to bring money.

nysprod
04-20-2014, 02:44 AM
do people call you an oreo to your face?

also, i think you should add that you also type like a white person- so maybe that makes you a double oreo.

Not cool...

Dino Velvet
04-20-2014, 02:49 AM
Black people type differently now? Do they have keyboards similar to the steering wheel on a Latino's car so they can both either type or drive with handcuffs on?

I can't believe you guys were thinking that.

bluesoul
04-20-2014, 03:01 AM
the man said he doesn't act black right? he said he acts more like a white person and hence his friends call him an oreo. so if someone can act a certain race, why not type it too

or do we just act a certain race then stop there?

Michelle Firestone
04-20-2014, 03:03 AM
It doesn't matter to me. You just have to turn me on.

DevAero
04-20-2014, 04:42 AM
do people call you an oreo to your face?

also, i think you should add that you also type like a white person- so maybe that makes you a double oreo.

Jokingly yeah. But mostly it's white people saying I'm "just like them".

Dino Velvet
04-20-2014, 08:04 PM
Don't forget to take some dancing lessons.

http://i.minus.com/ieFgZHvARZFn2.gif https://31.media.tumblr.com/a17b4fe1320d01b5306644321153749f/tumblr_inline_n22jn378ev1qbu7li.gif

jennylicious
04-21-2014, 02:54 AM
Anyone who is truly at home with themselves will spend time with who they want to, and how they want to. Age, sex, colour, or anything else, doesn't really come into it.

youngblood61
04-21-2014, 03:38 AM
It doesn't matter to me. You just have to turn me on.I like that attitude Michelle.:)

bluesoul
04-21-2014, 07:23 AM
Jokingly yeah. But mostly it's white people saying I'm "just like them".

hrm... okay, that sounds suspect. unless they're being facetious

http://i.imgur.com/XFQdheb.jpg

pimpdog
04-21-2014, 07:48 AM
If somebody isnt attracted to a certain race then fuck em!

Rusty Eldora
04-21-2014, 02:58 PM
What an odd question.
Some people are going to be into you and others won't be for one reason or another. Don't over think it

Thank you Amber-

Most Tgirls have a very good sense of self, they have determined who they are not and are remaking themselves into their native self. Most are very genuine. I find tgirls judge mostly on character. You will do fine as yourself if you display confidence and compassion. As Amber noted, why should race matter.

BBaggins06
04-21-2014, 06:49 PM
hrm... okay, that sounds suspect. unless they're being facetious

Yeah, my bullshit meter went through the roof after that last post of theirs too ...

It'd been tingling right from the start with the OP's assumption that there would a huge difference between cis-women & transgender women.

Donkey
04-21-2014, 08:13 PM
Thank you Amber-

Most Tgirls have a very good sense of self, they have determined who they are not and are remaking themselves into their native self. Most are very genuine. I find tgirls judge mostly on character. You will do fine as yourself if you display confidence and compassion. As Amber noted, why should race matter.
You are so full of shit.

red-cyberman
04-22-2014, 02:41 AM
sometimes it does matter but just be yourself and don't care about any other opinion if you want something just do it. F**K everyone that hates on you.