regret because of not having sex and party in youth :(

[stiven]

Hi. I'm 27 years old and i never had sex. Its not because of my bad look, but because of my low selfconfidence since high scool. Years were flying by and here we are. 27 You will probably say go out and find somebody, but the problem is also those thaughts that are taking all my will to live away. I cant deal with the facts that i lost 12 years of my live and havent experienced nothing. Not going out into the club with friends in young years and party, no kissing, no sex, no one night stands, relationship, travelling. Because of that i dont feel competitive to girls that i like and i feel all are much better then me, on higher level and i'm not good enough for them and all of the people, because i havent alived so much then others, was almost all the time at home and work.

Its terrible if i go into the shopping center and see in 2 hours hundreds of women with which i would like to have sex and i know i didnt have such interesting past as them. Those thoughts are eating me up every single day, all day. I was also at therapist, but didnt help. Also i take antidepressants. But nothing cant take away the facts, that i'm not on same level as those girls who are having sex since , were on so many parties and so on. For them its normal to have a penis in their hands or mouth, for me this is science fiction and somebody who is 12 years behind in my opinion can never again be same worth as person who alived all those things in normal years (18-24). Sex is the highest thing in live and if you dont have it you havent lived. Therefor i dont know what to do, because there is no way out to feel the same worth as those people anymore, that have normal sex live since their high school. To be honest, the best would be this life would be over and i could sleep forever, to not have this fact thoughts every day...

[Ms.Stepford]

A good professional can get you studied up real quick, hon. ;-)

[Ms.Stepford]

Still, though, sex isn't as big a deal as people make it out to be, and most people suck at it. Sometimes I think that people get confused between what it actually is, and the hype that happens when it's used to market everything else.

It can be awesome, but the lack of it doesn't mean that you're worth less as a person. That's just what marketing people have led you to believe, when they promised it as the end result of every other acquisition.

You still have plenty of time to have fun, anyway. People are living lots longer these days.

Youth is also hyped up too much, also. I chew up young guys and spit them out for sport, but my best relationships have always been with older men who know who they are and what they're doing with themselves.

[Odelay]

Still, though, sex isn't as big a deal as people make it out to be, and most people suck at it. Sometimes I think that people get confused between what it actually is, and the hype that happens when it's used to market everything else.

It can be awesome, but the lack of it doesn't mean that you're worth less as a person. That's just what marketing people have led you to believe, when they promised it as the end result of every other acquisition.

You still have plenty of time to have fun, anyway. People are living lots longer these days.

Youth is also hyped up too much, also. I chew up young guys and spit them out for sport, but my best relationships have always been with older men who know who they are and what they're doing with themselves.

Insightful and true words, Ms Stepford.

Seriously, I had sex only twice up til the age of 29. In the 24 years since I've had a great and varied sex life. Not sure it if it's age related, but once I learned to stop worrying about it, I learned to appreciate it a lot more and became better at it, too. Funny how that works.

[TempestTS]

Most people that tell you how great and important sex is are just saying that because they have had to chase after it their entire lives and dont get that much so when they do its a big deal.

Its really not - ever wonder why older married couples dont have sex that much, its because they can have sex whenever they want and realized its not as big of a deal as they thought.

Take this example - have you ever had a Saltine Cracker? You know the kind you get with soup. Not that big of a deal right?

Now imagine you have been wandering the desert without food for a week and somebody give you a cracker - BEST GOD DAMN FUCKING CRACKER EVER... OMG you would give anything for another cracker, fuck balls this thing is great....

Sex if you havent had it in a while (or havent had it) = same thing - but most people dont eat crackers for every meal...

[lifeisfiction]

Most people that tell you how great and important sex is are just saying that because they have had to chase after it their entire lives and dont get that much so when they do its a big deal.

Its really not - ever wonder why older married couples dont have sex that much, its because they can have sex whenever they want and realized its not as big of a deal as they thought.

Take this example - have you ever had a Saltine Cracker? You know the kind you get with soup. Not that big of a deal right?

Now imagine you have been wandering the desert without food for a week and somebody give you a cracker - BEST GOD DAMN FUCKING CRACKER EVER... OMG you would give anything for another cracker, fuck balls this thing is great....

Sex if you havent had it in a while (or havent had it) = same thing - but most people dont eat crackers for every meal...

Honest words
(Don't forget there is such a thing as bad sex, sigh)

[stiven]

The thing is whatever i do, nothing helps. Its like when a murder or rappist comes out of prison, he is labeled for life because what he did. Its the same with me and sex is a normal thing. Kids with 14-18 have normal sex.

Women have so much more from life and are bigger then men. They can have it all at 18-20, experience much more sex and different partners then men. Also they can have much older men, but those men are still not higher then those women which are maybe just 18-20. It shows you women are more worth, because they can be more advanced at young age. Men dont have such choice. The famous proverb (i have a pussy, so i make rules) is actually very true :( We can never be on the same level as women. Also their bodies are much more beautiful then ours. Just look at girls in porn. They look good in every sexual act or position, even what somebody would find disgusting. And its the same with normal girls. 80% of women i see on pictures from parties look so perfect and are beautiful like art :/ So much higher then me.

Just look at twitter pictures little porn actress like Jodi Taylor, Katie St. Ives or Sarah Vandella for example post. In all position or situation they look amazing and like art. Even without make up. For me its perfect life what they have.

And i dont think sex is not a big deal. People leave their people because of it, cheat. Every women wants to get fucked like animal sometimes (just listen what porn stars say what they like in private life (i dont believe they all lie). Offcourse just sometimes probably, but still, its shows what we people want deep down in us. Those things we see in porn.

Serioulsy. You cant be on same level as somebody who was so advanced to experience sex and experimented at 18 and you still not at 27. Numbers/statistics are facts!

[TempestTS]

The thing is whatever i do, nothing helps. Its like when a murder or rappist comes out of prison, he is labeled for life because what he did. Its the same with me and sex is a normal thing. Kids with 14-18 have normal sex.

Women have so much more from life and are bigger then men. They can have it all at 18-20, experience much more sex and different partners then men. Also they can have much older men, but those men are still not higher then those women which are maybe just 18-20. It shows you women are more worth, because they can be more advanced at young age. Men dont have such choice. The famous proverb (i have a pussy, so i make rules) is actually very true :( We can never be on the same level as women. Also their bodies are much more beautiful then ours. Just look at girls in porn. They look good in every sexual act or position, even what somebody would find disgusting. And its the same with normal girls. 80% of women i see on pictures from parties look so perfect and are beautiful like art :/ So much higher then me.

Just look at twitter pictures little porn actress like Jodi Taylor, Katie St. Ives or Sarah Vandella for example post. In all position or situation they look amazing and like art. Even without make up. For me its perfect life what they have.

And i dont think sex is not a big deal. People leave their people because of it, cheat. Every women wants to get fucked like animal sometimes (just listen what porn stars say what they like in private life (i dont believe they all lie). Offcourse just sometimes probably, but still, its shows what we people want deep down in us. Those things we see in porn.

Serioulsy. You cant be on same level as somebody who was so advanced to experience sex and experimented at 18 and you still not at 27. Numbers/statistics are facts!

Your priorities and perspective is in my opinion drastically skewed

Porn is a FANTASY - no more real than giant robots and aliens in movies - nothing more. Its there to entertain and be enjoyed not as some kind of life lesson for how things are or how they should be. When you read about a porn star doing an interview what do you think they are trying to do with that interview... its not 20/20 or CNN interviewing them, the are still semi in character and are giving an interview to SELL MORE PORN. Thats how we make a living... our real lives just arnt that interesting and dont sell as well so what you see from us is exactly what we want to show the world. For some girls its more others its less... there is money in being open with our lives as well as mystique in keeping it private but with every successful person in the media - it is all calculated.

If you think that the amount of sex you have in your life makes any difference in the world at all I believe you are sadly mistaken - it does not.

On the growing likelihood that this thread by captain "TWO POSTS" is nothing but troll bait this will be my last comment on it

[stiven]

How can be porn a fantasy? Those are real girls from real life. Their bodies are experiencing sex. Somebody in real life is so happy to have this girls and can lick their bodies...

And i'm not a troll.

[rodinuk]

Yes your teenage time has gone, now is the time to stop looking back, turn around move on and look forward

Stop making statements about sex as if you're the authority on it because you're not and although the grass make look greener in everybody else's garden that is most certainly not the case.

There are millions of teenagers who don't have sex or relationships for a whole host of reasons. No one is higher (whatever that's supposed to mean) in terms of whether they have sex or not or how much etc. it's just your personal business. Sex is beset with its own problems it's not perfection either. Age has it's own rewards and whilst you may have missed out on the youthful sex you've plenty of years left in which to enjoy yourself provided you're gentle with yourself.

If it bothers you that much you might as well see an escort and get it out of your system but what you really need in life is a loving relationship...

Porn is a fantasy product sold for commercial gain, the actors are engaged in biological mechanical acts but it is just a job. Various computer image packages e.g Photoshop improve the look of photographs to the point of perfection but people in everyday life are real and we all have blemishes, imperfections thankfully.

[MrsKellyPierce]

lol!

[Rusty Eldora]

Tempest and Ms Stepford are right on, Kelly brings some humor, and the other posters have great points. Yes Porn is very plastic and fake, but yes done by real people. But portions of the sex industry could help you.

You are on a TS site, do you find yourself attracted to Tgirls? Or to GG's. Both. Anyone that will pay attention to you?

I take it your life circle does not include single females that you can become friends with. Do you have a decent job and have some spare cash? I think your problem is you do not know how to speak Venetian. I have know several that learned Venetian as an adult by doing the following:

First, find on Back Page or Eros, a Tantra massage provider that you like. Arrange for a massage session and talk to her as you are getting the massage. After 3 or 4 different sessions with at least 2 but preferably 3 different providers, progress up to more activity until you have the main event. Consider it hands on therapy, you will relax and get comfortable with a women's touch and talk. Nothing is for sure, but it will get easier in the dating world with this experience.

[Jdeere562]

Tempest and Ms Stepford are right on, Kelly brings some humor, and the other posters have great points. Yes Porn is very plastic and fake, but yes done by real people. But portions of the sex industry could help you.

You are on a TS site, do you find yourself attracted to Tgirls? Or to GG's. Both. Anyone that will pay attention to you?

I take it your life circle does not include single females that you can become friends with. Do you have a decent job and have some spare cash? I think your problem is you do not know how to speak Venetian. I have know several that learned Venetian as an adult by doing the following:

First, find on Back Page or Eros, a Tantra massage provider that you like. Arrange for a massage session and talk to her as you are getting the massage. After 3 or 4 different sessions with at least 2 but preferably 3 different providers, progress up to more activity until you have the main event. Consider it hands on therapy, you will relax and get comfortable with a women's touch and talk. Nothing is for sure, but it will get easier in the dating world with this experience.

I think the OP is attracted to cock, period. Nothing wrong with that either!

www.lpsg.com/370944-regret-because-of-not-having.html

[dderek123]

Sex is like air it's not important unless you aren't getting enough of it.

I think it helps to let go of your past. You aren't the accumulation of your life experiences. I know it's easier said than done but sometimes you just got to move on with your life. After I had my first experiences with TS I felt like I enjoyed it a lot. But i didn't feel different afterwards at all. It really didn't feel like a big deal which made think it was silly for feeling that way leading up to it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=_MZiu0popJQ#t=125

[Quiet Reflections]

Sex is the highest thing in live and if you dont have it you havent lived.
Being in an honest loving relationship built on trust is the highest thing in life. Sex is just an extra perk. Just wait until you meet someone that really compliments your life in almost every way, I promise you no drug or sex will make you feel as good as just being with that person. Your looks, stamina and tolerance for most things fade over time but a real connection lasts forever even if the relationship doesn't.

[Jericho]

Being in an honest loving relationship built on trust is the highest thing in life. Sex is just an extra perk. Just wait until you meet someone that really compliments your life in almost every way, I promise you no drug or sex will make you feel as good as just being with that person. Your looks, stamina and tolerance for most things fade over time but a real connection lasts forever even if the relationship doesn't.


QFT...Even if it does me puke! :shrug

[robertlouis]

QFT...Even if it does me puke! :shrug



Are you feeling unwell, old chap?

[danthepoetman]

Stiven, I think your problem is not sex; your problem is your OBSESSION with sex! You are so obsessed with it that you can't even live your life normally; you are so obsessed with it that you cannot seem to get to have some. And it's perfectly normal: how can you get to have something you put higher than paradise on a value scale? It's like trying to reach nirvana!
Listen, Stiven, just forget sex. Just simply forget about it. Stop thinking of it as something decisive, without which everything is worthless. Just stop thinking about it alltoghether, would you. Try this, just for a while. Trust me and do that.
As to girls, just be yourself, and try your best to build friendship with them, just the best friedships you can have with someone -and once again, without thinking about sex AT ALL. Just make female friends. Real friends. You can make friends, can you? Just get out and do that. When you get to have real friendship with one or more girl, the sex will come naturally -PROVIDING YOU DON'T THINK ABOUT IT, providing once again, that you stop thinking about it.
Just be yourself and enjoy life. Keep in mind that every thing that was told to you on this thread so far was said in good faith by people who do have sex. They're all right: it's not what you make of it at all. But anyways, it's not even the point. It is your very obsession with it that makes you unhappy. YOU CREATE YOUR OWN PROBLEM, here. Stop thinking about it, make friends, and the sex is something that will come naturally, in all probability.
:2cent

[Jericho]

Are you feeling unwell, old chap?

Think i was pulling a whitey! :shrug

[Prospero]

I think stiven is a troll..... i just don't buy it

[TempestTS]

I think stiven is a troll..... i just don't buy it

Either Troll or thick as a brick if he cant get it after this much advice...

Im voting troll especially after the denial

I wonder if Seanchai can add a "TROLL" vote button to the thumbs up thumbs down thing... now that would be awesome...

[francisfkudrow]

27? You act as if it is already over. Bah. It's time to experience some life instead of waiting until you really are old and then realizing you had plenty of time at 27. Take it from someone who frittered away their late 20's.

Uncomfortable with conventional dating? Have an escort or three. Try a dating site. Whatever. Just do something NOW.

[giovanni_hotel]

:joke:
I think the OP is attracted to cock, period. Nothing wrong with that either!

www.lpsg.com/370944-regret-because-of-not-having.html (http://www.lpsg.com/370944-regret-because-of-not-having.html)

Exact same post on LSPG.

Troll alert.:hide-1:

[stiven]

I'm not a troll. I just asked the question on a few forums to get different views. The panic attacs because of those thoughts are getting harder and harder and i needed to do something.

The problem is, sex or even girlfriend now would not help my problem/statist facts. I will not be a 18-20 year old regular guy who had a few cute girls in his youth because of what i do now or in the future. I will not be equal to the girls who alived so much things in their youth, even if just stupid things. Serioulsy. You cant be on same level as somebody who was so advanced to experience sex and experimented at 18, was so advanced that he could have a penis in his hands and mouth and you still not at 27. Numbers/statistics are facts!

[Quiet Reflections]

I'm not a troll. I just asked the question on a few forums to get different views. The panic attacs because of those thoughts are getting harder and harder and i needed to do something.

The problem is, sex or even girlfriend now would not help my problem/statist facts. I will not be a 18-20 year old regular guy who had a few cute girls in his youth because of what i do now or in the future. I will not be equal to the girls who alived so much things in their youth, even if just stupid things. Serioulsy. You cant be on same level as somebody who was so advanced to experience sex and experimented at 18, was so advanced that he could have a penis in his hands and mouth and you still not at 27. Numbers/statistics are facts!
So you are comparing yourself to a few girls that jo or blow a few guys behind the bleachers or in a movie theater. You seem to be hung up on this idea of experience but if you ever talked to a woman you would quickly find that 9 times out of 10 they regret the promiscuous ways of their youth(if they even had any) and draw little if any real sexual knowledge from those experiences. The majority of the things they go through are coerced and reluctantly performed sex acts to please a guy that will be on to the next girl in a few weeks. I don't know what level you think they are on but I would be willing to bet that most girl would rather be a 27 yo virgin than a girl that grew up way to fast. Sure you will meet people with few if any regrets but that is rare. AND the one thing nobody has mentioned yet is probably you biggest asset. You are inexperienced in the ways of sex and while that sucks in your mind, there are a ton of girls out there that would love to hear that and would immediately want teach you a thing or two. Your confidence level is the only level that you need to worry about because most sex especially young teen sex is bad sex and being a virgin gives you the best excuse in the world to not be great in bed and still get chance after chance to try again.

[yodajazz]

Hi. I'm 27 years old and i never had sex. Its not because of my bad look, but because of my low selfconfidence since high scool. Years were flying by and here we are. 27 You will probably say go out and find somebody, but the problem is also those thaughts that are taking all my will to live away. I cant deal with the facts that i lost 12 years of my live and havent experienced nothing. Not going out into the club with friends in young years and party, no kissing, no sex, no one night stands, relationship, travelling. Because of that i dont feel competitive to girls that i like and i feel all are much better then me, on higher level and i'm not good enough for them and all of the people, because i havent alived so much then others, was almost all the time at home and work.

Its terrible if i go into the shopping center and see in 2 hours hundreds of women with which i would like to have sex and i know i didnt have such interesting past as them. Those thoughts are eating me up every single day, all day. I was also at therapist, but didnt help. Also i take antidepressants. But nothing cant take away the facts, that i'm not on same level as those girls who are having sex since , were on so many parties and so on. For them its normal to have a penis in their hands or mouth, for me this is science fiction and somebody who is 12 years behind in my opinion can never again be same worth as person who alived all those things in normal years (18-24). Sex is the highest thing in live and if you dont have it you havent lived. Therefor i dont know what to do, because there is no way out to feel the same worth as those people anymore, that have normal sex live since their high school. To be honest, the best would be this life would be over and i could sleep forever, to not have this fact thoughts every day...

I have a lot of life experience. The older you get, your stock will rise. Women will seek you out. Someone that knows you will set you up. Men who have sex early, are more like to have issues with ex's, or children, etc. And dont worry about technique either. Just do what you feel. Your partner should let you know, if it works for her or not. Lastly, I remember feeling that my looks were average. But when I look back now on my old pics, I see myself as being good looking. What ever you looks, or personality, there is someone out there that likes you type. Tastes change with age, too. I think a most important thing is to not be too negative, in relating to others. Concentrate on positive things you love, or enjoy, and the rest will take care of itself. Love attracts love.

[rodinuk]

1) You're not commenting on or feedbacking on the multitude of good advice given to you in response to your plea for help and what you're going to do about it...

2) A man who walks backwards through life will see nothing of it until after it's passed him by

3) it isn't a bloody video game -- there are no levels



I'm not a troll....
The problem is, sex or even girlfriend now would not help my problem/statist facts. I will not be a 18-20 year old regular guy who had a few cute girls in his youth because of what i do now or in the future. I will not be equal to the girls who alived so much things in their youth, even if just stupid things. Serioulsy. You cant be on same level as somebody who was so advanced to experience sex and experimented at 18, was so advanced that he could have a penis in his hands and mouth and you still not at 27. Numbers/statistics are facts!

[danthepoetman]

1) You're not commenting on or feedbacking on the multitude of good advice given to you in response to your plea for help and what you're going to do about it...

2) A man who walks backwards through life will see nothing of it until after it's passed him by

3) it isn't a bloody video game -- there are no levels

Absolutely right: no matter how much people talk to you and try to help you, you don't seem to be able to listen and take anything into account. Read the posts, Stiven: everyone is giving you good advices.

[stiven]

Yes, thanks for all the advices. But you are all missing my point and main problem. I cant look on women as same human as myself (those who i find attractive). For me women body is art, in every pose (probably comes from porn and idealizing and wanting to lick their bodies all the time). And i cant come over this...and when i add that those beautiful bodies had so much fun and sex so far, there is no chance to feel the same worth.

[Ms.Stepford]

You're right. Women are better than you.

Now, down on your knees!

[bulldog]

Im 27 and in the same boat, never had sex once, never got past french kissin, single for 11 years now, HOWEVER, at the same time, you need to do a couple things, first and foremost, realize that the world of porn and the real world are ENTIRELY separate worlds. Yes those women are real, yes they have sex in their personal lives, but usually that doesnt define them in their personal lives, hell some of those women are smarter than the professors you had in school.

Second, while the temptation will always be there, you cannot let it drive you, yes I have temptation all the time, but at the same time I am not gonna allow it to control my life, I will live my life to the fullest and best of my ability and continue on my path and maybe, just maybe along the way Ill pick up a partner who is willing to not only share her and my life together, but also the intimacy Ive been missing.

Thirdly, I do have depression, I do have anxiety, I do have ADHD, yes they are issues, but I look at them as obstacles to overcome, not roadblocks that keep me stuck. Trust me, I have been dealing with depression since I was 7 yrs old (20 friggen years), I know what its like to get REALLY low, and get to the point where every woman you look at you automatically think, she is entirely too good for me, I got nothing on the other guys in her life, I can offer her practically nothing. Hell fucking no! Your a person, you can offer support, you can offer laughs, you can offer just about everything everyone else has to offer, you just don't see it in yourself.


And lastly, if this is just a post trolling that you aren't getting any sex and that's all you care about, go max out your bank account, trust me there are plenty of 18 yr old porn stars escorting right now all around the world that will be glad to give you the GFE.

[youngblood61]

Don't feel bad I was a virgin a longgggggggg Time. I was always shy around the ladies so I missed out on alot. Got married lost my virginity, had some good years then got divorced. Now I have a GF who I really dig and man do we bang. I get more sex now then at any time when I was younger.

[Tapatio]

There is a lot of butthurt in this thread. I'd like to say "it gets better" but it doesn't.

You can, though.

I wasn't a virgin for very long at all. My "firsts" were great.

But so was the last.

Just get out there. Stop fucking your head and find someone else to screw. If the problem is your outward appearance, be funny, be cool, be smart, or get rich.

Also a lot of nice thoughts in this thread. I especially like one I read from Bulldog about being down on yourself. Imma quote that shit later.

Any bets on OPs native tongue?

[Tapatio]

Now, down on your knees!

*waiting*

[Infern0]

You are 27, not exactly "over the hill"

Stop fixating on the fact you haven't had sex, get out there and meet people.

One thing that DOES help, get in shape. Trust me if you have a good body, are clean and well dressed, go to a bar and you WILL pull, if you are in shape, there's plenty of easy girls out there who just want a decent looking guy to take home for the night, but if you are like fat and look like a tramp obviously you'll have no hope

If you stop worrying about it, it'll make things a lot easier. When the time comes make sure both of you have had a few drinks and just go with it, at least you aren't 15 so i don't reckon you will insta-nut or anyhing like that